Does personality matter more than looks?

[coachTanthony]

Yup

Nope

[Rei13]

Personality is more important than looks, especially when you’re looking at a long term partner and not a fling, however looks are important too. You have to be physically attracted to the person you’re with. So really it is having both.

[mandyfire98]

Looks might be the first thing that catches your eye but personality seals the deal.

[Finchie40]

Attraction matters as well but what makes someone more attractive is their personality, just because someone looks good on the outside it doesn’t mean they are good in the inside , the heart is what really matters and the chemistry and connection and compatibility you both share with each other is what matters. Without that you really don’t have anything with someone

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

This question always stumped me because a lot of the way that I deduce the personality of a woman is by looking at her: her facial expression, body language, the fitness or lack thereof in her body, her sense of fashion, etc.

Also talking to her, the tone of her voice, things of this nature.

So I never really understood this question. I voted for personality but a lot of the way I deduce personality is through looks since I'm a very visually-oriented person coming from a visual arts background. I trust what my eyes tell me about a person almost as much as what that person says to me.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

If the question is like body vs. mind, that makes more sense to me. I would prioritize mind or mental health in that case over physical health, since it's more difficult typically to repair an unhealthy mind than it is to repair an unhealthy body.

[Dongie]

I get you. These things are the beauty of the inside.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie I actually wouldn't go that far. For example, I'm allergic to resting bitch face because even if the woman's personality is so positive and cheerful, the fact that she's outwardly frowning all the time deceives my eyes into thinking she's not and an overall grumpy person. So that's a misread of her personality yet, even knowing it's a misread, I'm still repelled by it since I go by what I can read.

[Dongie]

In the sense that a mediocre looking lady has the attitude of sweetness and joy, taking care to be attentive speaks if her beautiful heart.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie For sure, but I judge a lot of things visually. So let's say there is someone considered very conventionally attractive like a supermodel, but she has RBF. Then let's say there's another woman who looks rather average, but she's bubbly and smiling and her face always looks like a bundle of joy. The second woman will actually be better-looking to me just purely judging by the visual.

[Dongie]

I thought I just said that. 🤯

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie Oh, I may have misunderstood. There's an ambiguity as I see it in what "looks" means to me, since I find worse-looking women better-looking than better-looking women, if the worse-looking women have better-looking expressions of their personalities.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie Or another way I see it is that a woman with a better-looking expression of her worse personality is still better-looking to me than a woman with a worse-looking expression of her better personality.

[Dongie]

I understand exactly where you're coming from. I love those kind of sweet women. Salt if the earth, motherly towards all.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie What if such a woman has resting bitch face though? For me, that would be a problem with the beauty being expressed on the outside.

[Dongie]

Yeah, gotta say I never heard that term but I think I know what you're saying. So that would break the spell of enchantment.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie For me, it would. Just hypothetically, let's say a woman with the most amazing personality in the world, so kind, so hard-working, so intelligent, so enthusiastic, so well-balanced between assertive and agreeable, etc, existed *but* she always looks upset even though she's not, and she always sounds angry when she speaks even though she's not, and she smells horrible even though she has good hygiene, and she dresses like a hooker even though she's deeply monogamous, and she has tourettes and curses all the time even though she doesn't mean to, then I could not be attracted to her since all my senses and interpretation of her actions tells me she has a horrible personality even if she doesn't. And even if I knew she doesn't on some deeper level, I couldn't help but constantly be internally conflicted by all my senses telling me the opposite.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie But that's still valuing what appears to be her personality more than just how she looks to me. It's just that her personality appears to be horrible in this case even if it's not.

[Dongie]

Well now I feel I have to help the poor wretch. She's obviously stressed to maximum. Work, kids, a drunk for a husband and a chain smoking habit.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dongie Noble man! 🤝

[Dongie]

You paint a very clear picture. The lady was in a diner.

