Why do I feel guilty for spending money on new clothes?

[MissSunshine2]

I used to be very wasteful with money. Now I’m far less so, but I don’t have much money and I recently ran out of winter sweaters, summer dresses and jackets and I needed to buy some more.

I haven’t been wasteful this time. I bought things that I need that are age appropriate and practical; some of which are secondhand. I still feel like I’ve wasted money, on myself. Even buying things I need. Whereas I don’t feel like that, if I spend money on other people. Why is that?

[whosnumber_1]

Are you spending above your budget on clothes? It's easy to to. I would feel guilty if I was blowing more money than usual. Every now and. then we need nice things because we deserve it.

[MissSunshine2]

Yes, I spent a bit over my budget, so I’m returning a few things, but keeping what I need.

[Hunter-40m]

You have some sense of responsiblity and that worths some respect but also there is nothing wrong with buying something you need with the money you earned its your right. after all

[Hunter-40m]

Thanks for the best useful answer 👍

[MissSunshine2]

You’re welcome 💕

[performerwannabe]

Did someone make you feel bad for spending, in the past? Like a partner or a parent?

Cause I used to love spending money on me and now I feel guilty when I spend the bare minimum for this exact reason.

[MissSunshine2]

My dad. He implied that it’s fine to spend big on other people, but not on myself.

[performerwannabe]

I think that may be instilled in your brain and making you feel guilty. I remember when I got my very first salary I went and bought a bunch of clothes. They were not expensive but it was like, I worked so hard for this and I deserve it. That should be the mindset, we should get some happiness out of our jobs sometimes, we don't only work to pay the bills.

[performerwannabe]

Also, I love your cat!! I have a ginger boy and he's the best 🫶🏻

[MissSunshine2]

That’s true. 😊

[MissSunshine2]

Oh thanks by the way, I love her. Her name is Angelique.

[performerwannabe]

A rare female ginger huh. My boy is Alex, he was a sick stray and now he's my first born child. Biscuit maker extraordinaire and great at acting he hasn't eaten in days while he gets proper meals.

[MissSunshine2]

Mine was a stray, too! As is the way of cats, she became ours after we passed her minion tests.

[sage2021]

It might be because you are more of a giver than a taker. I get that!

It makes you happy to give other people gifts/things because you know that it will put a smile on their face and make them feel good. So there's a benefit to gift 🎁 giving.

But when you buy necessary things for yourself, like clothes, you need to realize that you need clothes and not feel bad about getting things for yourself because you count too! 🙂

[CherryLove007]

Mostly because you didn't save that money. But how can I say why you feel like that? Nothing is without a cost. Don't feel bad. Its not a huge haul of clothes is it?

[MissSunshine2]

It’s not, because I’m returning the things I decided I don’t need and keeping what I need.

[Jackblue]

Think about it this way you are helping to keep the economy alive. Consumer spending is a vital part of the national economy. Giving money charitably is good too (and arguably better than volunteering because that takes potential jobs away from low income people), but spending on luxuries is also important because it creates employment beyond the purveyors of necessities.

[Tarifa]

No. Although not strictly necessary in most cases - unless you need new shoes because you're walking barefoot, or need a coat because you're cold, wet and feel miserable - new clothes are a small luxury we all like to get from time to time.

[AviatorTom]

If you get rid of some old clothes, clothes you rarely, if ever, wear, before buying new ones... You won't feel guilty.

Without doing that, you may feel guilty because you have no space in your closet. 🤔

[Summeroflove]

It’s not wrong to get things you want you work hard for your money. As long as you’re saving and investing it’s okay to splurge some if you’re being reasonable

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Happens to a lot of people when they become successful. Some people splurge because they think it will never go away and some people hold tight because they're afraid of losing it all

[Marissa4]

Hmm, probably not used to spending money on yourself.

[MissSunshine2]

I hide things I buy myself, from my parents. My dad in particular doesn’t like me spending money on myself.

[Marissa4]

Yes my mom same way.

[Anonymous]

you feel guilty because its not a necessity. Summer dresses are not a necessity. But a winter coat is... you can very well just wear shorts.

[MissSunshine2]

I’d look terrible in shorts.

[Sunshinelips]

If you earn your own money then why feel guilty? Think of it as a treat. And you deserve it.

[Nikki1989]

You have no reason to feel like that.

[LiamS95]

Don't worry about it, you'd feel worse if you had stolen them.

[MissSunshine2]

True. 😊

[exitseven]

As long as you spent your money wisely, shopping for bargains and buying clothes that you actually need you should not feel guilty.

[Anonymous]

Well you could always walk around naked but i don't think the law would like that to much especially out in public

[MissSunshine2]

Agreed. You haven’t seen my nude body. I’m pretty sure, but if you had, you’d understand that people would pay me millions just to keep my clothes on.

[LC75LC71]

Coming of age, realizing there isn't going to be much to spread around in the future. Feeling guilty is the worst way to continue though.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You shouldn't you work hard and should be able to spend a little on yourself

[rapfan107]

Have to spoil yourself once in a while!! That's why you work so hard

[Alicia740]

Because it's not important when you purchase them

[Caurav1997]

Next time dont spend just tell me i will gift you.

[Jeff51]

You shouldn't. We all need clothes

[Anonymous]

I never waste money on clothes.