Why do girls love to tease and lead guys on so much, play mind games with them, I really hate it a lot.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, why do girls like to do that to guys all the time? why do they like to give guys mixed signals, tease them or lead them on, and play mind games? Do you think girls do that to guys a lot more often than guys do it to girls? or is it equal? I have never done that to a girl before and never plan on doing it, I would rather get rejected right away than to get teased, lead on, or have her play mind games with me, etc.

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It also seems for the most part, when a girl plays mind games with a guy, teases him or leads him on, girls more often get away with it, however, the other way around, not as much.

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I hate it like how girls let guys have their real phone number, and they respond to their texts or calls a few times, but when it comes to actually going out on a date or starting a relationship, it never happens, like not even a first date happens.

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Since I am a guy who has never done this to a girl before, how do guys usually tease or lead girls on, play mind games with them? Because I know that guys do it in a different way compared to girls.

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It also seems that it's easier for a guy to fall for it than girls.

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I'm been single my whole life so it is very hard for me to recognize the signs.

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I would rather get rejected instantly than to get teased or lead on, I hate it how girls change their mind right away when it comes to a potential date or potential relationship.

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Why do girls also always have to reject guys in a not-so straight-forward, non-verbal way, why do they always use their body language to give out hints? why can't they just say they are not interested in the guy's face?

[baibiemae]

will you stop that? it's really annoying and your self-deprecating attitude leads me to believe there is another reason for why you get played so often.

you seem to be trying to blame your unhappiness with girls on the fact that we "have it so much easier."

I don't respect the question or the asker enough right now to give you a long, thorough answer. That is an incredibly narrow-minded and generalizing comment to make about the ease with which girls 'sail through life.'

If you would step out of your shell a little and see that everything is not always about you, I think you would see that you are not the only one with problems.

Maybe if you were to clean up your attitude a tiny bit you would attract nicer girls.

Upon another look, your question, your not one, not two, but six updates, and all your comments sound whiny and beg for someone you don't know to sympathize with you and baby you.

So here you go:

You sound like a great guy, not immature at all! All those girls who skewered your poor little heart for absolutely no reason deserve to burn in hell for what they did to you. They were out of line, and I would marry you if it came to that.

P. S. I had to do this because the comment button wasn't working.

[Asker]

Well I have never teased or lead a girl on, and I never will.

[andrewgoering1990]

Wow! What a nasty hateful response! People like you don't give a damn about anyone unless you happen to deem them worthy of your compassion. That is just so wrong, and unfortunately so common in this terrible world. You think way to highly of yourself! You want guys to grow balls? You need Christ Jesus and his Holy Spirit so you can have some real compassion, understanding and love towards people, and not just to the people whom you judge as being worthy of your respect, compassion or understanding, which I bet is ALWAYS based on how someone looks or acts in a way that pleases you.

[meplusabeemer]

I find guys just as guilty of doing this as girls. Why do girls do it? They haven't matured yet to realize how cruel and mean their actions can be. They are dating, playing the field and having fun.

Once one has been on the dating scene awhile and has experienced these things first hand, he/she might develop different perspectives. The person will start to identify what is important in a relationship, a potential mate, getting to know someone and the importance of treating others as you want to be treated.

You are very mature and have a very sage perspective on this. Not all women are like this.

[Asker]

How can I prevent myself from getting teased or lead on in the future? how can I tell if a girl is doing this to me?

[meplusabeemer]

This will come with experience and time. Generally speaking, if she flirts, talks to you but won't give out her phone number- she's a tease. Follow her actions to see if she is truly interested or not. She should call or text you, make an effort to hang out or date, at some point introduce you to family or friends, want to learn about you in every respect. If you find very little reciprocation from her then she might be into the relationship or you. Good luck.

[Asker]

It hurts me a lot because I have been single my whole life, never had a girlfriend.

[meplusabeemer]

A guy did this to me about 4 months ago. I had a major crush on him and he knew it. We spoke on the phone for hours, he promised to take me out. complimented me and portrayed he liked me. I kept waiting and waiting and waiting. He never took me out. Why? He never liked me the way I thought he did, I guess I was a friend only. I wound up hurt, disappointed, let down and very angry. I will NEVER approach a guy again.

You will find someone, it's all about timing, being in that certain place a

[Asker]

It's harder for me since I am a guy and us guys have to do the asking out part, taking the initiative.

