Guys, How do I get around the "bro code"?

[MonsterBunnie]

So I went to a club with my ex and we're in the process of becoming friends (he brought a date). I've been crushing on this guy that I only met after we broke up but turns out they're friends. I got a little too drunk and went up to him to kiss him and he being drunk too kissed me for like less than 2 seconds and then envoked "the bro code" how do I get around this? My ex and him aren't even that close considering they never hung out (unless they were in track which my ex is no longer on the track team) and we didn't meet till after the break up... Therefore they technically aren't really bros... I need help xD any advice?

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My ex has just confirmed that he'd be okay with me and this guy going out.

[Anonymous]

Move on. If he has it in mind that he doesn't want you, then respect that. If a guy was asking a question like yours, girls would call him a creep and scold him.

[MonsterBunnie]

He already showed interest because he asked my friend to introduce us officially (before the kissing fiasco)

[Bandit74]

Its not necessarily bro code, some guys just don't want to have sex with a girl that a friend of theirs has been with.

[MonsterBunnie]

No he was drunk and so was i and he specifically said I would but bro code

[Bandit74]

You said they werent even that close. He could just be using bro code as an excuse.

Even if he does agree to sleep with you, I doubt hell want a relationship with you. Hell most likely just want a friends with benefits sort of arrangement.

[MonsterBunnie]

No from what I've heard he's a really sweet guy. Like probably not used to drunk girls throwing themselves at him... (Yes Ik it was pathetic..20/20 hindsight)

[Bandit74]

I don't know then just talk to him. I dont get why bro code would apply if they aren't even friends.

[MonsterBunnie]

They were on the track team together so they talked but they don't hang out or anything

[Bandit74]

Well theyre either close or theyre not. If theyre not close and dont hang out, I dont see why it would matter.

[jjmarvin]

If the friendship is more important than one tryst then you really can't do anything. Friends don't want to make each other uncomfortable

[ConsultantIsBack]

They make it seem like there's an actual statute punishable by prison called the Bro Code lol.

[Anonymous]

You have to get your ex to relieve him of his bro obligation

[MonsterBunnie]

But what if my ex is an asshole? XD

[Anonymous]

If the friend is a good guy, he won't go with you. You, as a woman, need to respect the bro code

[MonsterBunnie]

The thing is we only met after the break up and he's better friends with one of my really close guy friends so why does it necessarily have to be "oh she's some guy I know's ex"?

[Opinion Owner]

Because that's how the bro code works. Just respect it, OK?

[Toad-1]

Yes, just respect it. move on