How do you know when guys only want one thing?

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How do you know when a guy only wants sex from you?

becca123 · Accepted Answer

If his plans don't include a real date of some kind.

If he only texts/calls to set up the next "date" with no real attempts to touch base in between.

Last minute "date" plans. Unless you are exclusive, he should try to arrange a date several nights away; that is respectful.

His conversations inevitably come back to sexual innuendo. Once in a while is OK, but all the time is a red flag.

He is in more of a hurry to leave after sex. He may stay to cuddle or whatever, but his conversation will turn to "that early morning appointment" or whatever excuse he makes to leave quickly. He may even start his escape plan before sex..."I will probably call it an early night because... XYZ.". Sure it happens, but when it happens more often than not, potential red flag.

No desire to know the real you. No curiousity about who you are, what makes you tick. He has no desire to connect by talking deeply about himself or learning more about you.

Doesn't commit to prime date times. You are a weekday thought, or a late night bar closing call. Friday and Saturday he tends to be busy.

Compliments based solely on one physical aspect, usually related to below the neck, hardly your entire body package and rarely anything deeper than physical. "Your a$$ is smoking hot. Your boobs are sexy" rather than, "Blue is your color, you should wear it more" "I love your eyes" or "I can't believe you figured that out, you're pretty smart."

He is in no hurry to let you hang with his friends even when there is a large group of people hanging out.

*Obviously one or two of these doesn't mean it's sex only for him, but if these start adding up you need to guard your heart.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

*This is going to sound horrible* What you do is you assume that any man only wants sex and then you let them prove to you otherwise.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Accepted Answer

You just sense the sleaziness. With wording alone he'll mess up.

kheserthorpe · Accepted Answer

That depends on your demographic, and how common hookups and casual sex are.

If hookups are reasonably common, then guys who just want sex will be dropping strong signs that's what they want. The ones who are successful will be more concerned about girls being 'clingy' than not getting sex. Others will be learning that pretending to want more actually makes girls who want to hook up back off and pretend they don't.

So in that type of environment, guys who just want sex will ask you directly to come over to their place or vice versa, don't suggest dates out, don't act romantic at all, and show little to no interest in anything but flirting and talking about sex and when you can hook up.

Guys who want more than one thing will also flirt, show lots of interest in sex, but also interest in you as a person, and be interested in doing activities outside of the house with you.

If you're in a place where hooking up is really rare, you'll get the odd liar who pretends to want more because its the ONLY avenue for sex. If that's your situation, I probably don't have much advice, beyond one general thing:

Most people aren't that convincing. Take a step back, look at his behavior, if it was a friend of yours in this situation, what's your gut saying?

fmartinavar · Accepted Answer

If he isn't spiritual, masturbates and makes sexual come-ons he is certainly only interested in one thing. sometimes he will try to play it off like he is interested in your personality but if he listened to things like rap and is into flashy superficial material things he probably only sees you as a trophy or sex object. but some women like being sex objects.

oldanddecrepid · Answer

If he can't go through a few dates with sex being on the agenda, then he is not really trying to get to know you... he just wants the sex.

If he barely listens to you and feels as though a little less talk and a lot more action is necessary... then he is probably using you for sex.

TheOnlyWhom · Answer

Does he genuinely listen to you? What do your friends say about him? Those are probably the two biggest ways to tell. Other then that its a matter of trying to stay honed in on his habits. Does he flirt with other women when you are around? Are his eyes wandering when you are talking / doing stuff with him. Try to pay attention to the small signs is key.

Diego9O · Answer

As a guy am, well I am not the type that have sexual relationships without love in between but as a guy I can tell you a general rule. If someone really likes you sex is going to be the last thing that will come to that someone mind. Is like reading a book, if you are in fact interested in a book you are going to read it and get to know all about it if you don´t you might just take a look of it for some minutes or lest and leave it abandon.

Anonymous · Answer

Their history will tell you and beside that I think you just have a gut feeling when someone tells you something genuine. Can you answer. mine!

MikeDavids · Answer

Tell him it is that time of the month and ask him over for a movie... :) After sex ask him if he wants to meet your parents...

Anonymous · Answer

Its too simple, he would start having dates with you. He will start kissing you. He would ask you about sex, but not easily or directly, because guys are shy. Even he will start touching your "those" organs indirectly or pretend to it as if he did it by mistake. But there's nothing wrong about it, if you doubt if your guy has stopped loving you and just wants you for sex, you are probably wrong, a guy will never want to have sex with you if he stops loving you.

TheWorldEndsWithYou · Answer

Easy when the signs are there very early and apparent. Especially when when they keep mentioning or pursuing it. Enjoy the relationship in the beginning. Don't rush it

The_Technomancer · Answer

If he touches you in odd ways or places and keeps bringing up the topic.

Shabz101 · Answer

You will know when they keep asking or pestering. Try to test him, by seeing if he wants to meet your parents after sex? That's as solid as it gets. Pardon, the pun!

RealGuy1 · Answer

They will keep mentioning it (or touch you a lot or if he grab you in your special area) , or they will try to avoid talking about it because they are scared that they will be rejected.

Cassanova · Answer

tell him you won't give him any. If he is still there in 5 min then you will know.

Dansexual · Answer

When he has a pulse. That's when you know.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men are perverted

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