Do you ever get over your first big crush?

[bubblyblonde]

Ok so here's the thing.When I joined high school my older brother was in sixth form college at my school (4yrs between us) anyway I had huge crush on his best mate, I used to take photos of him, try and see him at lunch breaks, swoon and die if he ever spoke to me (you know those crushes you have at 12yrs-14yrs old). So my brother is still best mates with him and have seen him lots of times since normally at family birthday parties so its him his wife and kids. But last night was my birthday met my brother and this best mate for drinks after work, had a great night, such a good laugh. This best mate told me how much I had blossomed and looked fantastic.now I'd NEVER do anything with him cause I am not that sort of person.but how great did I feel when my old high school crush (who still looks hot even 20 years on) tells me I look great - I did feel like a teenager again! So do we ever get over our crushes or is it that normally we just never see them ever again?

[Anonymous]

There was this guy that I absolutely adored in middle school. I liked him for three years. But then after 8th grade, I had to be home schooled. All of my friends and he went to the high school I was supposed to go to if I had still been in school. I never saw him again. I am now in college, but sometimes I still think of him. He was so nerdy and adorable and hilarious. He used to tease me all the time, and we used to laugh at each other. Well, recently I found him on Facebook . I do not have a FB, but I made up one, a pseudonym, so maybe just maybe I could catch a glimpse of him again. I found him and I sent him a message. He has a beautiful girl friend and he seemed so happy, but it was still crushing. After all those years, I am still not totally over him. It just seemed like he was the one for me. It's stupid, I know, but I feel like he is the one, but I know it won't ever happen. I deleted my fake FB; he never responded to the message. It's ok; he doesn't know it's me, and I am going to pretend it never happened. But, see, I never got over my big crush...

[prettygirl]

well, sounds so much like me. I had a terrible crush on my mom's collegue's son when in my high school, its been 10 years now, and I still think of him DAILY, not a single day passed since I saw him when I did not think of him. Of course, now I don't have that intense hormonal rush when I think of him, but I'm sure the fire is not very hard rekindle, only if he reciprocates back and talks those oh-so-sweet tings with me. The reason that he did not reciprocate my feelings for him made me move past him, I did not want anymore of my emotional investment on hm in vain. but yeah, I think of him everyday, to this day.

[skootz]

me personally, yes, because honestly I have no idea why I was into these loserish overweight type guys when I was at that age where I started to like guys. but now I look back on it and I now think what the hell was I thinking lol. so yea I am totally over my first boyfriend. trust me. I survived the heartbreak of him now wanting to play WoW for the rest of his life lol.

[WeaponZero]

My first real crush was a girl from 7th grade who I never got the guts to tell her how I felt because all my guy friends didn't like her and said all these bad things about her. She was in 2 of my 6 classes and honestly I was so infatuated with her that the thought of seeing her in class everyday was what kept me from skipping school. Her name was Faith Bennett. It doesn't matter now I suppose because we ended up moving away from there at the end of the school year, but I often wonder whether things would be different for me now if I had gotten up the guts to approach my 7th grade crush. Maybe that little insignificant moment would have drastically changed my life like in the movie Mr. Destiny. Maybe I would be more comfortable with girls now if I had just ignored my friends then and went for her.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Lifeson]

Its like cancer, it goes into remission but it never goes away completely. Not a happy example but the closest to what its really like. I got over mine to the point where I can be friendly and civil around them but it one of my crushes was to come around asking me to do something, it would be hard to say no. mostly I think we just don't see them again.

[idancemuch]

Last time I met my first highschool crush I got a reminiscence of my passion for her. The feelings really fade but I still remember how it felt, I was somehow confused, when got the note, that she had married someone. So, I say, we don't get over completely, unless we spend much time involved in romantic relationship with our crush of the past, or find find that special one and stop caring about the past

[LisaMay89]

I never got over my first crush. My first one was in middle school. He was soooo cute. If I saw him gain, I'd probably be really flustered.