When do guys know they want a relationship?

[Anonymous]

when do you guys know for certain you want a relationship with a girl?

[Kaazsz]

I don’t know anymore lol. I like some girls. Id say I even have a few crushes, one more than the others but crushes nonetheless.


And yet none of these girls I like is good for me. And when I really think about it, I don’t want to date them. I want a high quality woman who isn’t half braindead and unfortunately my crushes are not very smart people. But sometimes you can’t help but develop feelings. They also don’t have much drive for their own futures and don’t have much in terms of goals or anything. They’re bums really. If they were men they would probably be incels lol.


Too many girls like that. I almost feel as though I should adopt the standards that women seem to have. That cuts out a lot of the girls I might be interested in though.


On one hand I think maybe I’m being silly and I shouldn’t care. If I like her I like her and that’s that. I should go for it. On the other hand I married a woman who was a useless bum, and I don’t want to make the same mistake again. But I guess I can’t help but develop feelings for some girls.


So I kind of choose to wait and find someone better. Someone I have feelings for emotionally, AND logically I can look at their prospects as a person who has a future and see that hers is bright.


I haven’t been dating because most girls I know are basically bums. Maybe I SHOULD date around even if they are bums. Maybe I shouldn’t. Maybe I’m being stupid maybe not I really don’t know.

[guywithissues900]

She needs to have these things:
- Attractive. The thing that draws me in first is if she has a nice figure and knows how to take care of herself.
- Mentality. A good woman is feminine and doesn’t have this weird mindset that she’s a guy in a girls body or that she’s equal to her boyfriend. Equality is a delusion.
- Attitude. I love women who know how to take care of other people, empathizing with them or giving them good advice. I also love women who are selective in romance and know that disrespecting her body and image is disrespecting her integrity and also her future husband’s dignity. I don’t want a girl with a body count higher than 1.
- Beliefs. I will choose a Christian/Catholic woman as my wife when I am ready to settle down. I’m a Christian myself and I would never even dream of marrying or being in a real relationship with a woman of another religion or lack of religion. I can be friends with benefits with girls of any type, but I wouldn’t marry a non Christian girl.
- Submissiveness. If she sees me as a potential husband she also should know that she will submit herself to me, and I will treat her with respect in return. I know people hate to hear this part by the way, but this is what the Bible says and I stick to it.


That is when I can know that I will want to marry this girl.

[OlderAndWiser]

When I feel good just being close to her, when I smile just knowing that she cares about me, when I get excited when the phone rings because it might be her calling. . . I know that she is a special woman and she might be The One.

[Graydon]

I personally have yet to get my first real girlfriend but I’ve honestly really wanted a relationship with a girl for sometime. Really why I feel I want a partner is because when I look back at my first and only major crush in high school which was grade 9 (I met the girl at a get ready for hs program a week before school started, talked to her a little during the day, went to sleep thinking of her as no more then a friend but I flipped overnight and pretty much FELL for her the next day when I seen her again).
Just remembering how happy and exited I was to go to school every single morning just so I could see her beautiful face, remembering how I felt that if I could just have her, I’d consider myself the luckiest person in the world (that’s really how badly I crushed on her), just makes me wish I could find that perfect partner now and that I’d feel the same way as I once did when I was 14 (but REAL love of course this time lol).
Anyhow to top it all off, when I know I want a relationship, it’s just because I more or less just always find myself wanting someone to cuddle, someone I can tell everything too and have her be the most beautiful thing I could ever imagine.
Hope that all makes sense to you, if not I’ll be happy to be more specific in a reply. 😂

[DavidDong]

If she's happy most of the time and doesn't want to cry over every little thing so you can be there when she needs that support but not constantly because that's bs.
That she's concerned when you have a problem.
That's the big ones

Then to top it off if the girl has a functional brain, I dont want to sound like narcissist but truly, like i go to university and you have these girls offering themselves because they have nothing else then that. It's disgusting, If your hot it's barely any better than a brick.

My mum looks after flats and makes financial plans so my dad can concentrate on work.
If the girl can work and has caring traits then what more can a guy ask for.

[Anonymous]

When he values her as relationship material. However many modern girls often don’t appear to be long term relationship material.
Roughly 70% of them are fuckable to some degree. But only about 20% of them are long term relationship material. Because many of the engage in hookup culture in their teens, 20 and 30s. Which over time lowers their value in the sexual market if they have a high sexual partner history. So many of them end up single in their 30s and above. Often with a few children from some deadbeat ex’s or hookups.

[Knighted2170]

For me it's when I make an emotional connection with her. That usually happens, for me, when she begins to open up and show me who she really is and communicates what she wants and desires. No masks, not hiding things, just being who she is as a person.

When this takes place I feel the connection and magic between us. That's when I know I want to pursue a relationship and really explore sharing our lives and adventures together.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

It's all extremely personal. I know once I'm attracted to the personality that I want a relationship. It's not done cut and dry thing that you can force, and if you try to it ends up making you a worse version of yourself when it ends really hurts the guy and causes long term damage to his ability to trust.

Just gotta be genuine to yourself and hope that it works out.

[Nick568]

It's hard to describe, but if the connection is there you can just feel it. The chemistry has to be strong and the communication has to be good.

For me personally though, if she has a good heart, emotional intelligence AND has a strong sense of adventure... then I might accidentally fall in love😂 That's my ideal partner.

[nomoreusernames]

A cynical way I look at it: the amount of shit I feel with goes up overtime. Any relationship has things that make it positive or negative. Enough positives in interactions with a girl, enough traits I like, enough positive interactions, make it worth putting in effort. At a certain point it’s worth taking the risk and putting in the energy I guess? I’m crashing off caffeine so sorry if this makes no sense lol

[Mynameisdom7]

I would answer that by saying when I’m happy, confident and in a good place mentally. I believe in loving and knowing yourself first before loving and knowing somebody else.

[UrBrotherCain]

it takes 3 seconds for a guy to fall in love, this can be when you do somthing dorky or prove yourself as a capable human being. in this moment we think
"I just met my wife" and then we plan a life with this woman in our head for the next 10 seconds.