How to take the next step, from flirting to dating?

[Anonymous]

I put this in flirting because "dating" hasn't come up yet...

anyways this girl I know, she's attracted to me, I'm attracted to her...we talk, daily for the most part...she'll call me 3-4x a week before she goes to bed, especially if I haven't really talked to her all day. We talk about hanging out, yet I've tried to make 2-3 plans to hang out 1v1 and its either she wants to bring her friend along or she forgot and has plans...for example I get half days on fridays, so I asked when she worked...she said 11-2 then 4-9. I was like hey so let me take you out to java's on east ave for a quick lunch(this was Thursday morning). Thursday night I get a text, oh hey I just forgot until now I have plans I completely forgot lets plan for next friday!? :) well since this wasn't the first time soemthing weird like that has happened I assumed it was just a way to get out of the 1v1 thing. Its so confusing, I just don't get it...its like we are "phone dating" but she won't let me take her out for something quick. I told her I really just wanted to get to know her better and see what sehs about. she said that we can do it soon and then that's when "next friday" came up - no not the movie lol. she'll also post FB pics and ask me how I feel about them and if she's attractive and looks for my "approval" on certain things.

Am I reading the signs wrong here...do you think she's into me? we havn'et hooked up yet, she's always told me she's wanted to, should I just go for it and kiss her lol? We see each other every weekend at teh bar... Am I approaching the situation the wrong way. I wanted to do it as "ok I'm going to do this with you", like I'm taking charge and trying to make something happen, being a man and having confidence...even if it is only one time and I realize eh she's not what it hought...what can I do, what am I doing wrong? .is she just into me for attention? I don't know I'm just really confused and could use some advice.

i'd prefer written advice rather than the poll. Really just looking for the next step, what you think my options are and how to approach the situation.

Go for the kiss and see where things go

You're and idiot, she's completely playing you and just likes the attention

She digs you, take things slow, don't rush

Ask her if she's still down for this upcoming friday, hope for the best

Just play it off, like you don't care, she'll come around eventually

[ImSoSozzled]

I would say, see what happens this Friday. Honestly, it seems like she just likes the attention right now. If she tries to put it off in some way, again, I would change up your game plan. She probably knows you like her so she just enjoys stringing you along. Just start acting a little less interested. Always wait for her to call you and if yall do talk, make sure you end the conversations and keep them short. But still act a little flirty, not totally cold.

Good luck man...I hate it when girls act like that.

[Asker]

Yeah that's what I've been doing...and actually last night she asked about Friday and if we were still on, well I can't in the afternoon because my buddy is coming up for along weekend so I asked about Monday afternoon since I have off for columbus day...she said for sure she wants to go...soooooo I guess we'll have to wait and see till monday, thanks for the response tho I appreciate it!

[ImSoSozzled]

Your welcome. I think that was probably the best thing to do anyway. now she knows you have friends that are more valuable to you than she is and you have no problem cancelling on her,

[Anonymous]

I don't blame you for being confused. Hate to say it but she may be an attention seeker who in the end is going to keep you in the friend zone so she can ask your opinions on outfits.

I could be wrong though.

[Asker]

Lol so confusing!!! well I responsed to the guy above, so its on for monday, we'll just see what happens I guess :) thank you for your time