Showing you belly on a first date...slutty?? Pics

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Going on a date and I don't want this guy to be like "eww she needs to cover that sh*t up!"

I never show my belly in a top! Do guys think it's slutty or can it be kind of classy if done right?

s3tupMayne · Accepted Answer

Well it depends on the occasion and the weather. If you all are going out to eat at someplace nice, probably not a good idea. If you all are going to the movies and you're gonna have to bring a sweatshirt, again, probably not a good idea. I'm not really talking that it's strategically a bad idea, seeing as you'll have to put the sweatshirt on. What I mean is that when you dress in a way that shows you picked showing off your body over being practical, that right there is what sends off the "slutty vibe". To some degree, you have to fit in just so you don't send the wrong message.

The other thing is that you in particular have to be really careful with what you wear. While trying as hard as I possibly can do not be one of the guys who gets sexual when they answer every single question, you have a good body with good curves. Wearing a top that shows skin with white jeans especially (which are basically "booty jeans" because unlike black, they show EVERY contour of your body) is a pretty sexually commanding look when it's put on a body like yours. If you are having a daytime date (like lunch, dinner, going to the park, picnic, whatever), that dress may be a bit much. Even if your guy doesn't mind it, negative vibes from the girls around you will not help the date go well. And then, of course, there is the possibility that he may think you're trying too hard.

I think for both the guys and the girls, when it comes to the first date, you want to look as presentable as possible but also wear something fairly modest when it comes to the body. Like if a guy has a good body and you can tell underneath his shirt that it's nice, that's fine. But if he's wearing like a polo shirt with the collar popped and it's extremely tight and shows off every single muscle in his body like he's from Jersey Shore, well I mean maybe you'll be like "wow he's hott" but it's more likely that you'll see him and go "are you serious right now". In this situation, it's better to wear something nice and appropriate over something that's sexually revealing. When you guys have dated long enough that you think you're ready to go for the first kiss, that's when you can turn on the heat a little bit (if you already have in your mind "I am sooo going to kiss him on this second date I want it I want it" and you dress like that, well your dress is fine but that's a different problem).

The good thing is that when you're attractive, you don't really need to show off to let people know that you're attractive. Your body is good, you DEFINITELY don't need to dress it up to let people know it's there. We'll probably spot it if you're under a blanket, so you don't need to reveal anything, especially if you're worried about sending the wrong message. I mean go ahead if you're going to go to a bar or club, but if you're just on a date, you can look hot and play this one safe at the same time and that's probably your best bet.

yengesi · Accepted Answer

Are you kidding?  This isn't 1892.  Showing your belly is about the same as showing your shoulders or your knees.  It looks nice, but if you think it's risque you're wound a little too tight, and if you think it's slutty you're too prudish to date anyway.

hisangel · Accepted Answer

What you wear in general and what you wear on a date are two different things. What you wear in general is meant for all guys. What you wear on a date is meant just for him. So he is going to see it differently.

My boyfriends could tell me exactly what I wore on the first few dates. It definitely engrains in their head. If you are showing a little more skin then normal he is going to get the message you are ready to start fooling around. If you are, then the belly shirt is perfect. But if you are trying to take it a little slower, I would say wear something a little more modest. When you guys go on several dates and you break out the belly shirt or the cleavage, he will definitely remember it! I don't understand the logic but it's like he earned it. He did something right to get you to show him a little more skin. He feels like he is getting closer and closer to being intimate with you. When you wear revealing clothing from jump, he thinks you just want sex to get going, regardless of whether he earned it.

I actually knew a couple guys who said they seriously wanted the girl to cover up the first couple dates so they could get to know her instead of staring at her body the whole night.

saphirasilverwings · Accepted Answer

I know I'm not a guy, but it's my opinion that the picture you showed would be fine, however showing more than that wouldn't be. Showing your whole tummy could come off as slutty but a small strip of it seems pretty normal (when it is a nice shirt like the one in the pic and doesn't just look too small).

zombielove22 · Accepted Answer

Judging by the picture you posted, that outfit makes you look HOT! Seriously it's not slutty at all, it looks good and I don't see how ANY guy could think of it as slutty! Regardless of whether you decide to wear it on the first date or not, I think you look great!

YellowSidewalkChalk · Answer

dress the way you want to dress not according to what people think is "slutty"

if you like it then wear it.

i personally don't really go around with my stomach showing unless I'm wearing a bikini or a short looes fitting shirt, or if my shirt comes up when I stretch or reach for things or something. I don't have a belly button ring. its just not my style usually. back in late middle school/very early highschool I was into cut off shirts but I grew out of that quick.

1MysteryMan · Answer

If I I was the guy, I would think your not only out to catch my attention but every other guy at the movies, club, etc... Personally, from the minute I saw a female like that, the date would already be over...

Kismett · Answer

Don't show your belly the first date..or any date until your actually together and are not in public. It is really slutty and can not be classy even in the smallest of ways.

KMW10 · Answer

Well, I think it would give off the wrong impression if you showed your belly. Wait for a bit if you decide you want to wear a shirt that shows off your belly a bit. It sounds like you're a bit anxious about that and you've never done that before, so just be yourself and wear what you usually do. besides, you want to make the guy work for it a bit before he sees that amount of skin;)

AkaMaruChan · Answer

Better safe than sorry in my opinion, it's highly likely for someone to get the wrong impression so just play it safe and wear something more modest.

Beckat · Answer

I think that is a tasteful way to show some tummy and leave your belly ring in if that area of your body is showing.

Anonymous · Answer

you look cute. and since your legs are covered and most of your arms are and your top isn't tight, I'd say you look fine if your comfortable in it then that's what matters

sweet18 · Answer

No, even if you show just a LITTLE bit of skin, EVERYONE will point their finger at you and yell SLUTTTTTTTT

Anonymous · Answer

to a point it looks nice but it looks as if you want to just f*** on the first date too

Anonymous · Answer

That is something that should be worn on a third date.   You should dress a little more conservative on dates one and two.

DanielSan · Answer

um no that's fine and belly piercing are hot

l-hedoniste · Answer

You're fine. And keep the belly ring.

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