[electromagnetic]

I will say what most will try to lie about.
Looks matter more than personally. So many guys (and girls) get placed on the side because they aren’t cutting it in the eyes of the people they are seeking. I myself am guilty.
They can have a personally that shines like the sun, nurtures like soil and hydrates the soul like rain but if they look like a ragweed instead of a rose..

[Chthou95]

There's nothing wrong with that. That's natural and you're human. Human's are hardwired to go after good looking people

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Ykw in reality,
Both matter to be honest, looks will draw you in but personality will keep you there. So really its a mixture of both, as some people may be beautiful to look at, but their personality sucks. Then there may be an average person out there who has a great personality and that makes them beautiful💕

[AmyHew1tt]

I don't know if it matters more, but it is a dealbreaker. Like, I wouldn't date a guy who only has a good personality and no looks. But even if he was gorgeous, if he had a horrible personality, I would step away. Personality can add to looks, or take from it, for me.

[Tractorguy13]

Does personality matter more than looks? No, absolutely not. While personality will shine brighter as time goes on in reality they are both equally important at the beginning.

Someone can be hot as hell and if their personality is shit you will lose interest fast. The same goes for an ugly person with a great personality. In reality we are looking for a mesh of the two, how the bars are set is up to us.

[7Phoenix7]

Definitely, it's like going to a fancy restaurant. Sure, it looks nice and all that, but does the food taste as good as it looks?

[NathanDavis]

to me personally, yes...

always has been like that

matters, more... though

[JacobJordan]

Absolutely. A woman could be the most beautiful woman on earth physical but if she is a total bitch she is the ugliest person alive. Looks do matter don't get me wrong but if you have to choose between looks and personality pick personality as the more important trait.

[sawno]

Initially no, long term absolutely. And this isn't just in people.
If there are two products that do the same thing and one has a way better design that's the one people will think is the most premium product. But if the product ultimately is lackluster compared to the worse looking model you would rather get the one with better features.

[QuickToAsk]

Yes, because we've all been with good-looking people that annoyed us. Knowing how that feels, many of us would trade the good looks in for a non stubborn/non jerk person in a heartbeat -- Oops! What I meant to say was: It's what's on the inside that counts.👍

[Miristheiss]

It is pretty close to 50/50. You need both. Shared values more than personality but you do have to enjoy their company. Attraction is also very important. If you don't find them attractive then a friend is all that personality is going to get them.

[dolemite58]

A good personality compliments good looks but looks are still a bit more important it’s sad bud true. A girl could be the coolest/nicest girl in the world but if I don’t find her physically attractive then it wouldn’t matter.

[Apple1996]

Personality is the only important thing. Looks mean nothing for long term relationships

[moneymagnet24]

Looks fade
Personality grow

[Apple1996]

@moneymagnet24 exactly

[moneymagnet24]

That's the reason no matter how chubby you're ,
You're still my favourite 😘

[Apple1996]

@moneymagnet24 awh you are too sweet

[SherwoodGladiator]

This gotta be one of the most-asked questions of the site

[exitseven]

Looks do matter but if you are a rotten person, after a while I would get sick of you

[handsomelad70]

Yes, but a plain woman would need a GREAT personality to interest me rather than a hot. buxom woman.

[Chthou95]

No lol. They both matter but looks are the entry fee for everything else to come into play. If the looks don't meet the criteria, the other stuff won't matter. This is how human beings work

[tzdc21]

I mean it's right up there with looks. The looks get you through the door, but the personality keeps you there.

[msc545]

For women, men's looks and wealth are far important than personality.

[Apple1996]

Some of us women prefer broke ugly men 😌

[msc545]

@Apple1996 sure you do, but that is so you can use and abuse them.

[Apple1996]

Nope its so I can love them for who they are

[msc545]

@Apple1996 Bullshit.

[Peridot25]

I don’t even approach men. I stay indoors and don’t even meet with men. Whatcha talking about? 😂