Its depends on the guy i usually get thrown off when girl approaches me first and its almost always at unexpected time and so i am not ready and it fizzles out rapidly. Its especially troublesome if they come over and then expect you to carry on the conversation straight away. I understand why they do it since regardless who approaches who girls still the want guy to lead and be confident in the conversation otherwise the girl has to and its not attractive. I suppose if it happens enough times you just get used to it and my conversation skills aren't exactly refined and i am socially awkward so regardless if girl or guy approaches me i tend act a little awkward if they catch me off guard thought woman tend to throw me off more. Some guys will act better to a direct female approach but also depends on whether or not he finds her attractive but others will probably freak out depending on there social skills and what they think about the girl. When it comes to approaching both genders fear the same results and so most woman rather be approached than risk rejection if approach first.
I personally like the idea of woman approaching first since it makes it easier to gauge how interested she is but i have rarely had a good interactions when it happens but i suppose its matter of confidence and social intelligence to get used to it.
Guy are harder to get to talk freely about themselves. Always try to keep the conversation open ended and small, don't try to force personal information from them. Like if you see he's wearing a Marvel t-shirt, then motion towards his t-shirt and ask "What are some of your favorite Marvel movies? I like ____ because _____." This way he can elaborate and you can ask questions on those elaborations. He also won't feel uncomfortable because he won't be sharing personal feelings. Just avoid topics about family, friends, and life goals unless he brings them up first.
Eye contact and body position are the tell-tale signs for interest of any kind. If they're not holding eye contact with you and making no effort to do so (i. e., I don't mean that they're looking at you and quickly averting their gaze, but that they're simply staring past you or not in your direction), it's likely they're not interested. If the centre of their body is angled away from you, it's also an indicator of no interest.
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They do, trust me. But I imagine they're not used to people initiating conversations with them. Honestly, think about it, it's kind of a rare thing for a guy to have someone try to engage them without wanting something specific.
Also they're like 18yo guys of course they're going to be awkward and not really know what to do.
Furthermore girls assume completely platonic intentions on your part. In part because girls tend to assume people are just being friendly.
Guys are musing the idea that you're chatting them up and their mind is probably going to be on fire wondering what to do.
Some people are just shy and don't show interest as well as they'd like. Some people have a hard time expressing themselves and end up self-conscious and quiet. You're going to have to get better at distinguishing shyness from disinterest, and the only way to get there is through experience
If they're not talking to anyone -there's nothing wrong with talking happily to anyone - even with no intention to date them! I think that's the problem us guys all face... A lot of girls will simply reject and decline any conversation with any guy, simply because of the possibility that the guy is trying to get in her pants. (Fair enough a lot are... But not all)
Actually i should try this, to curve my social awkwardness lol,
But yes i like when women approach me, ofc sometimes i get shy and dont really add much to the convo but is someone id remember for the next time and become less tense and more engaging.
Find something that interest him like if he's wearing a DBZ shirt or if he likes xxx tv series if not ask him what he watches if its the same jackpot. But if he's not make short bursts of eye contact that usually means im busy go away
It really depends
Personally I'd enjoy a good convo
But there are some stuff that u gotta know
Like there was this creepy stalker of mine who'd be wherever i am and would approach me whenever she could! Like she'd give me compliments on everything
Would hold my off class would call my name like really loud!
Or when some of them start a conversion when im in the middle of another! Or when I'm in a hurry or leaving
But i don't see a reason, other than these, not to talk to a girl
I think I'd be cool if a girl approached me first for a conversation.
Yes i do much better if a girl approaches me to talk and make conversation than i usually take things from there.
Think about how you'd want a guy to approach you, and do that. Men and women aren't really that different, we just usually play different roles.
I'd enjoy it, but if your mind is on other things, and especially because women tend to not initiate conversation with strangers, it can be surprising and leave you with no idea how to have a meaningful conversation.
Sure, there are a lot of men afraid of girls's respondings and reactions otherwise there's some men who are shy to start up conversation, moreover when girls do there would be a chance of building a relationship more than inversion.
Of course especially if we are attracted to her, me personally I always hated the gender role that guys have to be the initiators
Yeah a lot of guys like it when a girl makes the effort, it shows initiative and confidence, believe it or not most guys want exactly the same thing most girls do
I find it cool when a girl wants to talk to me first.
i personally do. but than again im scared 2 talk 2 women. lol
If she's hot then the guy's thinking "ya, free pussy!"
If she's not then its "why is this strange girl talking to me and how do I get her to leave?"
Maybe your just good looking and they get abit shy or your just a freak and they wonder why your trying to talk to them
Yeah I would think it was awesome if a girl approached me
I would love for a woman to approach me instead of women thinking it always has to be the man
Yup, definitely a confidence boost when a girl approaches a guy first
If the guy doesn't respond enthusiastically he isn't attracted to you.
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