When are looks more important than personality?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They should never be. If someone is good looking but they’re dumb then they instantly become ugly to me. For me it is in the following order:

1. Good heart, meaning they have integrity and empathy.

2. Intelligence. I can’t be with someone who isn’t on the same wavelength as me or someone who is happy to remain ignorant. They have to be as curious as me and possess as inquisitive a mind as me and have a thirst for knowledge.

3. Physical Attraction. This is subjective and everyone has their own tastes. Your 0 could be my 10 and my 10 could be your 0 but for me it is important that I am physically completely attracted to the person.

I can’t really be completely attracted if the other things aren’t met because I have to be able to trust the guy with my life and for that he’s got to be a good person. So physical attraction is somewhat important but that isn’t always what is conventionally attractive like Penelope Cruz or Salma Hayek. Some men are only into BBW women and some women are only into very short men. We all have our individual tastes.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Of course not. It is just the opposite.

Personality is a combination of multiple factors such as character, intellect and a few others while looks are solely one single component.

Looks are also very subjective but personality has a much broader scope.

Those that go solely for looks are very superficial people because they let themselves be fooled by an unimportant aspect of a person while dismissing the much more important one.

Check what looks will do to a person in 50 years from now compared to personality. Looks will have faded away but personality will remain.

Novacane · Accepted Answer

Looks are the most if not almost the most important thing. Yeah I agree the personality is the most important aspect but as people say looks get you to the door, if that person doesn't have the looks then they will never reach the door, they would never have the opportunity to show you their personality, therefore personality is important. I am not saying that the person has to be the most beautiful looking person but you need to find them attractive before you decide to pursue anything. Personality won't matter if you don't find them attractive because you won't give them the time of day.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

Looks are important in the sense that people need to show that they have respect for their bodies. My father used to say that when you first go out with a girl you should check out her teeth. If she has bad teeth she probably doesn't take good care of her self. If she doesn't take good care of herself she probably won't take good care of you.
I think however that personality is more important than looks. If a girl is funny and kind I would probably want to spend time with her and get to know her better. If she is mean or spoiled I lose interest pretty quick.

mistixs · Answer

For me, they never are. I assume that people who are interested in no-strings-attached casual sex might say looks are more important in that case. Personally I don't believe in having sex with someone with whom you wouldn't be happy to raise a child if your birth control fails. That's just my personal preference.

Even beyond that, there are other risks that people interested in NSA casual sex should consider. Having sex with someone with a bad personality, just because they're hot, isn't a good idea.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Presumably for hookups where they expect not to see the person again. Then only the body matters. ? (And a basic modicum of decency and safety with them.)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

In relationships, looks are nor MORE important that personality. However, a romantic relationship requires physical attraction; without that, there is no romance.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

For me it is in the beginning of dating or after I’ve learned to appreciate his personality.

itz_meraa · Answer

I mean looks are what get your attention... no offense but if someone doesn't catch your eyes, you wouldn't go up to them. like let's be honest here looks were what got you interested, you can say you like someone for their personality but something ab their appearance caught your attention in the first place.

HiveBee · Answer

I dont care how amazing a girl is. If she's hideous and obese, it's never going to happen. Period. So looks are more important up to a point.

I'm perfectly happy with an average looking girl. Maybe even one below average. But there is definitely a lower limit.

And that is where looks matter more than personality or who she is. Once a girl reaches a certain threshold in looks, then the rest of her traits matter.

Deimy · Answer

When they are boring. For me is more important that a guy would be funny and charismatic. My first love was an average looking guy and many my friends said he is not handsome. For me he was the hottest cause I loved his funny jokes, how he can be so shy around me. When you meet your true love, the thing that you see firstly is not his beauty. You see him/her by heart, you feel it.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

If someone just wants a one-night-stand or a friends with benefits relationship.

When it comes to a serious relationship , I think both are important. A person's appearance initially attracts someone, but their personality determines if a relationship develops or not

MissDawn7961 · Answer

in my opinion , it starts with looks but if after a while this opposite sex , ugly person shows an N terest N U and the R available then go out with them ! doing this U can C for yourself exactly what they R all about ! they could B ugly as sin but sweet and caring more then they R ugly ! so 1 shoud get to know them by their heart and not just on looks alone ! thanks

Secret6620 · Answer

When in a profession like modeling.

You could have a great personality but if you can't fit their test items, walk the runway or give them "the look" they could care less.

So I think the type of profession is when this may be the case. Great question!

VanillaSalt · Answer

Yes. A man or woman god looking with shot personality can get dates only a woman can look bad and reasonably expect to get dates. Ugly men with bad personalities but lots of money will have women hanging on them. The wrong kind but still gonna be having women.

TheorionMage · Answer

Appearance is atavistically 'inspirational'... to motivate "doing the deed'
(DESPITE whiny Feminist bullshit) its ALWAYS been a MUTUAL contest 'power trip'~
"Will he/she? Won't he/she? BOTH succumbing to animal DESIRE.
Personality comes into the equation, once the pounding, grunting and sweating subsides---

"Was it GOOD for You?"
DO YOU CARE if... it was 'good' for them?

