How to not look less serious?

[Anonymous]

I look serious. I didn't know that I look serious until I started going to college and realised that people were avoiding me. Later my classmates revealed that they were intimidated by my appearance and thought that I only cared about studies and nothing else. Now I'm a PhD scholar and anyone can see that looking at my face. Most of the times people I meet already assume this about me even before I can introduce myself. According to people, I only care about important, intellectual stuff and there's no space for lighthearted nonchalance in my life.

I don't wear glasses (glasses often form this stereotype). However, due to cultural reasons and due to my rural upbringing I do have to dress more modestly (my neck, face, head, lower arms and palm remain visible) and I am very introverted as well.

My appearance makes me much less approachable and often people assume that I'm rude and snobbish. Are there ways that would make me look friendlier and nicer and not so serious?

Thanks in advance!

[AI Opinion]

It's great that you're self-aware and considering ways to appear more approachable! Smiling more often can work wonders, as it sends signals of warmth and friendliness. You might also consider using open body language, like uncrossing your arms, to appear more welcoming. Adding pops of color to your wardrobe, perhaps through accessories, can also soften your look. Engaging in small talk or light conversation starters can help break the ice, letting people know you're open and friendly. Remember, it's not just about looks; kindness and openness are key to how people perceive you! 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get what you're going through, girl. It sucks when people make assumptions about you just based on how you look. Just because you have a serious or reserved demeanor doesn't mean you don't have a fun, lighthearted side too.

The good news is, there are some things you can try to come across as a bit more approachable and friendly:

- Try smiling more, even if it feels unnatural at first. A warm, genuine smile can go a long way in making you seem more inviting.

- Make an effort to make eye contact and engage in conversation. Ask questions, be an active listener. That shows you're interested in connecting.

- Consider adding some subtle pops of color or personality to your outfits. Maybe a fun scarf, some statement jewelry, or a bright bag. Little touches like that can soften your look.

- Work on your body language - try to have an open, relaxed posture instead of crossed arms or a stiff stance.

- Make time for hobbies and activities outside of work/school. Share those interests when you meet new people.

The key is finding little ways to let your warm, friendly side shine through, without compromising your personal style or values. It may take some practice, but I bet if you make the effort, people will start seeing you as much more approachable.

Just remember, there's nothing wrong with being an introverted, serious person. Own that part of yourself! But adding a few subtle friendly touches can make a big difference in how others perceive you. You got this, girl!