How do you go from flirting to dating?

[ShyButterfly]

So I like this guy and he likes me. I've made it known I like him and he's made it known he likes me. I know his friends, he knows mine and we've hung out on several occasions. I just got back from a four day weekend and he gave me like the worlds longest hug and told me how he missed me and such. He's even asked me the "hypothetical" question of 'So if I asked you out what would you say?'.

I've known this guy for about four months and this has been going on for like three, it's no secret I want to date him. I don't want to leave things alone but I don't know what to do either. How do you go from flirting everyday friends to a dating couple? Do I bring up and talk to him about it? Or...I'm confused. Help.

[bobair]

It's unfortunate that today's boys are somewhat feminized and feel uncertain about making decisions. But that's an entire other topic...

The easiest thing you can do is make it super clear that you're interested and open to seeing more of him.

1) Be more obvious. Sometimes guys just don't get it. This means more flirting. See if that helps. Just don't come across as needy or easy.

2) Don't pressure him with words like "boyfriend" or "dating." I mean, what is DATING? It's spending time with someone who you're creating an intimate relationship with. You can do that with him WITHOUT calling it dating. Simply hang out with him a few times a week, outside of school and work, and take that time to get closer with him, emotionally and physically.

3) Escalate your physical touch. This helps him feel more confident around you and helps you seem more open to being "asked out."

How? Start touching his arm when he makes you laugh. Start hugging him when you first say hello. Grab his hand when you need help stepping off a curb, or out of a car. Play with his hair when you're sitting close sharing secrets. When you sit next to him let your legs and hips touch his. Etc. The idea to help him want to kiss you.

4) Tell one of his friends. Simply say, "Hey, does Tom like me? I flirt with hm all the time but he's not making his move. Am I wasting my time?" His buddy will pass on this info to him.

5) Be prepared to realize that he might not be into you. Sometimes guys like girls as just friends. It sucks if he doesn't like you as much as you like him, but that's the way of the world. Not everyone will like everyone else. Just like that creepy guy in class likes you.

I hope this helps, and good luck,

~ Robby

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[superdudeman]

Whats funny about this is if you were a guy saying this about a girl I would tell you its over and to move on that she doesn't like you. But since its a guy saying this it completely changes the meaning. The problem with asking a guy out, is now you might be considered a slut by your piers. I get that. You need something that just says "hey ask me out!" without actually saying it.

You could say the same thing back to him that he asked you ""hypothetical" question of 'So if I asked you out what would you say?'. "

Or you could just touch him more and see how he reacts. Get physical with him when no one is looking. Nothing too extreme> maybe holding his hand, touch his arm playfully. The kinds of things flirty girls do when they like a guy. Keep doing that and he'll probably get the hint to ask you out.