Girls, are there signs that you give to a guy when you want him to get physical?

[OlderAndWiser]

Most guys don't want to rush into a physical relationship so fast that it sends a girl packing, so they sit back trying to guess when it's the right time to start getting physical. We suspect that you ladies are trying to send us signals but your hints are so encrypted that we have no idea what you are telling us (unless you come out dressed like the girl in the picture; most of us know what THAT means!)

So. . . could you offer us some help with out foreign language lesson today? What kind of hints do you drop when you want us to start getting frisky?

[DerbyPi]

Honestly, when I was younger, I often waited—and waited—for the guy to make the first move. I used to be very shy. I waited a lot. Inside, I was antsy, waiting for the chance to make out and maybe fool around with my man. After I finally had sex—I craved it.

Nowadays, I’m done with dropping hints and trying out stupid mind games (like playing hard to get). If I want my man, I tell him. I tell him that he’s flipping sexy. I compliment him. With my current (and hopefully last) boyfriend, I tell him how hot I find his unwavering curiosity, his undeniable intelligence, his quick wit, his unfailing humor—also his shoulders, his butt, his beautiful eyes, his voice, et cetera. While I’m doing that, I’m running my hands over said (physical) areas and leaning in, nuzzling and kissing his neck.

[DerbyPi]

... Some girls are more shy, of course, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Everyone’s different. However, my shyer girlfriends indicate that they’re more likely to press their thigh against their man’s, play with their hair a bit, and lean their head on his chest—and gradually move their head a bit lower—if they’re interested in getting frisky. Women are all different, though, so it depends.

Ultimately, I’d suggest asking a significant other what they consider their signals to be, if you’re really confused. Tell them that you are attracted to them, but you don’t want to rush into something before they’re ready, and you want them to be comfortable with it. As long as you truly feel that way, and you communicate that to them effectively, I feel that a lot of women would appreciate it.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am usually fairly good at reading the signals. Usually! I posted this primarily for the benefit of the younger guys.

[DerbyPi]

I’m sure several of them appreciate it. =)

[OlderAndWiser]

Many of these guys in their late teens and in their 20's have as much experience as a 14 year old boy. I think it is mainly shyness, nerdiness, and not having anyone to offer them encouragement as a big brother would do. I try to fill in some gaps for them when I can.

[DerbyPi]

Keep it up! =)

[JessyDolores]

Me Personally I usually get right to it. If we make out I start rubbing his you know what and then I go down on him to start everything off

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, I do know what! :)

[JessyDolores]

;) <3

[Nyx_85]

Most guys? Where are these guys? MOST guys I've dated are 'trying' to get in my pants ASAP. Yes even the nerdy NON-JERK 'nice guys'! In fact they are usually the most eager. So wherever these 'most guys' exist would be nice to know!

I don't know. I find that if I like a guy and he likes me enough and I'm ready for it sex just happens. Not like "Whoops sex!" but like you know... Naturally. But if he is being more 'patient or 'shy'' then well... I just wait. I'm not god at being flirty. I try the come hither look and I get asked if I'm sleepy. Bite my lip too hard and it starts bleeding and then I need a tissue and I sitting there with a piece of toilet paper hanging off my lip... Try to wink at him and I look like I've got a nervous tick. He asks if I'm feeling ok. Flip my hair and get kink in the neck.

[Nyx_85]

*good. Obviously not a flirt god either.

[Anonymous]

The magic trick is communication. For most grown adults, they should probably have the "sex talk" with a new love interest by the third or fourth date. This is where you both just lay the cards on the table. You name some things you like, she names some things she likes, compare notes, and then talk about the safe sex stuff, and figure out how ready you both are.

I think a lot of people think if they talk about it then they might "spook" the sex and it will run off into the woods. I just hate ambiguity. I love seduction, I love the little dance we do when we're sizing each other up, but there is nothing better than being straight and up-front with each other.

[mysterygi]

I feel like if a guy doesn't want to get physical with you... he's not attracted to you.

But it might be what you're saying - he doesn't know if you're ready for it.
It might not be the most romantic way of doing it but for the sake of just getting into a guy's pants successfully, tell him...

otherwise...

do other things people suggested

[Xoxocutekitty]

Prolonged eye contant. If he's smart. Hell get the hint. if he's on the slower side, he'll know that you're expecting him to do... something. At which point he'll probably ask and then it easy to say a cute line, "just thinking about..." to get his gear churning.

[BelleMmichelle]

It's really simple, I just touch them. In North American culture touching is somewhat taboo, so if I'm touching you on your arms it's expected that you reciprocate or I'll have to stop. hahaha Stroking your arm, a soft smile that hits my eyes, getting close... etc. etc. you should be able to *feel* it

[Anonymous]

We will start being really..."touchy". By that I mean not want to take our hands off of you. Some girls might even touch you "down there" or on your chest to let you know. Now this doesn't always and only mean that. A girl might also just straight out tell you in words. She could also have slower movements (kissing, rubbing, ect)

[Sakura99]

Flirt more than usual, dress sexier, try to initiate foreplay hopefully leading to sex. (Those are the main ones I can think of, also don't ever do the last one without consent)

[Alej27]

Dress sexy show some skin and act a bit flurty laugh a lot... enjoy my time and dance. And i let him approach or act comfortable when he touches me or other

[Chrysis]

Pulling him on me/straddling him while making out.
Not letting him get away when he tries to retreat.
Saying "These are in the way" while tugging at his pants.
Or I just say I wanna get it on now.

[Anonymous]

I usually look my boyfriend in the eyes and it's like deep. You know it's hard to say, you're right cause my sign are so hard to understand.. I also touch his leg a lot.. I'm just too shy to bring it up

[Blonde401]

Literally get undressed usually and they get the hint 😂

[Kelann]

I just come out with it. Or talk dirty and tease. You know what I find its best to ask them to let you know when they are ready if you don't what to offended.

[OlderAndWiser]

Oh, the virtues of a female who is a woman and not a girl!

[AthleticMom]

I put my body close to his in all sorts of ways to get his steam building up enough to do something about all that

[Anonymous]

- prolonged eye contact with leaning forward or head tilting
- grazing your arm/shoulders/legs
- biting lips
- staring you up & down
- staring/gazing at you longingly
- sitting extremely close to you
- voice changes (softer, lower)

[strangytie]

I don't make eye contact with people, so if I start making it with you that's a green light that I trust you

[Kate_Xx]

like lips, heavy lidded look, long slow kisses, rub up on him a little bit

[Anonymous]

Sexy dress (show cleavage, legs, etc...) high heels and make up.

[mariadelacotcho]

telling him simply or making the first move as kissing him and pulling him so tie while touching him

[behappybabe]

If he isn't making a move, I will.

[Anonymous]

I grab his crotch pretty much. Lol

[OlderAndWiser]

A woman who knows what she wants and knows how to express herself in clear and unmistakable terms!

[TaylorSpliff]

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