How can I stop being so bitter and jealous of gorgeous and stunning women?

[Anonymous]

I was always a chubby girl. Never at a healthy or fit person or even slim. Fat. When I see naturally slim women, I get jealous. If I see prettier women than me, I get jealous. I hear men or women calling some actresses “drop dead gorgeous” “stunning” “hot” “bombshell” or “babe”.

I have NEVER been called those names, NEVER!! Even my own parents never called me gorgeous. They’ve called my some of cousins gorgeous. I get jealous or envious of that. Me, I just get called pretty or alright. I’m still chubby but I have a curvy shape. I am gap tooth, heavy, 220lbs and tall at 5’9.” I was the girl that had some guys as friends but never the one they want to date. Guys that like me never like me back. Two guys liked me back but that was back in high school (chubby guys). I have two friends (one is thin and the other is thick but both curvy and in shape shorter than me (5’5 and 5’2) and they get hit on. I get ignored. Even when I dress sexy. I don’t think I’ll ever be a gorgeous woman. Some cute guys only talk to me to get to my more attractive friends. Actresses like Jenna Ortega, Sofia Vegara, Jennifer Lopez, Carrie Underwood, Victoria Justice (super jealous of) and whoever……they are STUNNING!
My large thick frames ass will never be as thin as Jenna Ortega and my doctor said 185 to 180 is healthy for me. I want to get down to 155-135lbs but she said that’s too skinny and my body isn’t built and I’m not petite (I will NEVER EVER BE). I work out and eat right but the weight won’t go AWAY! I’m just going to have to accept that I will never be a babe, gorgeous or fit.

Updates

11 mo

I’m super jealous of naturally slim women and some guys drooling on them. My fat ass gets ignored but creeps and older men like me. I’m 26!

[Anonymous]

Comparison is the Thief of Joy. Embrace who you are and all your flaws. If you can't accept how you look, then you need to change it. Workout more and get a nutritionist if you don't already have one. You can get down to the size you want to be, you just need to work harder at it.

But before you do any of that, you need to start loving who you are as you are. Also, remember that all of them are going to get old one day and not look like that. Do you want to spend the rest of your life envying others or do you want to live your life as free and happy as possible?

[Nikki1989]

Invest in yourself!

Direct the energy you spend comparing yourself to others into improving yourself in ways that genuinely make you feel good.

[AI Opinion]

I definitely hear you, and it's not uncommon to feel this way in a world that often sets unrealistic standards of beauty. It’s important to remember that everyone’s beauty is unique, and what truly matters is how you feel about yourself. Embrace your individuality, focus on your strengths and the qualities that make you special. Confidence and self-love can shine just as brightly as any physical trait. Celebrate your health journey, and remember beauty is much more than how we appear—it's how we perceive, love, and express ourselves. You're valuable and beautiful just as you are! 😊💖

[CarolinaCutie5]

Okay? Maybe this is why you don't have friends

[jahaims]

Get your value from healthy sources