What are signs he still loves his baby's momma?

[Anonymous]

I am currently dating someone for about 2 months now almost 3. Everything has gone great and we are emotionally connected big time. He is younger then me by a year and 2 months and has a baby with a 17 year old. He has a daughter with her that is going to be 5 months on the 28th of this month. I want to know what are signs that he still has feelings for his baby's momma? Or that I'm just wasting my time because he is using me as the rebound. He doesn't mention her much at all. I found out a month ago that he told his baby's momma that he loves her. When I confronted him about it he didn't deny it. He said he did love her but as the mother of his child. Lately I have been having restricted calls constantly around the same time non stop. I commented this with him and I said maybe it was his baby's momma and her best friend. He said why would it be her? And I told him why wouldn't it be. And didn't respond back to my text. I never know when he goes sees his baby or when he is around the mom. I only find out when I see pictures on facebook or something like that. I don't know what to do or if I'm just getting played. I'm grown and mature and he is very mature for his age. Should I worry and take breaking up with him in consideration? Or brushing it off my shoulders and keep going on with my life? He has included me with his future goals and wants me to be the girl to marry him, be with him from here to 10 years, and have more children. But is it all talk to sweeten up my ear? Or sincere? Anything would help. I would like an honest opinion.

[01bimmer85]

i say let it go.. I've been in your situation and its his first kid he will always love the girl and will never drop the feelings unless (and in my case this was not the case) she does him REALLY wrong..actions speak louder then words;..yea he may be telling you he wants to marry you and wants you to be his girl for the next MILLION years but take this underconsideration... is he taking you with him to pick up the baby or to see the child with the mother around.. the next time you get an anonymous call... answer it... clear your head.. if it is her find out what she wants... more then likely its just to run her mouth... and if that's the case then hang up and change your number because he obvisouly gave it to her... AND IF THATS THE CASE... RUN LIKE HELL HE IS TROUBLE!

Let me tell you my story... dated a guy for 1.5yrs... he had a gorgeous 3yr old who I came to love and adore.. she tried calling me mommy... I would bathe her hold her when she was sick... treated her like she was one of my own... little did I know ... the "boyfriend" was doing him with the baby's momma while doing him with me... he proposed to me 3times and the first time I said yes... the last two times I laughed and said NO... later on I got her number found she lived and would swing by at night when he didnt' answer my calls or texts... YEP he was with her... she tried to tell me one time that he was with her because she needed him to buy her meds and that he slept on the couch... BS! 4 months after we broke up... tell me why she was pregnant with their 2nd child... yea I got burned! it was the WORST EXPERIENCE of my life... and then I had to see the both of them every Friday night! it was HORRIBLE...

we are still friends the ex and I and I'm well over him and he knows that but it took me a good 1.5yrs to get over him... if you don't love him get out now.

[strawberryfields1]

~Signs to tell he still loves his baby momma ~
1. He compares you to her (ya'll could be in a constant competition because if he loves her, he values her more)
2. He stays in frequent contact with her. No matter what, the communication must stay open.
3. He is her handyman when things go wrong around the house
4. He talks to you or her about unresolved issues in their breakup and he's emotional about it.
5. He stalks her social media
6. He talks about her non stop. Always finding some reason to say her name.
7. He keeps momentos or things of hers.
8. He trash talks her
9. He never let's you ride along when he goes to his kid.
10. He brings up memories of them
11. Visitation includes her
12. Excessive Co-parenting
13. He plays by her rules
14. He needs privacy to speak to her
15. He keeps her on his accounts, shares a mailbox with her, she has a key to his car (you don't).
16. He picks her side over yours
17. She relies on him (when she needs him, he runs to her side)
18. He proposes to you and breaks off the engagement. He doesn't propose to you again. If he loved you, he wouldn't break off an engagement. He still loves her.

I am a baby mama. I have that ex who never fully resolved and mourned our relationship. He cried to me a out our relationship and that it was one of the best he ever had. He sees or calls me everyday even for small talk. He's told me he loves me and to not tell her. My ex throw in her face how I am the better woman and she'd never be like me. I had an old phone that he was able to use to get on my Facebook. He spent one day a great amount of time looking through my messages and timelime. He looked at my stuff right in front of his girlfriend and she got so mad.

[Anonymous]

honestly I have to agree with anonymous a 17 year old is young to be a step parent

Here is my story , I'm dating a man with three babymommas four kids he's ten years older then me and I'm having bad experience with everyone who is involved his life ,
The kids disrespects me all the time when we go pick them up and every time I confront him about it he over looks my feelings and put them first of course
I would find pictures of one of the babymommas in his phone and car and I would ask why does he still have pics of her when he's with me turns out she's been living at the same apartment complex as him and he didn't tell me about it , his youngest daughter did ! The best experience that was just plan mean was when I first met his mom and when I'm saying hi trying to get her attention she turn and said "he already have other shit to take care of " ... Okay that's it ! What's with these people and why are they acting an asshole towards me? After months of auguring and be patient , it is so hard to accept that the babymommas are not going no where... He came with a big bagage and me being this young I easily got insecure (because there is so many females involved his life ) and knowing that no matter what he is still going to talk to them and be there for them..,, i felt like I'm nothing to him , just a get by. Point of this all is if your young you find someone you love if they have a package you either could handle it or you can't but you don't have to then don't risk of getting your heart broken remember this... YOU COME FIRST!

[Anonymous]

You see young, do you really want the commitment of a guy with a child already?

He loves his baby mama ad the mother or his child,you gotta realize that there is no

end to that relationship. They are always ganna talk or interact for the well being of that child, you mentioned ya been dating for 3 months and he already wants to marry you in the future?

Something doesn't sounds right about this kid.I say break up with him, he might seem mature but he has too many responsibilities for a 17 year old right now.

[Anonymous]

I feel for u this is honestly something I think about I just got involved with a guy