Girlfriend still has feelings for her ex - what do I do?

[xxxifeelpainxxx]

Okay so my girlfriend and I have been going out for 4 months as of today and about a month ago she told me that she has been thinking of her ex a lot. So of course I broke it off and then a week we got back together we basically broke up on and off for like a month. The reason we kept coming back together was because she says she gets really sad even sick when she's not with me and she says she wants to forget about her ex. So I guess she says she has been trying to forget about him and I'm pretty sure this is the truth. So recently things have been going really good the past 3 weeks and then I brought up the question if she got over her ex and she said she almost was. She's trying and she thinks of him in a bad way and she doesn't see him or anything because she purposely avoids and ignores him. I just don't know what I should do should I give it a little longer because things are going good because we fixed some of our problems. Do I give her a chance to get over him? or should I just break up with her because I'm afraid that if her ex likes her again she might start thinking about him again but if she's over him then that won't happen so I don't know what do you guys think?

[stupidguy]

it really depends on how much you like the girl. if she is the one then the best thing to do is understand that she is human and that she can't controll how she feels about someone, just like you can't control feelings of jealousy or insecurity when she thinks about her X.

over time things might change, but it is definitely not a good situation to be in for the present.

i had the same problem some years ago so I know what it is like, but now, her feelings for him are gone.

the best thing to do would be to talk to her like a human being when she is feeling bad about her X - to go agiainst your instincts and just be there for her when she is feeling down. if you can help her through it the two of you will come closer togethr, and if you really care for her then help her..

otherwise move on or just let it play out for a while and see what happens...

[Wlad14]

You have to be very careful with this. It depends a lot on who borke up with whom. If she broke up with him, chances are she doesn't wany him back for a reason. but if he broke up with her she might just be with you , and waiting for a call from an ex. I'm not saying that this is what it is, but be very carefull , getting hurt is no fun. In my case my ex dumped me, got with this guy I don't know how soon after. While she tells me that she doesn't want to be with me, she text me behind his back and tell me that she thinks of me alot. The guy seems so dedicated to her, I feel bad for him( funny right) but when I did confirm that he was in the picture I stop replying and told her to sort herself out ,either him or me. who know's what she's going to do, she may end up hurting him. so play your cards right. and more thing don't pressure to forget about him.

[xxxifeelpainxxx]

Well I know for a fact she doesn't want him back he's tried txting her a few times and she showed me and deleted it and she puposely avoids him and doesn't want any contact with him. she just wants to get over him for me but I don't know I guess its hard for her or something but she is making progress I guess

[Wlad14]

Well be there for her, but give her some space . Because you don;t want to be the rebound guy. thast nota beautiful feeling. Be there for her but don't be too Available.

Wish you luck !