How long does it take for you to get over a crush?

[WonderBell99]

Normally, I get over my crushes in 2-3 months. How about yourself?

[Anonymous]

Well it depends on how much we interacted. If she’s not interested I rather know right away even rudely if need be.

The absolute worst case scenario is when she is semi interested at first but changes her mind (without saying anything) and makes a unilateral decision to friéndzone. Lots of women feel no shame about this setup either. Because they don’t want the attention going away and want to have an “orbiter” around to exploit when need be.

That happened to me more than I like to admit in my younger and more naive days. I wasted a lot of time, chivalry, hope, effort on women deserved absolutely none of it. That was not easy to get over at all. Because it was a respect issue. Not only did I end up hating her but I ended up hating myself for being suckered. I have zero good memories of any women who friendzoned me. Absolutely nothing positive comes to mind when I remember them.

But the hard past lessons have given effective radar on identifying that crap (some older women still think that about bs okay). So I get over disappointments quickly now. I know when to quit.

[WonderBell99]

Total facts! Some guys do this too! I wish people were more honest about how they truly feel about someone. It’d save the other person so much heartache and time.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve confess I have done it twice when I was much younger. But I didn’t speak because I felt bad for both women. I never took advantage of either one of them.

However I have has SEVERAL women try to pull this bullshit on me because I am a genuine nice guy. Several including grown ass women in their 30s.

They don’t get away with it any more. I wised up to that crap a long time ago. But I when a grown woman does this I get pissed. Really pissed. She knows exactly what she is doing and her intentions are 100% conceit.

[razelove]

The moment I get a date or rejection by them. A crush is only a difficult thing if you never try to see how things would play out. If you make an honest attempt, even if it's a small one, there's no regrets or obsessions there.

Things just go as they'll go, which can even be completely terrible, but I look back on a life without regrets :)

[WonderBell99]

Great advice! I’d also like to add that it’s not healthy to have preconceived ideas about our crushes and expecting them to live up to that. I remember doing this once and I was a bit disappointed to find out that he wasn’t who I thought he was once I got to know him better.

When I was in high school, I had a major crush on this guy who probably never even knew that I existed lmao. The moment I came to know that he liked someone else, my crush on him disappeared.

[razelove]

That sounds about right, and it's why I like that saying "putting pussy on a pedestal". If you keep looking at someone from afar and deifying them, though they have positives and flaws the same as you, eventually you will build up a wall where they become unapproachable, whatever genitals are up on that pedestal.
The moment you just start talking, preconceived notions can't hold up against what simply is.

[Pinay_ako]

Depends. But a crush is just a crush. Sometimes I’m over it before it even begins. I crush the feeling before I get into deep

[ohsheeT]

First of all you have to understand what a crush is a crush is somebody that comes into your life allows you to be you and allows moments for you to express who you are and what you're all about so many times you were here when somebody breaks up this person made me feel this this person made me feel like that this person made me feel all these wonderful things but what you have to understand is that person didn't make you feel anything you allowed yourself to feel those things those feelings only came from you because you're the only one inside your body that can give yourself those feelings with that person did is that person allowed you to be you an open doors with inside of you to express yourself this Freedom this beauty and allowed you to feel those moments of who you really are because nobody has ever opened those doors for you before most people think about it as love I'd love this person cuz they made me feel this way no that person opened up the door for you with inside of your body for you to be able to express the beauty that you have Within you have so much knowledge and so many things inside of you and they're not going to come out until somebody opens that door for you somebody gets you in that moment in time where you can express yourself all those feelings that you felt all came from you nobody else so you have to understand that it was all you he just opened those stores inside of your heart inside your mind so you could express how you feel and it is beautiful it was a beautiful moment but it all came from you that's how you get over it you understand that

[Legendarylegacy13]

🤣🤣🤣props on having the longest opinion... lol I have ever not read🤣🤣🤣... lol

[DizzyDesii]

I can get over exes easily like a week tops. But crushes are very hard to get over because it comes and goes then comes back. Like some people i’m crushing on this year are people i liked years ago then couldnt stand for a while and then like em again 🤣

[WonderBell99]

Omg this is actually super relatable! It’s happened to me so many times 😂🤍

[DizzyDesii]

Lol yea

[BullShark]

It all depends on how much we interacted, how close we got, and whether or not we're still in contact. Like for me mostly, I don't get a crush on random people I may see or cross paths with on random. For me to develop a crush on someone (which itself is rare considering I have very specific tastes in girls), I have to connect with them on a certain level.

