How do I be patient with a guy who wants to take it slow and not rush things.

[flotus88]

This guy who I have known for two weeks wants to take things slow and not rush thing..And I am fine with that as long as there will be progress..ie talking hanging out and getting to know each other. So my question is...How can I be patient with this? I have in the past not been able to do so and I want to do it right this time..so any tips or advice would be great :) thanks

[Prisca]

hm.. I have had two guys said that to me. One I could see not interested in starting a relationship with me, just wanting to play around and would never take me seriously. I ended it soon afterward. The other guy was really caring and honest but he wanted to take things slow because he was stuck in a bad relationship in the past (psycho, controlling wife). I understood. Now the second guy is officially my boyfriend and our relationship is the strongest I've ever had. Which type of guy do you think your guy is?

My opinion: This is an opportunity for you to enjoy the dating stage. First tell him what you tell us: "I am fine with taking things slow as long as there will be progress". That is really important to let him know. Also you have to really mean it. You won't wait forever. If your gut tells you that something's wrong and you think you've waited too long, then talk to him and step out with no regrets. You've given him a chance.

Good luck,

[flotus88]

I think he does want to...it is just going to take time. He wants to make sure he is doing the right thing and not rush into something if he is not ready for it. He and I will be spending time together, he said it not me and he is excited about it and he liked the sound of it.. so that's good right? We also will talk later today. I do like him and I want to make it work and I am willing to put in the work.also, I have for the first time enjoyed the getting to know you stage its fun and new to me

[flotus88]

Oh and I also told him that I am fine with being slow as long as there is progress...so he knows that and he is fine with it...

[xoamjk92x]

I'm going through the same thing. I met this guy almost two months ago, and we both agreed to take it slow. We've made progress already, but it is going pretty slow. Just let him take his time and wait until he's comfortable, because you'll want to take things at your pace later on. Plus, it makes him feel like he's in control. lol

[sillysally]

If you like him enough, you will be.

Don't give him a false sense of love though. If you aren't up to it, let him know!

[ArrowDumper]

You've known him for two weeks. You don't want know him? I mean you can't trust him...what if he said OK let's go out and dumped you after a month. But I think he is smart...he takes his time to get to know you and if the relationship is gonna work. You should do the same ... you may not think the same when you really get to know him. There should be progress...if you don't see progress .. he is using it as an excuse for not interested in you!

[yengesi]

Guys who say that only say it to impress girls. He's dying to get in your pants but he likes you too, and he knows if he shows it you'll think he's just another horndog and you'll blow him off. Tell him you're going to jump his bones no matter how much he protests, and you're not going to blow him off just because he likes it, and everything will be fine.

[Xenophobia]

Being patient and taking things slow means:

Don't rush into situations that are intimate in nature. Take things step by step, to see where things go. If you give up the good too soon before real emotions have a chance to develop, the relationship will end before it even started.

Good Luck!

[brkadv]

You said:

"How can I be patient with this? I have in the past not been able to do so"

What does that mean? Why were you not able to do so? What made you unable?

No way to really answer your question without knowing that.

[flotus88]

Like that I would be push it more and try and make it go faster by texting the guy all the time, wanting to hangout with him 24/7 and not giving him the space...does that help?

[Anonymous]

You can be patient by waiting until he is ready. I know this sounds really bitter but I will bet money if he tried to get in your pants right away you would be posting questions complaining about that too LOL.