Is it better to avoid things that remind you of your ex?

[bigblueeyes1]

i still miss my ex and think of him a lot. there are certain TV shows, TV channel, movies, songs and certain singers that remind me of my ex every time I see or hear them.

i have been avoiding listening and watching these things. such as the food network channel. we LOVED to watch this together, so now I try to avoid that channel at all costs. certain songs that I used to love I now skip over in my iPod because they remind me of when we were together and I don't want to think of him.

but I'm starting to wonder...is it better that I'm avoiding these things, or would it be better to force myself to listen to the songs and watch the TV shows so that I can learn to love these things without him? I don't know what will be the best way to heal and move on from him, because that's what I want to do as there is no hope of us getting back together. thanks!

[awaken03]

these things..that remind you of the person you used to love and care about ..might be a bit disturbing and you felt hurt at times similar to my case..but you have to sooner or later accept it..remember that this also give you good memories to treasure..it does not measure how long your to avoid but learn to accept things gradually..i have this close female friend before..she says I remind her about her ex..we wear the same cologne..wear the same style of clothing and all..at some point I got irritated..then gave in to her request and change how I wear and what cologne to put on but it was hard on my part..so I had to stress this with her..then thing became different we did become an item at some point in our relationship LOL

[zerocore]

To be honest I think its better to face them when your ready...forcing yourself to do something before your ready will only make it worse...that comes in time...

[bigblueeyes1]

How do you know when your ready?

[zerocore]

There is no time limit ...itll just happen...poof one day you won't skip over that song or show...the memories won't bother you...youll just smile and that will be that...so keep your chin up

[PDS131]

I think Zerocore has the answer spot on.

[xxsassygirl]

You and I are on the same page with that, I miss my ex so much and there are a lot of things I can't do because I think about him. I am with someone new and doing certain things with him I have a hard time because they remind me of my ex but I know in my heart I am just going to have to move on and deal with these things the best way I can. Maybe right now it is best to avoid these things and eventually seeing or hearing these things won't have as much affect on you like they use to. In the mean time try and do new things with you or with your friends that you guys didn't do like I am finally going on a cruise that I always wanted to go and my ex didn't want to.

[precious144]

I think it's best that you're avoiding them for now. When I first broke up with my ex, I was listening to "our songs" and it made me feel HORRIBLE. At first, things like that only make you feel worse. However when I listen to those songs now, I don't feel anything. I think of my ex but it doesn't pain me to listen to the songs. What you're doing is best so keep it up!

[Anonymous]

I went through the same thing but I told myself I wouldn't let him ruin the things I like. So I just listen to them anyway and appreciate the music or watch the shows I like and try not to associate it with him just because he liked it too, so do a lot of people.

[TheCheshireCat]

There are only so many things you can avoid. You can't take it to extremes like Bella did in "New Moon" & stop listening to music, lol. I mean, you have to go on, & who wants to go on without music :/

[Vasillilaw]

I would avoid everything except for the music. Music can give you a chance to scream all your anger out as you sing it. That's what I do sometimes! (: