Why do most men label women who wear makeup as prostitutes?

[Anonymous]

They all say that they want women to be "natural", however they are the ones who most likely fantasize about Megan Fox and all of those supermodels who wear make up every night. It's sort of ironic because some girls who don't tend to wear makeup are the ones who have more than 3 boyfriends in less than a month. Does anyone else observe the same thing?

[TheDigitalSaint]

Megan Fox is attractive, but she is no goddess when you take away the makeup and airbrushing. Take a look at this photo:

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Personally, I think she's good looking, but I feel there are equally good looking or better girls on the street I pass by each day. She has a non-stop media campaign telling people how hot she is, while everyday girls are ignored.

Moving on, I do like either a natural or minimal makeup look. Excessive makeup just isn't fun to kiss, plus there are going to be times when a man sees a girl without makeup. Do you think we expect you to be perfect all the time? That is an unreasonable expectation you place on yourself, not one that men place on you.

I see no correlation between the amount of makeup and the number of boyfriends a girl has had. There are far greater factors at play here in which makeup doesn't even come close to being the primary decider. A girl can wear makeup, just don't overdo it.

[Asker]

Megan may not be a goddess when you take away the makeup, however she is still considered one of the hottest women alive as long as she is seen with the makeup. I just hate how most men who see women wearing makeup automatically think they are easy whereas, most men have to get to know a girl who doesn't wear makeup to eventually label her as an easy girl.

[TheDigitalSaint]

There are a number of men here on GAG, plus my male friends in real life that think she is highly overrated. I've lived in Chicago and several other major areas where there are no shortage of beautiful girls that just happen to be something other than a movie star that we think are hotter. Fox is hyped up well beyond her looks.

The problem with wearing too much makeup is that it makes you look like you don't have much to work with in the first place.

[TheDigitalSaint]

It is like a short guy trying to wear shoes with 5 inch platform heels on them. It just is overcompensation. You can wear makeup, but if you really get carried away, it won't be attractive. Have you thought about posting some pictures of what makeup you've been wearing in terms of looks when you received these comments? Your idea of too much or too little might need a little help from the people you are trying to attract, that is, us men. It is a thought?

[Asker]

I believe I wear a decent amount of makeup and it's not like I do anything out of the ordinary.

It doesn't even have to be Megan Fox. It can be some other supermodel who isn't considered overrated, yet most men see nothing wrong with it.

[TheDigitalSaint]

You aren't truly capable of determing if you are wearing too much or too little. You are the one wearing the makeup, meaning you aren't impartial. If you want to know what men think, you have to ask the men, not make assumptions. We're not all going to agree, but you'll start to see trends forming if you post some images. If you aren't comfortable, don't do it. That being said, I think it would really help your question if you did.

[Asker]

I believe that I am capable of determining if I wear too much or too little especially since I am a female and I see women wearing all types of makeup from heavy to light every day. If you really want to know what is it that I use, I use brown eye shadow, eye liner, mascara, bronzer, red/pink lipstick, and foundation. But like I said, it's as light as it can be. It's not really noticeable. That being said, I'm not just speaking for myself. I'm speaking for all women who are generalized for weari

[TheDigitalSaint]

Nobody is less truthful about their looks than girls trying to self-assess. It doesn't mean you intentionally lie to yourself, but you aren't neutral. That's a guy trying to rate himself on attractiveness to girls. The authority on that matter is other girls, not the guy himself. The girls pick out the guys, not the guy. Girls are often clueless as to what men want, hence sites like GAG. Guys can be that way too. Generally speaking, if you wear makeup to cover flaws, that probably enough.

[Asker]

*wearing it

[Asker]

So am I supposed to be in the shoes of another male in order to self-assess my own self? Is that what you're trying to say? I as a female can realize if my hair is messed up or if my clothes don't fit me right, or if they don't look good. I don't need an opinion from a male in order to be able to see that. The whole purpose of makeup in the first place is to cover up small flaws and enhance one's features. What's so bad about that?

