Girl constantly adds extra letters to my name or says my full name, as well as other flirty stuff... any tips and advice?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

You mentioned that your relationship ended because of timing? So perhaps now she is more ready?

[Asker]

Yeah it did long story kinda... she split 2 months ago from her ex or 2 months at that point... and some other things... stress and such... month and half ago i'd split from my relationship after been cheated on, we really liked eachother, clicked and everything and went with it for a while but it was just a funny time but i feel i hurt her and she feels she hurt me... despite it all we are still really close... i'm her go to guy it's just a long story but you raise a good point that i've heard before two friends say she seems like she still likes me a lot despite saying be friends i think she wants more and may be scared or worried about damaging our relationship we don't see each other a lot but we message every day 2--4 phonecalls a week sometimes more... always there for eachother and she seems to care for me still quite a lot she almost once cancelled a interview just to go to doctors with me i just it seems like we want the same thing... imma discuss it i think.

[Asker]

If i may ask as well what makes you say that? no offence i'm just intrigued :)

[Opinion Owner]

No offense taken. Some of the behaviors you mentioned in the comments are things I do when I'm into a guy.

[Asker]

Well i guess that's good to hear... like i say it's no pure confusion i ust well, we dated as you've probably read but long story and the timing and such and when i asked her about it again in a sense she rejected me but then apologized for half a week and thought i hated her which i re-assured her i didn't beyond love she's still a great person and i'm glad i met her she's not what i'm used to in women if that makes sense? No sexism, i'm kinda glad you think there is hope... if i may ask what kind of signs or actions and such could i look out for apart from what i know if i may ask?

[Opinion Owner]

Given that you have asked her and she rejected you in a sense-as you say-I would view the ball as being in her court. For me, personally, if I tell a guy no and he pursues again I would get annoyed (especially if it isn't what I actually want him to do.) it is really easy to read signs that you want to see as false hope.

That said, if you think deep down in your gut (like you aren't trying to talk yourself into thinking this way, you really feel this way) that she is interested, you can be flirty back and give HER some subtle signs you are still interested and see if she brings anything up.

[Asker]

Sorry for the long response time... life's been a bit of a bummer lately, yeah it was kind of a rejection but also on my end too i think she views it as a rejection as she apologized a lot and said why would you even want to talk to me or how do you not hate me... it's in the sense of i guess for lack of a better way of saying it she's been used by a lot of guys not for sex or anything bad i just mean emotionally but i actually genuinely do like her maybe even love if i may say... she made my life a lot better in a way that i've never experienced and after been cheated on i won't lie i just felt atrocious, kinda like well why would someone like me back as i think i've said it was a bad time i guess for us both but i attempted to overcome my pain because she just made me smile, yeah this is why i wonder if it's just me seeing them or if it's more i mean i can respect her and get along as friends

[Asker]

if that is what will happen... i can't force feelings on her that aren't there even if she had them at one point... i do wonder if perhaps i was a bit strong in the sense that as she and her friend and some other female friends have said i'm a one in a million kinda guy i genuinely cared for her liked her and the whole thing i didn't just view her as a status or a object if that makes sense?
i mean i never would but i'd been cheated on and her ex just dropped her without a explanation so i think maybe it was bad timing and it may of made us become friends after the other things that happened too and i'm fine with that as i say... yes i'd love more but she's gained a lot of respect from me as i believe i have from her so i'd not be that guy, oh no i feel that she might like me but it's complicated but not i guess like we can say anything and such it's a unique bond but i won't hate her if not... yes it'll be hard but, she's said she doesn't want to lose me and kinda proved it :)

[Klaatu51]

when u say "xtra" letters? for xample if yer name's "john" then she'd be like... johnnnnnnnnn

[Asker]

Precisely bingo, i've always presumed it as flirty behavior, she's always like you make me smile or god you make me laugh, stop been so funny, your always there, usually adds extra letters to my name or when saying bye ( byeeeeee ) thing is we've had a relationship we separated nothing bad, just bad timing but now she's like this all the time...

[Klaatu51]

if that's so i'd say it's teasful/playful mostly

[Asker]

That's what i thought, now if only i could figure it out aha curse mixed signals that aren't so mixed but are totally mixed mind warp...

[Klaatu51]

does she flirt wid other guys meanwhile?

[Asker]

Not as far as i know, she does talk to other guys yeah but isn't really flirty or like let's say on fb for example she puts a pic up or tags me in something or i add to it, say one guy says something she will put one x or two xx's at a stretch but when i comment or add to it's always 3 or 5 x's or extra letters or emotions or playful name calling, she has rejected two guys since we split and one in front of me who approached her then ignored her for three week then rang her while we were out, like he added her on fb and rang her through that, or she's got a little jealous when i mentioned someone messaging me she was like oh who and such before i said i didn't even know her and then once while we were out a female friend messaged me and she's like ooh who's that gosh you guys message a bit haha.

[Klaatu51]

multiple letters don't mean much in my opinion... but they'd mean mostly she likes teasin u... but if she went jelly when u mentioned someone else messaged u... might be a good sign she likes u

[Anonymous]

maybe she likes you. there was a girl that would say my full name and she liked me.

[Asker]

That's my thought pattern dude, she only seems to do it to me and as mentioned other things in the comment below, she's like that and very hands on or something like she slid down a bench after playfully attacking me... then was like i can't even get up now " help me up " ya know it's just little things like that, that make me think she wants more despite what's happened... confuzzled i am, i appreciate the input though just another little bit towards what i presume is the case and knowing i'm not loco coco.

[Anonymous]

Start teasing her about it.

[Asker]

I have been aha we've dated once and she still does it.