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No it's not self hating, why are people who have curly hair only allowed to keep their hair curly? And if they change it why is it automatically self hate? What if it just suits their style more?
At the moment I don't even have straight hair, my pictures are out of date and my hair is in long braids link . Occasionally I go natural, other times I get other more African styles. But are you seriously suggesting that for the few weeks I might have straight hair I'm hating myself, but the rest I'm suddenly okay.
I noticed the bias in your reference of straight hair as 'more feminine' I disagree they can be equally feminine, but it doesn't matter you're free to your opinion.
And what is natural these days, most things are completely unnatural as of the 21st century. By your standards changing your hair colour perhaps from brown to blond would be self hating. Perhaps even getting piercings to wear standard womens earrings is as well because metal through the ears isn't exactly 'natural'.
Your argument lacks a lot of logic I'm afraid. However I won't deny that there are women out there who do have a problem and do express their desire to belong to another racial category. For them the more they change their physical appearance in concordance with that category, the closer they feel to becoming it. However this minute, specific, insecure group across races should not be generalized to the confident and free larger population.
I have naturally wavy hair, kind of like the last pic you posted in your curly hair section and I don't see how it's self hating when I straighten it. I don't hate myself at all... so no I don't consider it self hating. It's no different than some girls coloring their hair, wearing extensions etc. In my case, I straighten my hair because it's more manageable for me then till the next time I wash my hair plus I like the waves it makes the next day after I've slept on it and it's fun to switch styles every now and then. Variation is good. I don't straighten my hair because of society or because I think it will make me look prettier. To the contrary I think I look my best when my hair is wavy and I sometimes even end up curling my hair again after straightening it just because I might not like how I look with my straight hair that day or for whatever reason. People switch up their style all the time. Be it a new hair cut, outfit, handbag... life would be so boring for me if I couldn't do that :)
maybe but then again maybe not. it depends on what their underlying motives are.
Curly hair was popular in the 80s and late 70s, and women with straight hair would get their hair curled densely. Do you think women with straight hair who got their hair curled were self loathing back then?
Maybe someday curly hair will become more fashionable again in the future.
Like genetics there are some things we don't like about ourselves and we have the choice to change it (physically, you know what I mean). Its not self hating because we'll change our style every once in a while to try and look like something we hope for.
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Trying new hairstyles isn't self hating. Straight hair is a popular hairstyle in American society, and since black people absorb popular American society, we can do that. No one in any hair salon I've been to is trying to look like any other race. Hair straightening is no more self hating that someone who wants to get plastic surgeries to alter their natural appearance, risk skin cancer to tan and get Botox. All you have to do to get straight hair is flat iron or apply relaxer, not much effort and can easily be undone if you want a different look. It's no more different than a woman who goes from pink lipstick to red the next day. She isn't self hating even tho she wasn't born with naturally pink or red lips. She's just doing something new with her look
No. It's called styling. I look great with both straight or curly and I'm still gonna be all woman no matter which. Those women know they have beautiful hair and it looks beautiful on them so they rock it either way they want. Everyone wants to try different styles girls with straighter hair want curly and volume, girls with curly wanna try straight do a short cut. Women just love to style and try new things. It's not only style it fashion, it's expression. When clothes and make-up can't always get it done hair is the next statement. There's even some women who shave their head like Cassie and Danai Guirra. Dying their hair unnatural hues like Girl Codes Nessa Nitty and Carly Acquelino. People with pretty hair even wear wigs like Nikki Minaj. So that must be self-hating too; cutting, curling, wearing a wig, and dying ones hair also I guess?
Not at all. Perhaps in "some" cases but not from my perspective.
I love my curly hair, and when I straighten it, it's solely because I like to change up my look from time to time... Same with makeup, would you say most girls are self hating because they wear it? They're covering up their natural face etc. Some people look drastically different with all that makeup on. I would say "most" do things to themselves because it's kind of boring to look the same every single day.