[TheDigitalSaint]

It really depends. I've seen girls that have really good fashion/makeup sense and some which looks like they got mugged in a Sephora. I'm sure both sets of girls think they have a good idea of what looks good, even though a lot of guys would disagree. I agree with you that makeup should cover flaws, as that its best purpose. If you find that men are regularly judging you for your makeup, then your style isn't attracting men.

[TheDigitalSaint]

The question I have for you is this: What is more important to you? Is it to wear makeup in a fashion that you feel attractive to yourself, or are you trying to wear makeup to attract men? Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I sense that you feel men think you are "easy" or "slutty" based upon the makeup you are wearing? Is that what this is all about, or am I missing something here. I'm confused.

[Asker]

I wear makeup because I feel happier and more comfortable when I wear it. However, most males do not understand that. You are right in the part that you sense that I feel that men think I'm easy based on the makeup I'm wearing because most of them do. That was the whole point of my question. Why do most men label women who wear makeup as easy girls? What's so ironic about that is that I wear makeup and I have not even received a kiss from a guy in my whole life.

[Asker]

It's a generalization that they make when they lay eyes on someone who wears it. I believe women also do as well.

[Asker]

I'm assuming that once they get to know her, they realize that their generalizations are wrong.

[TheDigitalSaint]

I speak as a man, not a girl likes to wear makeup to make myself feel good. As a guy, if a girl looks like she is trying too hard (excessive makeup, shirts where her boobs are popping out, short shorts, etc.) to draw attention to herself, it sets off a warning alert that she is seeking out male attention, but not in a low key way. Subtle is good. If you try dialing back your makeup just a little bit, you might see better responses. Real life prostitutes wear lots of makeup.

[TheDigitalSaint]

That's not to say that any girl that wears lots of makeup is naturally a whore, but there is already a negative mental image associated with real-life working girls that do this sort of thing. That's not a reflection on you personally, but you are helping them make a subconscious link between the two types of girls. I'm sure you are a perfectly sweet girl, but if you wear lots of makeup, it turns off guys (not just because of prostitutes, but because it isn't fun to kiss with all that on.)

[Asker]

I know for a fact that I don't wear lots of makeup and I'm not a prostitute either. That still doesn't stop most men from thinking that any girl who wears it is one. I don't even dress like one. Like I mentioned before, this question was for all women in general and not just for myself.

[Asker]

Either ways, I can care less if it turns off guys because it's not like I'm not going to survive without a man. That's something that nobody will ever change about me. Makeup is part of my personality and my life.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Men like women who are secure in their own skin, inside and out. I'm not faulting any girl that has insecurities, I'd just prefer, as a man, that she doesn't try to cover everything up. I'd rather tell her she's beautiful when she hasn't taken a shower, isn't wearing makeup and her hair is a mess. I think the problem starts with girls thinking they have to look perfect all the time. You don't. That's just one guy's thoughts on the matter.

[TheDigitalSaint]

It is quite okay for a girl to wear whatever she likes on her face. I'm not in favor of anti-makeup laws. Ultimately, it is up to you why, what and how much makeup you wear. If wearing the type of makeup that you like is more important than attracting a man, that's a personal choice. Unless you're makeup is really awful looking (we really don't know without pictures if it is good or not), there's so many other factors as to whether or not a guy will ask a girl out or not.

[Asker]

You see, that's the thing. Most men have the misconception that all women who wear makeup are trying to cover everything up when in fact, that's not true. I just like to look my best. That's just me. That's just how I am.

[TheDigitalSaint]

For sure, I don't doubt that about you. Lets take one example here. Lets say I like pizza, but you can't stand it. Most men love pizza. Does it mean that your choice to not like pizza isn't morally wrong, it is just an unpopular opinion. I just have a hard time believing that you don't wear a lot of makeup if so many guys are put off by it. Most girls wear at least a little bit and don't seem to have a problem with getting male attention in a positive way.

