Guys why do some of you act like this?? Flirt then ignore!

[Anonymous]

One day we see you, you are nice and flirt like there's no tomorrow and then the next time we see you, you act indifferent and like you could care less? What's the point of that behavior?

[Belleast]

We all know men and women don't think alike. Men are the hunter and women are the hunted but does it still apply to many? Some men are genuinely don't know how to communicate. You know they open up to you one minute then they close up to you the next. It is really annoying and irritating when this happens. I guess if we all can forgo our egos and just ask them right up "are you playing games with me because if you do, I don't like it". So for me, if a guy have the hot and cold attitude, I will just bluntly ask him about it. I always get a positive feedback in that way, either he become a friend of mine or got his attention...

[jerri1of2]

well my friend it is easy to see this one,we don't like it UNTIL we learn how to beat human nature! "It is HUMAN NATURE to WANT WHAT YOU CANNOT HAVE." As usual the opposite sex became uninterested when they felt there was no four play. This is a important part of this ritual. So try not to be easy but your safe can be CRACKED. #1) THE THRILL OF THE HUNT (MY BAD THIS IS FOR THE BEAST) or say a control issue for us humans. SOME ARE THE HUNTERS while by nature some are the HUNTED. LEADERS THEN FOLLOWERS. GET It,GOD GAVE us "OPPOSITE TO ATTRACT" so to SPEAK. Now ask me how to beat it. Cause I am out of time on this one.

[Asker]

I know you're right totally! But I hate these games, it makes girls think that they aren't interested at all or they have absolutely NO feelings. It creates the opposite effect than what might be desired. I hate hot and cold behavior from men. It makes me sick.

[Anonymous]

I was going through the same thing with a guy for months. It gets old though after while. I think it sends mixed signals also. After while you either tell him you like him or just ignore him. I let mine know I like him, and now he doesn't ignore me on random times. Well, at times he does, but I think he realizes what he did and then comes back later to make up for it. I guess he is at least trying. Now if I can get him to FINALLY ask me out, then I will be happy. :)

[Asker]

Good luck! I hope he does ask you out!

Im sure this guy knows I like him, if he doesn't he's either totally oblivious to signs or he just doesn't care, one way or another.

[depressedguy]

i done that to test if the girl is just a one-day female unsure crush phase crap ... and I was right all along ... I hate how girls are such "users" toward a guy that likes her and how girls are such insecure dumbasses. why can't girls just show her interest in a guy and not be all "im a girl and you have to quess me to get me" crap sorta speak.

my story: the girl asked me out and the next day she acted like it never happend so I ignored her.

[Asker]

Yep that's what happens, unfortunately - I've done just exactly what you have just described as well. Its like us girls get really confident and then go home and realize we did something that didn't get much of a response, so we make sure and 'protect' ourselves next time, and that means acting indifferent, even though we don't want too!

All these games make no sense and it makes the other person feel bad and stupid and like crap, so I'm wondering now if that guy just hates me. Games go nowhere.

[THEreborn]

well girls have programmed us that way. the old hot and cold routine.. if you ignore she wants more.. if you flirt to much then your needy. just tell him what's up stop the games from the start

[Anonymous]

Because guys want to be a challenge to raise your interest level.

Clearly it's working. Just ignore him right back. Games are for players, which isn't cool.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Actually its doing the exact OPPOSITE. Its making me mad and making me feel like he's a phony and has a heart the size of a pea, or even smaller.

[JerseyGirl]

Yeah, that is the problem is that some of us who want a relationship do not want to play those games, so I understand why you would be mad. If someone just wants to flirt around and doesn't want a relationship, then I guess games work better for those people,

[Opinion Owner]

He's clearly got you thinking, since you posted this question, which is his whole intention. If you don't like it, move on.

[Asker]

Jerseygirl - Yes ...playing games. That's what he's doing....unfortunately. I already knew he didn't want to get into a relationship with anyone, but still...its rude! Don't get why guys do this - play with girls emotions when they know the girl likes them back.

TripletTia - - Yes but what's the intention? To make me think and get mad at him?

[Opinion Owner]

No, the intention is to keep you on your toes, unsure, wondering about what he's thinking and what his intentions are with you.

[Asker]

Well right now I'm mad he's being so hateful and thinking he's playing me, so that obviously makes it seem to me like that's his actual intention.

[KayKayleen]

i think its just the player move. they want to see how you react and what you would do and all. :/ I think they just do it for the fun of it and the feeling they can get when girls do flirt back ...