Does wearing contact lenses affect personality?

[headcasechick]

My boyfriend and I just had our 1st "overnight" together. Got to learn a couple new things. 1st, I knew he wears contacts but didn't know he was more or less blind w/o them. 2nd, is he really doesn't want me to see him in glasses cause he didn't even bring them.

So we're getting ready for bed. He went into the bathroom and after taking out his contacts he made his way back to the bedroom. It was way too hot last night to sleep so I wanted to set out on the swing in my back yard like we have a lot of times. This was when I noticed a big change in his attitude. Normally he's the strong, confident type. Almost cocky at times. But with his contacts out he seemed so shy and quiet. I really had to guide him the whole way outside. Usually when we're out there we'll just hold hands but this time he really wanted to cuddle. Almost like he was afraid to let go of me.

I know he was probably feeling a little (maybe more than a little) vulnerable because he couldn't see, but this was a big change for him. Thing is, I really liked it. I'd like to see it again. But I feel bad because I feel like I'm getting enjoyment out of a weakness that he can't help.

The other thing I'm not sure about is that I've heard some people who wear glasses act a lot differently when they switch to contacts. Do you think he could be just as shy if he was wearing his glasses as he was without either?

[smellylittlecat]

I think wearing glasses (and especially since it's not normal for him) in front of you was like showing him his 'true' self.

In my case, I also wear contacts in front of my boyfriend. I used to wear glasses in front of him when I wasn't his girlfriend because I didn't care... but when we went out and were official, I never wore glasses in front of him. I felt wearing glasses was not as 'pleasing' to my boyfriend than wearing my contacts (or looking more natural). But really, I know you don't care nor does my boyfriend. He knew I had glasses before. I only wear it out when I'm lazy or if I don't care who the people I'm surrounded by are. lol

But in his case, I think it did let him get 'loose' and show you his vulnerable side. He feels wearing glasses is probably not as 'hot' to you as him without it (maybe he got teased back then for being a 'nerd' or looking 'ugly' or some kind of stereotype). Now that you've seen him at his 'worst' (according to his brain), he can be more open about his feelings, emotions, etc. I know I'm more goofy with my glasses... and messy.

[jessica_smith]

he was definitely vunerable. that's apparent. and if he's not comfortable with himself in his glasses, then he won't want you to see him in them. but just give him the confidence that you'll still love him glasses or no glasses. I live by this " if you can't accept me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best" so let him know that it's only you and you love him whether he's got glasses or contacts. hope I helped :)

[MercuryKitten]

I have never noticed a difference. Maybe he was acting strangely because it was late and he was tired.

[lovestruckgracie]

I wear contacts myself, and I my personality changes just a tiny bit when I don't have them in because I am almost legally blind without them and I feel a little vulnerable. But it is never that much of a change like your boyfriend's was...

[kinglurker]

Being someone who has had to wear "coke bottle" glasses for most of my life, I can tell you that I felt a lot more confident when I first started wearing contacts.

From what you said it sounds like your boyfriend's vision is bad enough that he can't function without either his glasses or contacts. I'm the same way. I can tell you that my behavior changes a great deal if I don't have access to my glasses. It's a psychological thing. Maybe a little harder for guys, since we're supposed to be the great protectors of our ladies, but knowing that you're more or less helpless without two tiny pieces of plastic. When you're that dependent on glasses/contacts, you feel very vulnerable without them. Once your boyfriend took out his contacts and had to do something even as simple as walking outside, that dependence was trasfered to you. He was probably nervous because he couldn't see and he felt better being in physical contact with you.

[jacquesvol]

Some people are complexed by the idea of wearing glasses. I wear them since I'm 8 or 10 (too young to get complexed, I suppose, and being complexed is not inmy personality any longer)

I've seen lots of people having problems with contact lenses (serious or light) but they did hold on to them notwithstanding pain and discomfort.

[JustDance]

I think its maybe a motherly instinct you are having or knowing you can be His knight in shining armor instead of the other way around, its nice having those feelings because it does bring people closer together.

[ryanontario]

they affect eyesight but don't think they'd affect personality unless the person had a different personality when wearing glasses but the idea of that sounds a little silly to me

[JustDance]

I would say they affect your personality.

[DDenmont]

I'm legally blind without my glasses, and I can't wear contacts. I imagine my personality would change somewhat if I could though.

[joey1989]

yes. form my point of view its make girls seem insecure with them selfs.

[tyrantfuryre]

Personally I hate wearing my glasses. I feel a little vulnerable but I'll flat out be like listen, I can't see!