[meplusabeemer]

Yes, guys do tend to be the one who initiate the contact with the girl. Sometimes a girl will approach a guy too and I have done this a few times. I cannot handle rejection anymore so my days of approaching guys is done.

[Asker]

That is what is unfair, since you are a girl, you have the choice of being able to not approach a guy or ask him out, or just waiting, however, us guys do not really have that choice.

[MrNameless]

I've dealt with girls who DID give me their phone number.. and teased me also.

[Asker]

I seriously hate being teased and lead on with a huge passion.

[agirlaskingguys]

just like a woman has the ability to have an abortion and take birth control, a male may also "get snipped". Don't act as if guys are victims to girls' selfish and manipulative ways. There are plenty of guys who do the same thing to women. The girls who "tease" you may not like you in the slightest, and are just trying to be nice. Its not exactly easy telling someone to go away because you don't like them.

[Asker]

The reason why it is more fair for girls is because you have the choice of being able to not approach a guy or ask him out, or just waiting for a guy to take the initiative, however, us guys do not really have that choice, since more than half the time, an overwhelming majority of girls still expect guys to do the pursuing and chasing.

[meplusabeemer]

Because she doesn't have the guts to be forthright and honest. Perhaps she doesn't want to hurt him or break his spirit.

As I said before, guys are just as guilty of this. Why didn't the guy I had a crush on tell me he wasn't interested? Why did he lead me on and waste my time? He is 38. I even asked repeatedly if he wanted to be left alone and he said "no."

[tex151]

Here's a very simple solution to the problem of getting teased or lead on, grow some balls and tell them how it is, say look I see what your doing and it's not going to work so if you want to play childish games then either go f*** yourself or find someone else who is actually going to put up with that crap. All you gotta do is put your foot down and let them know how it is, if you let them mess with you from the beginning your already doomed. Never ever let them do that to you, like I said call them out on it once it starts, she's seeing how long you will put up with it.

[Asker]

Well that's easier said than done, so what are the signs that I can check for so I can avoid getting teased or lead on?

[tex151]

Well to start with see hows many times she flakes out on you, if it's more than 2 times that's strike 3 she's out. Teases always will make plans with you but never follow through.

[Asker]

Seems to me that you love getting rejected.

[tex151]

Nope sorry I very rarely get rejected from women, I have in the past, but I was a man about it and moved on to another chick and as of right now I kind of have three gfs well it's complicated but what can I say I like beautiful things. Seems like you get rejected a lot though and like I said if let them mess with you, they will but if you establish the rules from the git go they won't even try it.

[Asker]

Is it good to have this attitude and mentality, whether if I am around women or not, that "It's a Man's world, and women just live in it", should I even tell women that too?

[tex151]

I tell women that all the time, they don't really like it but then I say ask me if I care, and they say I know you don't because your a jerk and blah blah and then I say yup well you know you like it, and then I get their number.

[baibiemae]

It comes down to the whole, well, girls have to have the babies and guys have to do the asking and girls have to have periods and guys have to bring home the bacon.

I think most girls think they are justified in doing it because guys do it to us.

[Asker]

Well girls can get an abortion or take the birth control pill, so in a way they avoid the pregnancy or childbirth, but us guys can't avoid the pursuing or asking out part, plus when a guys teases or leads on a girl, plays mind games with her, guys do not get away with it as often, girls can find a way to get revenge. The other way around, a guy getting revenge on a girl is a lot tougher.

[baibiemae]

Yea, but what I'm saying is, it's like a give and take kind of thing. maybe the girl was subconsciously angry at guys for seeming to have all the lucky breaks, and decided to try to break your heart to help hers out.

Or she's trying to gain some confidence by seeing if she can snag a guy, and if that's the case, sorry, mate.

[Asker]

Seriously, girls have it so much easier.

[baibiemae]

Things are tough all over

[Asker]

Well it's easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend.

[Asker]

All girls have to do is approve of the date and relationship, they have the final say, which means they have it easier.

[agirlaskingguys]

Trust me your reading wayyyyyy into it. It depends on the girl, she may be a bitch or she may like you. Honestly, your not a girl so you have no idea what your talking about.

[Anonymous]

usually girls tease guys to see how far they can go with it. Being a tease means that you are desired, which is a great feeling;)

[Asker]

Girls like that p*ss me off

[poofs517]

some play mind games so they don't seem desperate

[Asker]

I hate that also, when girls play hard to get.

[poofs517]

Those are the cocky girls stay away from those. I meant like they might not look at you one day something small, but full on cocky girls are usually the mean ones