Citizenkirk · Answer

You need too see beyond the flesh. Into the soul.

Browneye57 · Answer

Looks - for that's what creates attraction in the first place, and THEN there needs to be a conversation.

You better get the looks thing right, cuz if you marry her you'll wake up to that mug for the rest of your life. It better look fukkin good to you. LOL WITHOUT MAKEUP.

There's a thing called 'natural beauty'. Some women have it, some women are doctored up to LOOK like they have it. Beware.

Chris_here · Answer

I take personality over looks, I seen great looking girls that are mean to others, some drink all the time, and some brag about their struggles on social media a lot, those are red flags for me, you dont have to be smoking hot as long as you're a good person, call me corny but no matter how pretty you are, if your personality is ugly, your looks dont matter

bobalife · Answer

Eazy, when I just want a hawt night of fun... but that’s not what I’m looking for. Good personality is a must for dating & relationships! Good looks doesn’t gravitate me to wanna talk to a guy who is boring, not kind, and doesn’t excite me.

TayTay21 · Answer

Both always count. A guy who looks amazing with no personality is dead to me. So is a guy with amazing personality who's 5' tall and 6' wide.

Alpha09 · Answer

Hookups. They gotta know basic respect though, nothing extra. The bottom of the barrel is still the bottom of the barrel if they act out of line. Attractive or not.

Unit1 · Answer

Looks are  always  important. Remember that.  only a handful of individuals truly don't care about looks but i wouldn't take such a chance. Besides, who enjoys being ugly?

BackAgain602 · Answer

For me, a handsome man would catch my eye, but his personality is what will catch my heart. I can't stay with someone with a mean, unhappy personality.

Ally247 · Answer

They aren't. Personality will always be more important. That doesn't mean looks don't matter at all, there needs to be some attraction.

Daviddd5412 · Answer

Personality is always more important than looks for me.

Daniela1982 · Answer

When you are a model or an actress. Neither has to show their personality when they are on a runway or before a camera.

BCA6010 · Answer

For me, never. The only time I can think of otherwise would be for somebody who is solely out for hookups.

Screenwriter · Answer

When you're making your living as a clothing model.

FunTastyLady · Answer

I think looks peek someone's curiosity but personality and chemistry keep it.

melnc · Answer

Only in the first impression. The rest... you'll figure that out.

Minahh · Answer

Never to me. I can't really imagine dating a guy who is 10/10 personality wise but he is a total douchebag but I see myself dating someone who is like 6/10 but he has an amazing personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Shallow insecure children think looks matter. There's a reason why they're children trapped in adult bodies

NathanDavis · Answer

when you're an extra in the movies, you just have to look the part, that's all

IveGotNoName · Answer

Right up to the point where you open your mouth and actually talk to them.

JSmuve · Answer

When you're looking for a short fling to brag to your friends about how you fucked a hottie on your spring break

Kaneki05 · Answer

1 night stand?  paying for sexual services?  That's about it.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Since hollywood became a thing, like 100 years or so.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Never... looks fade, personality stays around until death.

Anonymous · Answer

They never are to me. Looks get you to the door, but your personality is what gets you the invite inside.

Juxtapose · Answer

For romantic relationships, both are mandatory. If looks don't matter, everyone would be bisexual.

_no_one_ · Answer

When everyone around or approachable has a shit personality.

Dsg1193 · Answer

Both are important. But when it comes to intimacy, looks are what will drive it more

K-I-S-S · Answer

Always in the beginning, to make the first move. Later not so much.

misanthropistkev · Answer

When she’s a total bitch or boring especially boring  if your a boring female you need to make a Victoria secret model look like Roseanne

InferiorElegy · Answer

If you're a zero in looks, than looks don't matter but anyone higher than that is always trying to get with someone for their looks.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

When they look unhealthy, unhygienic and when they dresses in appropriately which also reflects who they are despite their personality.

Asianguy123 · Answer

looks have a lot of advantages. they can be important on TV commercials, and sex work. but a lot of good looking people are also discriminated because ordinary people don't like them.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't think I can think of any scenario where they would be.

Teenybop · Answer

They aren’t. Anyone who thinks differently are shallow themselves.

bulletbob555 · Answer

Looks are what attracts you and personality makes you stay

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Most people aren't interested in your personality if your look isn't appealing for them

jasco · Answer

When traveling around with other people, show and tell, meeting the family

Alexa703 · Answer

When they have no personality I guess. I. Couldn’t be with someone who doesn’t have one.

dragoblack · Answer

Never, technically. But there is a balance especially when it comes to romance

themythos · Answer

When we first meet looks are more important. How you present yourself is important

Anonymous · Answer

Looks attract people to each other, personality, Integrity and character keeps them interested.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Personality always wins.

Coulis · Answer

Casting calls for fashion shoots.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

When you are stone drunk.

MCheetah · Answer

When your personality is a 1, like Amber Heard.

Sia_nee · Answer

When I don't know their personality.

thimmslicc · Answer

When the personality meshes along with it well.

Avicenna · Answer

in a relationship? Never

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