Something that would actually "FIT" "self-hating", to me, would be someone who goes under surgery for superficial things such as, lips, boobs, butt, tummy tuck, nose jobs, ears, etc... That's changing yourself completely permanent, and you'd only do a permanent change if you don't like it, thus implying it could possibly be self-hating.
Is it self hating to wear make up?
Or a push up bra?
Or heels?
Or anything that alters the way that you naturally look?
No, just as long as you don't hate the way that you look naturally. This goes with anything. If you HAVE to straighten your hair as a crutch because you can't stand the way it looks curly then yes, that's self hate (just like if you HAVE to wear a push up bra because you're not comfortable with your bra size would be self hatred), but if you use it moderately or as another option (as I do.. I straighten once a month, but I love my curls too).
I say everything in moderation. If you wear makeup occasionally that's fine. If you have to hide behind a full face of heavy makeup everyday just to go outside your house that's a problem.
Self hating? No. I'm proud of my heritage, but I currently wear my hair straight. Why? Because I like it. That's the only reason. Straight haired women get perms all the time. And no one ever calls them self-hating. What? You think that having curly hair is only an African thing? Wake up. A lot of nationalities have straight hair.
It's not self hating. Sometimes people want to mix up their appearance. It doesn't mean they don't like themselves. I curl my naturally straight hair and it's never seen as self-hate, so why would it be the other way around?
Also, the last girl in your "natural" section doesn't have naturally curly hair.
Lastly, the insinuation that straight hair is feminine and curly hair is not is pretty gross.
Not at all. If someone had straight hair and curled it, would you consider that self hate? No.
It's simply styling your hair in a different way. There's nothing wrong with liking a bit of variety. I straighten my hair because I like the way it looks and it's a ton easier to handle when it's straightened. I wear my hair curly though too.
If you despise your hair texture and think anyone who has your hair type should straighten it also, then yes it definitely is self hating. If you just like straight hair, without any negative feelings to your hair type, no. And straight hair doesn't equal feminine looking hair.
The thing with beauty now a days is that it's everywhere and everythings. A lot of girls, including myself, put makeup on. It doensn't mean we hate ourselves. It just means that we're enhancing out looks. The same goes with hair. I too have curly hair, not that type, but the thing with curly hair is that it has a mind of its own. It's really hard trying to control curly hair, unlike straight hair. Personally though, I would love to have those small curls. I think that's beautiful
It's self hating if she feels like it gives her some kind of added value that she doesn't have with her natural hair. That is, if she thinks straight hair makes her professional, beautiful, attractive, classy, etc. If she feels that by straightening her hair that she somehow acquires these attributes and cannot be any of these things with her natural texture then yes.
No, I don't think so at all! I think it's just preference and what we like. Both are beautiful! I have straight hair, and I curl my hair often. Sometime you just want to be different to yourself. Shake things up a bit!
Women (AND MEN), for centuries like to alter their appearance a bit. I think it's because we can.
i dye my hair, that doesn't make me self hating, I curl my naturally poker straight hair, that isn't self hating either.
its just personal preference and no one is trying to look like another race because hair alone won't make too much difference. imo the women who are self hating are the ones who bleach their skin and the women who have (cosmetic reasons only) plastic surgery
It's only self-hating based on the reason as to why they are doing it, not for the mere fact that they do it. If they are doing it because they don't like their hair/wish they were born with straight hair, and want something new; sure, I guess you can say that it's self-hating. If their reason is because they like having more than one hair style then it's not.
Or they could genuinely like that style of hair just like a lot of people. And why is that Asian girl in the category of super curly hair? Her hair was just curled slightly most likely with a curling iron.
Well, I don't think it's wrong to change it but some women might HATE their hair, most of us joke around while others' don't. I don't think it's self hate for the most part.
I don't think its self hating I think its called trying a new look. I thought that was a pretty normal thing to do.
Maybe they just like it. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.
No more so than it would be self hating to get a haircut of use make up.
It's no more self hating to straighten curly hair than it is to curl straight hair.
It can look stylish if managed properly, but straight hair is ideal because it's easy to tame and style and it makes the person look more youthful.
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