Why is it that people tend to compliment average looking girls more than really beautiful girls?

[Anonymous]

i get it that people do not compliment beautiful girls who think they are god's gift to mankind. because doing so would boost their ego and all. but what I generally notice is that, among friends, truly good looking girls hardly get complimented by their friends, while the average looking girls or plain janes get complimented more by their friends than the good looking ones. and I've noticed that overtime, those good looking girls who do not get compliments from their friends at all, suffer a low self-esteem. do people generally think that good looking girls KNOW they're good looking, hence they do not need any form of compliments to reassure them?

[williamson_l]

I know exactly what you mean. It's jealously, to compliment someone better looking than yourself almost takes something away from yourself, if you compliment someone you know is less attractive than yourself then you are not loosing anything. It's very animalistic, I think and women are naturally competitive amongst one another. I had a friend who was very insecure in her appearance she bitched about every girl she knew, she then turned on me one day and started to call me ugly to my face, I know she only did this to try and make herself feel better as though saying it would validate it. This will sound conceited but in my group of friends I was the most physically attractive, obviously everyone has different tastes but all in all I was perceived as the nicest looking, this was spoken about when we all first met but I never once received a compliment from any of my friends again, they always complimented each other, all the time and I always complimented them too. I am for a number of reasons happily no longer friends with these girls. My mum the occasional drunk stranger and men compliment me :)

[Anonymous]

I agree with you! I am also on the more attractive side ( and I am not conceded, just for the purposes of this forum) and I have experienced it for years. People I know from work/school/family/friends always complement the girls that are average or below average all the time, and they do rub it in my face. Just to prove a point, you have no idea how many times they just put me down right next to someone that really looks "bad" that I should dress/makeup/act/have feature like them where in fact they constantly copy and follow my style. It obviously boosts their (less attractive kind) confidence. But it is hurtful. That is exactly why the pretty ones go under a knife, because they are insecure because of these idiots. When you dress like crap for a while, or gain few pounds, trust me they will complement you 100% of the times. That is why my close friends are mostly males, most truly appreciates real beauty.

[MercuryKitten]

I watched a documentary about beauty once that basically said the more average-looking you are, the more people are reassured by, and attracted to, you. It's a natural human impulse to like average-looking people because deep-down you know they're a good mate to have: healthy, fertile, etc., etc.

A more social reason could be because people get intimidated by really good-looking people. If I see an INCREDIBLY good-looking guy, I assume he's either taken, full of himself or hears compliments all the time and will just be annoyed when I compliment him. Silly, I know.

[johnnyj2017]

I've noticed this many times, women tend to compliment average looking women than really attractive women, maybe it's due to envy and insecurity. They want the attractive woman to doubt herself by not complimenting her looks.

If I were the attractive woman/women, she/they shouldn't be bothered not receiving compliments from other women. Compliments from men are huge compliments.

[johnnyj2017]

Well, girls tend are weak when it comes to looks. They have to look perfect & feel pretty. Girls that compliment average-looking girls do it because they are most likely not as attractive as they are or at the same level. Pretty girls are criticized harder because other girls are jealous of them.

[Anonymous]

Not an answer to the question, It’s currently 1am right now. I don't know why but I came across to this conclusions and my experience , some instances before the pandemic that led me to think and question why do i rarely get complimented. It’s weird really and absolutely straight up plain vain, but I don’t want to fake my feelings. It’s just the way I feel. I quite have a huge random circle of friends, My relationship with them are quite good. Some of them compliments me sometimes, it’s kind of weird because when they do? I feel weird and I feel like they don’t sincerely mean it or they’re just making fun of me. But when they don’t give compliments, I also worry. I worry if they don’t like me, if they really treat me as a friend or they think I’m to vain. Also may I add, when some of my friends say something about me. Sometimes, it’s not that near to compliment. When they say it, I don’t perceive it as an insult but when I think it through (perhaps within the day) I find it insulting and unnecessary to say as for someone who is my friend.

[Opinion Owner]

Plus also, I have this best friend of mine who seems to compliment other girls more and sincerely (common friends or other girls). Than me. Im not drastically expecting it or anything, it’s just that I feel this sort of jealousy. Because I’m not the same as her, I compliment easily you know. If I see someone really pretty and puts a smile on my face because of awe. I don’t hesitate to let the girl know. There were even instances where I show her that I fully support her and is happy for her in everything that she had done and is doing, while she, on the other hand doesn’t even give a damn on whatever i achieved or working on smth to achieve. Bottom line, I always hype her up while she doesn’t.

[ALWAYSclassy]

People are less threatened by average girls. They figure a beautiful girl doesn't need anyone to boost her up.

[Anonymous]

Really? I agree with the other anon. I usually see really beautiful girls get complimented on rather than average girls.

[Anonymous]

I have not seen this in my area. All the pretty girls get complimented all the time.

[Anonymous]

I agree with MercuryKitten what she said!