[Asker]

It's not really the matter of knowing whether a guy will ask a girl out or not. After all, you wouldn't know what the thoughts behind the man asking you out really are.

[Asker]

Everyone has a different opinion regarding what is little or too much makeup. For instance, a man may think that wearing bronzer is way too much whereas for me and other people it's perfectly normal.

[TheDigitalSaint]

A basic level of attractiveness is a must for the vast majority of guys. Most men aren't that picky. I think you may be overemphasizing how much men care. Unless you are getting frequent and consistent negative comments about your makeup, I think you are placing more weight on this issue than guys themselves.

[Asker]

II doubt it even has to do with the amount. I think it has to do with the fact that it's just there.

[TheDigitalSaint]

As for what is "too much", yes you are right, but only to a degree. Although there will be differences between individual men and women, there will still be larger patterns of each group which will strongly agree what is too much or too little.

[Asker]

I don't really get frequent negativity about my makeup.

[TheDigitalSaint]

You don't think it has anything to do with the amount? Don't be so sure. Think about it for the moment. Most girls wear at least a little makeup.

[TheDigitalSaint]

If you don't get frequent negative comments about your makeup, why do you assume that men are judging you, or other girls that wear makeup? Most girls wear at least a little. I think that you think that men care far more about this issue than we actually do. The only time we really care is if you wear too little and don't cover serious flaws, or if you wear way too much and look like more paint than skin. Either extreme isn't flattering. Balance is key.

[Asker]

True but some guys won't admit that and will say that they prefer girls who are natural. Either ways, I know I don't wear a lot and if wearing makeup is a problem that's too bad because I'm not going to change myself for anybody.

[Asker]

But thanks a lot for answering my question

[TheDigitalSaint]

When guys say "natural" they often may think the girl isn't wearing anything, but rather just a minimal amount and wears it well, such that the guy is fooled into thinking she is "natural". What they are really saying whether they realize it or not is that they prefer a "less is more" approach, be it totally natural or just "minimal" look that appears to be 100% makeup free.

[Asker]

True. Thanks for answering my question

[TheDigitalSaint]

You're most welcome. If you thought it was really helpful, I would ask that you consider it for best answer consideration. Thank you and I hope you found it enlightening.

[taster]

I don't have any use for any of those celebrities and that certainly includes Megan Fox...nor do I label females who wear makeup as whores..I might not be willing to date a female that wears makeup or at least a lot of makeup...I would only ask that they limit makeup to eyes, eyebrows and lips...(:

[pr3ttybr0wn]

lol that is pretty extreme. I really don't think most guys label girls who wear makeup as prostitutes, and the ones who do hold that extreme viewpoint tend to have other issues that go along with it. why try to please them?

as long as its well applied and flattering guys are not gonna be turned off that you wear makeup

[peace-love-couture]

Because guys don't give a damn about makeup. This whole anti-makeup attitude is on the internet & considering billions of women wear makeup and manage to get boyfriends or married, it's obviously not that big of an issue

[TheDigitalSaint]

I agree, but only to a degree. If I see a girl who wears tons (and I mean caked on) of makeup, I suspect she is really insecure and trying to overcompensate for those insecurities. It doesn't mean I think she's a whore, it just means I'm not attracted to that much face paint.

[nylon307]

Where are you getting that most men want women to be natural? I would prefer a woman wear a small amount of makeup and a little bit more when something special comes up.

[Asker]

Most men that I've encountered seem to have that opinion

[nylon307]

most men are annoyed by the amount of mental energy women put into hair/makeup/clothes. the men you are talking to probably mean (but do not know they mean) that they would rather you look like you do while wearing makeup but that you never talk about it or draw focus to it.

[Asker]

I see

[sovetskii13]

I don't label women with makeup as prostitutes. I know plenty of great, sweet, nice girls who wear makeup, and are not labeled as prostitutes.

[Anonymous]

its all about moderation and accentuating your best features. Looking fake is bad but a little shimmer never hurt anyone..