Do you think that in order for your personality to matter, you have to be physically attractive first?

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WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Oh, yes, definitely

I have to find my partner physically attractive. If I don’t find them attractive, how in the world can I form an emotional connection with them? I want chemistry and passion in my relationship.

Anyone who says “looks don’t matter, only personality does” is lying through their teeth.

I don’t necessarily have to find my friends attractive in order to be friends with them. . . that would be shallow and its just not me.

However, let’s take this scenario - I’m going pit with this guy called Will. He is a good looking guy with a good body. I find him very attractive. Our chemistry is also impeccable … but his personality? Worse than filth. He treats waiters with disrespect, looks down upon people who are poorer than him etc. Could I be in a relationship with such a man? Definitely not.

I would rather be with someone who’s a 6 and has a wonderful personality than someone who’s a 9 and has a horrendous personality. I should be somewhat attracted to you, to date you.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

If i saw them before hearing them, yes. For example, if a guy approaches me in person, I’m first looking at how he looks then secondly at how he went about the approach. If he still appeals to me then I’ll get to know him more, hence his personality. In this case, The looks are the first impression and the personality determines if he's a keeper. Now lets say if he was some anon on here. Im looking at his personality first. I could fall for it. But once we see eachother, if i dont like what I see then i dont really care to keep getting to know the personality. So yea looks were not the first impression in that case but they were the “lasting” impression. Looks matter

UniquelyBasic · Accepted Answer

Well, you know you're attracted to someone physically within seconds of looking at them first, unless you meet online without seeing eachother and only getting to know eachother by personality. Not saying a woman needs to have the stereotypical body thats in magazines or in porn but I need and want to be attracted to my partner.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

For women,100%, absolutely. Women claim to like "personality" but that means f*ck-all if you're not at least a 7 out of 10. If not, the Friendzone wouldn't exist.

Do you think that in order for your personality to matter, you have to be physically attractive first?

For myself? No. My personality is the one thing I can actually control and change for the better.

jasco · Answer

Yes I do, no matter what anyone says. Physical attraction does matter and regardless of how good of a person you are. If you aren't attractive physically, no one is gonna be with you

exitseven · Answer

I met a girl who was just average in the looks department. Most guys would not have looked twice at her. We became friends but she was really quirky and different. I always liked hanging out with her and after a while I started to fall in love with her. I think she actually looked better to me.

Counterclocking · Answer

I hate when people say looks don’t matter at all. Looks do matter. They’re just not everything. When you have a good personality and are good looking, your good looks are icing on the cake. A cake does taste better with icing.

queenofconvo · Answer

No not really. Beauty isn't as important as people say it is. Cuz I know beautiful people with no personality and I know unattractive people with great personalities.

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

Honestly I'd say no. But your physical attraction does draw individuals towards you but then again if a person is watching you then they will see some parts of your personality and still be drawn towards you

Adam1978 · Answer

You need both, personality will only get you into the friendzone. It will never be enough to beat bad looks.

vanessadaniellet · Answer

For women i feel like you need to be attractive before a man will give you the time or day to talk.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it matters. Personality doesn't mean a single thing unless you're attractive. I see a lot of really nice people out there who struggle to get dates because they're ugly but scumbags who are hot have no problem attracting people because they're hot despite being a shitty person. Its superficial and most people are afraid to admit it.

HighValue · Answer

Of course because they won't talk to you and get to know your personality unless they are at least somewhat attracted to you in the first place.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

Depends on what for but generally yes.  Halo effect?

Dinklex3 · Answer

For friends? No. For significant others, of course.

Anonymous · Answer

Your personality doesn’t change whether you’re attractive or not. If you have a terrible attitude, then you’re looks mean nothing really (especially in terms of being friends)

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Not necessarily. I'm ugly as sin and manage to make my personality matter.

Anonymous · Answer

I use money to get women. So I wouldn't know. I am tall and in shape. I pay for it. And fly out the country. Not that expensive

Anonymous · Answer

Personality and your attitude means everything.

malwins · Answer

Am i goodlooking enough

Chiarac2003 · Answer

No. I do not.

moonpie89 · Answer

It is for me.

CloudMassacre · Answer

I don’t

MrJMM · Answer

Nope.

In_Trance · Answer

Yeah

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