I've been a relationship with a male sexual worker, and needless to say I won't do it again. The relationship was toxic, and I didn't trust him because he was still working while we were together, and I couldn't tell if he was cheating or not. I guess you'll need to clarify boundaries with your partner and some way to ensure that you're not having more than sexual relations with another woman i. e get emotionally attached. I also refused to have anything sexual to do with him because I felt like I wasn't competent enough or I couldn't match up with the women he worked with, and I felt like I couldn't keep his job separate from our relationship.
Hmmm it wouldn't be an ideal situation for girls in general.
As for my opinion, I feel like the only way I would be okay with it, is to :
1. understand the reasons why the guy chose to do this in the first place (hardships), and why he needs to continue to do it if he is still making money this way
2. Reallllllyyyy be reassured that he does not feel anything for these girls, that he wants me and a serious relationship, and that its more like any annoying job.
3. Be reassured about safety/std's.
Honestly, that is a tough one.. On one hand... he is most likely going to be amazing in bed and know all the tricks of the trade... on the other hand... would he be bored of sex already? Would I be able to please him since he has had so many more partners to compare me too.. maybe a little insecure.. but ask yourself this.. could you date a girl you knew slept with 250 men? ... I couldn't date him if he was going to stay active in it.. I couldn't handle him being friends with any of the girls he made porn with either... best advice IF you truly are wanting to be in a relationship.. be honest about your past but leave out the number lol. :)
I would have a problem with it cause it would make me insecure about myself. If he has slept with so many women then that means he is not a one woman guy. It won't mean anything because he has done it so many times before. A girl wants to feel special not one of many.
The way I see it, it's just their job. It's how they make an income and they make a really good income too. When it comes to dating it matters more about the guy's personality. However, if you date a normal girl, she could be insecure or feel like she'd never pleasure you the way other pornstars do even if it's staged, so you should definitely not allow her to watch your films. Other then that, just get tested a lot and then it's just like having a separate work life balance.
I would think he has absolutely no standards and is a joke. Anyone willing to fuck anyone and anything can get out of my way of being even remotely a love interest much less a preferable sexual partner. To me it shows that the person has no taste, no self-respect, and thinks of quantity over quality. Having many sexual partners in your life is fine, but if you're telling me you did porn and it got to that extent, then I know you've been fucking with a lot of busted women which is just not attractive at all. If you like sex, totally fine, but do it with people who you choose, not people who you have access to.
Yeah. I mean, if that's his job, he's probably going to continue doing as such right? I couldn't be with someone that is with many other people sexually at the same time. I'm not really all that sexual either, so that plays a part as well.. And if I were to be sexual with someone, i wouldn't want someone that has sex often.. it wouldn't mean as much in my opinion and having sex in general for me is hard to even think about if it's not one specific person. For other people, they may not like it because they're afraid of being conpared.
If it's a serious relationship then of course I would have a problem with him sleeping with other women as a job. If he wants to be with me then I wouldn't want to share his body even if he doesn't have feelings for the other women.
But I wouldn't care if it was a part of his past, as long as he wasn't doing it while he's in a relationship with me.
I think there's plenty of women who would have no problem with it since it's work and also women can be very sexual beings as well. A woman would have to be polyamorous, plenty are, to want to be in a relationship with an adult film star which I pretty much think it means you're polyamorous as well. Sex and love are very different things, but some people want exclusivity anyway which they are entitled to. Just be honest and look for someone who isn't monogamous. If they are rude to you because of what you do, then you're better off. Having lots of sex with different people doesn't mean you're any less of a person as long as you're honest and respectful.
I think for many, it's difficult to feel comfortable dating/sleeping with a man who has had sex that many times. For me personally, it took me a very, very long time to feel comfortable having sex with my girlfriend before marriage, so because of my history with that, it probably wouldn't work out with me. However, for the average lady, I think if you genuinely care about her, you're clean, and you treat her right, then the number of people you've slept with shouldn't matter. That goes for dating men, too. In some of the other comments I saw you say you're entering the dating scene; I wish you the best of luck, and hope your upcoming date goes well!
I mean If the guy is wanting to be in a committed relationship and he is honest and trying to be with the right one, he should make the effort and it doesn't kill to try with him, but I am spiritual If he continues that way, he can try to ignore it, but he is collecting a lot of other people's energies and it's not even good for him, spiritually, mind, and body he could get sick, if he isn't careful, it's really easy these days to get an STD, but if he wants to wipe the sleight clean and have something real, you should see if where it goes
I personally would be okay with it, but I wouldn't want the details of any of it to be discussed. Just like I don't like partners talking about their exes a lot. As long as you are up front and honest about it to begin with, treat them like royalty, and act like yourself (which I hope is a good person :p) then I think you will be perfectly okay!
The person you want to be with will probably have to be confident and not be insecure though because I can see where there would be problems there
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