First and foremost, we must have had a proper conversation where we exchanged information like names, interests and maybe even phone numbers. After that, we must be talking for a while and that too, regularly. After that if, and ONLY if I develop a crush on them, it all boils down to what I see in them that I liked so much, and if we're still keeping in contact. If we stop talking altogether, I'll get over them within a week or so. And if we were really close and they hurt me or something, it may take longer. Probably a month.

[catiecatie]

Can honestly depend on the situation and how they treat me. I had this crush, I asked him for drinks and he told me he was talking to someone. Alright well I tried. I think I kept that crush for about 5 months until I found another guy I’m currently crushing on! This one has only been for a little over a month and I think the feeling is mutual. At least that’s what my male friends say to me when I ask them about the stuff he’s doing.

[OfMiceandMen]

I usually take a few months on the lower side, depending on how long we were together. It was a few years after my wife passed that I started seeing someone else, it took my daughter setting me up with one of her school teachers.

[WonderBell99]

I’m sorry for your loss. 🤍

Aw, your daughter is a true wingwoman! haha. That was really sweet of her.

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks. Ya, she thought I'd been single long enough.

[Blackcupcake]

I don’t remember the last time I had a crush on someone… and I don’t develop crushes either… hahaha. but if someone catches my eye, my interest will last for as long as I see them, which is minutes or even seconds

[WonderBell99]

Lucky!

[On_cloud_wine]

It’s been over 3 years and still non stop thinking of this person so I’m thinking it’s more than a crush?

[WonderBell99]

Have you tried making a move on him?

[On_cloud_wine]

Yes, I approached him first.. I stopped talking to him long story but he’s mad at me.

[Monalisa77]

Its more than a crush now since last September. I didn't expect to be feeling like this now, it really feels like we should be going out its that strong (and i know what people have been saying but then i dont think id be feeling like this if they were right)

[itsalyssaagain]

I don’t get over things easily. Like 1-2 years at least 😭

[WonderBell99]

Dang😭

[itsalyssaagain]

Yeah it’s hard out here being me 😂

[Anonymous]

Depends how long I'm mentally in a relationship with them.😆 This is why I don't allow that. Either I ask them out, or I don't allow myself to feel anything for them. Because if I ask them out and they don't feel the same then it's over. There's nothing to feel bad about. But if I allow myself to feel something for her and she doesn't know that and doesn't feel the same then it hurts when she turns me down.

[Anonymous]

Usually the same, like I had a crush on my friend but it away, this time it's lasting longer with my co worker, because he's giving me mixed signals, like as soon I realize we will just be friends he just starts to throw all kinds of mixed signals and it just confuses me so much lol

[Anonymous]

I still have a crush on a girl i haven't seen in a year. But i was scared to ask her out because i wasn't exactly in the greatest shape. I was very fat so i had a feeling she would say no. But im trying to change myself and lose more weight to get better confidence with girls.

[art84]

When a girls shows interest in you then backs away and moves to another person who she is interested in. The good thing is I wasn't friends with this girl nor was she interested in me. Took a year as I always thinking about her and couldn't stop. It wasn't until I saw that she had a baby and gotten married was when I got over the crush. Still kinda hurt seeing her married with a baby looking like the perfect family.

[LiamJHayden]

I have really had a crush since middle school. I get over a break up really quickly. Only once did it take more than a day, and that was because neither of us really wanted to part but she left for university on the East Coast and I live and have a business on the Pacific Coast.

[sheikalana]

It usually takes some time for me usually around 6 months. But after my last relationship I met someone after 1/2 months and got into a serious relationship with my current partner.

[molonski2]

I think this question is very age dependent , as a tennager there may be lots of crushes , quite frequent , makes it pretty easy to move on , not sure you can put a time limit on as each interaction is different.

[strateguy632]

just a couple days. lovers took me longer a couple weeks

[Wisdom-Strength-Love]

Well if you have an inactive sex life, basically could be as little as the potential opportunity or a person who expresses crushing in you, or as long as never getting over

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