I want to wear bikinis and sexy clothes but I'm so scared, shy, timid, and anxious. How can I break being this way and do it?

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Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

I don't understand you at all.
If you are naturally shy, bashful why are you wanting to fight your natural modest way you must dress now to try and act like every other loose woman in this society?

It actually is ok... and 100% normal to be sexy... when you are going to have SEX.
You don't have to be sexy when going swimming, sexy when you go to the grocery, sexy when you go out to eat, sexy when you are sitting at your job, sexy when you walk down the street.

Maybe the bill of goods that this culture is feeding you... that a woman must walk around with her body hanging out at almost all times... being non stop sexual and sexy in every mundane task, showing her body off for every man she is ever around... is just a load of crap.

What is wrong with being elegant and classic and cute without having to always be sexual and sexy? If you aren't having sex at that moment why are you concerned with being sexy and have having 90/95% of your body hanging out naked?

Where did this thought/urge/impulse come from? Just from watching all the other women in this society/culture?

libsaretards · Accepted Answer

Just remember that clothes are clothes and the way anyone rocks an outfit is by wearing something that makes them feel true to themselves. If you are nervous about wearing revealing clothes, maybe there is an insecurity about yourself you need to address. Just remind yourself that you automatically look better than half the human population and you should start to feel better.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Layering.

For fall clothes, you can wear a tiny leather bralette over a skin tight shirt (any color). Feel free to wear any pants or mini skirt with matching tights.

For summer, wear your tiny bikini and wear a 'sheer' or crocket cover up. You know you're wearing it, everyone can see your body without it being overt.

designer1 · Accepted Answer

By changing the way you think. I am the same way when I want to wear bathing suits and such. You have to focus on what makes you happy and wear it for yourself. If you wear it focusing on what others might think, you will never stop being anxious.

Bdsmaster · Answer

Try wearing bikini or sexy clothes in front of people you are comfortable with it can your female best friend or anyone for that matter, that way you will start developing a positive image about your body and gain confidence luv, after that you can take it step by step and grow more comfortable wearing sexy clothes.

Spookydood · Answer

Try starting out in private. See if you enjoy wearing it, then maybe show a close friend or something. Then once you've done that you'll have worked up some nerve toward trying it in public or whatever

RobT312 · Answer

Wear a bikini to the beach. You may be nervous at first , but you will feel great once you do it and prob. never worry again. I felt weird wearing a speedo in front of my friends for the first time, now I don’t!

molonski2 · Answer

Simply start by wearing less and less , parade around on you own , start to gather confidence , keep exercising so you are happy with you body , you'll slowly come out of it , and you'll have them following around drooling :)

GO TO IT !

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

The sexiest thing a woman can do is not be like everyone else and refrain from showing too much skin. You don't have to show off skin in order to be empowered, confident, and sexy.

ArthurStew232 · Answer

Honestly practice and exposing yourself to the situation is the only way you'll become used to it.

Maybe try wearing a bikini on holiday where noone knows you?

Are uou afraid of people looking? Or are you scared that because its a bit skimpy it might slip or fall off?

cdrake66 · Answer

You have to step out of your box.. Start small and go from there. U will get positive comments and that will give your self esteem a boost.
Don't wait too long like i did.
Your body doesn't stay the same and soon certain styles will be considered to young for u to wear

shaggy_dom · Answer

Try them on in private and take some candid pics then post them on a rate my pic site. You might be surprised by people's reactions! And you could use the information to choose the best outfit to wear!

NicolaJ35 · Answer

How about you get one of your close friends/girlfriends over to your place?
Wear a bikini or sexy clothes along with her
She could even do the same
Then, if you do it a few times you should start to gain more confidence

chrissykerdock · Answer

just do it i wore nothing on a nude beach it helped that all heads looked my way and 1/2 of them were women... you get used to it really fast

wankiam · Answer

go to the beach with a group of female friends... that may help get over it

exitseven · Answer

Wear a sweatshirt over your bikini. Only take it off when you go in the water. Then leave the sweatshirt off for longer periods of time. You will get used to just the bikini.

soe11 · Answer

First you wear it home all day, do not care anyone visiting your house. After fewer attempts then wear it in public.  If your social drinker then, before going out take few shots make you warmed up.

Andres77 · Answer

Go to a nude beach.
Walk around naked for just two minutes... then put your bikini on and you'll feel so relieved to be wearing so much clothing at last...😉.
And please tell when and where the nude beach is... so we can show support...🙄

NoOneEver · Answer

Listen to Jimmy Eat World’s - The Middle on a loop into the gravity sinks in that you should be yourself and do what makes you happy no matter what that is.

Somegirl408 · Answer

im not sure if u will get over it, like if ur a grown woman and u dont feel comfortable in a bikini its unlikely u ever will

dreamstar72 · Answer

Go to a nude beach a few times and look around.  Now when go to a regular beach you will have no problem blending in with your sexy bikini.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Wear the clothes around your house and get accustomed to seeing your body dressed that way in the mirror.

Wise4myage · Answer

Try wearing them around the house or when you have friends over for the time being, and see if that helps you get over your shyness.

KellyKOO · Answer

You can start by taking small steps in gradually wearing "sexier" clothes to help build your confidence.

Morgador · Answer

Sometimes a beach that is very busy and every girl is wearing skimpy bikinis, it's easier because you just bend in and you will build your confidence in yourself

linda86 · Answer

if you have shape is normal all guys will love it. Only jealous girls will frown.

Anonymous · Answer

Sexy doesn't have to be revleaing, start with some leather pants... do you own any?

nawtee_me · Answer

Start by wearing them around the house where you are comfortable. share a few pics to help get you out of your comfort zone and expand it. I wouldn't mind helping you with that... ;)

blended_ninja · Answer

It depends on why you're wearing them. Is it for a more public or private setting?

Neilbud · Answer

Find a good, supportive group of friends and go to the swimming pool or beach together. With people you trust will help you get over your fear.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes, you just need to take a leap of faith. Try wearing one without giving in to your shyness. Go out alone on a safe place, like a mall.

Zlantur2 · Answer

Wear less and less clothes. It's like working out, getting accustomed to change. The more you show and the more compliments/flirting you get the more you will feel comfortable to wear sexier outfits.

Alexa99 · Answer

Just go rip that Band-Aid off. Best way to do so I believe.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Your gonna have to go a bit outside your comfort zone otherwise nothing will change.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to get used to being seen naked by as many people as possible. Start putting out for every guy who shows intererest. Pretty soon being seen in a bikini will be nothing to you.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe when the compliments start rolling in when you wear a bikini in front of friends

jimmy2 · Answer

Do it dear you are fine you want go break that mold

Anonymous · Answer

What is your reasoning for wanting to wear sexy clothes and bikinis and show your body to everyone?

chriscdi · Answer

By doing it anyways I think

Manchild2018 · Answer

Take a lot of nude pics and send them to us guys.

jasco · Answer

by coming out of your comfortable zone

lorenzomichael · Answer

Get a little drunk and you'll figure it out.

Iron_Man · Answer

Just wear the bikini to the beach

YoMan1 · Answer

Remember we are on a floating rock in space.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Go for it don't think just do only young once

musicloverr8 · Answer

Just do it

Anonymous · Answer

Wear it around house for begining

Glasgow55 · Answer

Just do it!

Julious0202 · Answer

just dont

Jouth · Answer

just be sexy

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