Do you text the girl you're into everyday?

[Anonymous]

Guys:

So what's the rule for texting a girl you like? Do you text her daily? Every few days?

When should a girl realize that you're not interested in her and simply move on? 3 days of no texting? 5? A week? 2 weeks?

I was always told that if a guy is interested, even if he's busy, he'll find a way to text you. Is this true?

I know that a lot of women tend to freak out a bit if they don't hear from a guy they're highly interested in everyday. I mean, why not take the 20 seconds to shoot a quick "hey, how are you?" if you like her?

Girls:

Am I the only one who freaks out a bit if a couple days pass and I haven't heard back from the guy I really like?

When do you start to get worried and realize he's not into you? When is the best time to move on and find someone else?

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of forum threads on the Internet where the guy is wondering why she is ignoring him all of a sudden. Because of this I wouldn't be surprised if the guy you liked doesn't text you everyday because of the stuff he's heard happen to his friends. If it's true that women you know like being texted everyday and this is typical of most women, then maybe because of the higher percentage of rejections guys receive they get this impression that doing this becomes a deal breaker since it could be annoying if you're not into him.

While you say women like a guy you like to text you everyday has there been times when that impression changed after some texting? Guys come up with theories why they suddenly get stonewalled, but no one really knows but the girl. Maybe they revealed too much. Came off clingy? Desperate? Something they said about themselves turned out to be a turn off? Maybe she's one that doesn't like constantly being texted and that turned her off? Maybe she was never into him to begin with? Too many guys report things going great and then nothing. We don't know because they never post the conversation in full.

I hope that explains why a guy you like might not text you constantly. The other explanation is that many guys just don't like texting. :P

[fwump38]

I typically text a girl I really like every day (no more than a couple of days between texts at most). If she replies I try not to reply to her text for the same amount of time it took her.

If I text and she replies in an hour I don't reply again for at least an hour as well (if not more). Some girls reply right away and that could mean they are

1) Not busy

2) Really into the guy

3) Someone who texts a lot and replies quickly

If a girl doesn't reply to my text I give her a couple of days before texting again. After this if she still doesn't reply I give the girl a week or so (if I'm still interested) before texting her again. After that I'm assuming this girl is not interested.

I would LOVE it if girls were more assertive and texted me first but alas I am always texting them first. As for a quick "hey how are you" I try to avoid that if I like the girl cause it's perceived as kinda boring/typical. I try to make texts funny/interesting.

[Asker]

I'm always afraid that if I reply too quick, he'll think I'm 1) boring and not doing anything, 2) extremely clingy and 3) it'll make him lose the "chase" because he'll know I'm interested; thus making him stray (it's happened wayyy too many times)

When I do get the balls to text him something, I usually get a short response with something I can't possibly reply to. So I just assume he doesn't want to talk to me, because if he did, HE'd have been the one to text me.

[fwump38]

Ya most girls I know take a while to reply to texts. As much as I'd like to hear girls texts first, typically it's up to the guy to text the girl.

General rule of thumb - if he or she isn't replying to your text (meaning you've sent them a couple of texts now without a reply) they probably aren't interested anymore. Best thing to do is give it some time (a week or more) and try again after you haven't spoken in a while.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's the rule I go by as well. But I never, ever send a second text if my first one wasn't replied to. I've put the ball in their court and it then becomes their turn.

I also do exactly what you do; if they can take an hour to reply, I can too (...or close to it). But then I've noticed that guys either keep that pattern going, or, more frequently get pissed and give short/non respondable replies that ends the conversation right then and there.

[Anonymous]

Me and my boo thang text everyday 🤷🏾‍♀️... hang out all the tme... we so close to where he meet me at work I meet him at work... we hang out then soon as we leave eachother he make sure I made it safe and we text all the way up till we see eachother again in 4 days or sumtmes 2days... we talk a lot and are dating but no official on both sides taking it slow dnt want rush love or mess up getting to knw eachother even though the bond is strong people think we are together 😂actions speak louder then words I guess... I love texting it show me he make time.. he thinks about me what I’m doing.. even gud night checkups... the talk of moving away together comes up on both parts so I do see feeling growing slowly. Most guys go days without texting back and to see consistency is a eye opener for me usd to people playing with my feelings. I see everyone is not the same.

[Opinion Owner]

I also don’t have tme for games if I’m busy I text back when I can.. but if I’m not busy I respond instantly.🤷🏾‍♀️

[princess_amanda]

No you're not the only one..I went a month before I heard from this guy and I was freaking out! but eventually he texted me back. I wish more guys would say if they lost interest, I'd rather have a guy tell me straight up that he's not interested anymore than to be ignored via text message. As far as moving on completly up to the person..I would if he just completely stops talking to me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jr3_Q34dYqQ

[Asker]

I agree, it'd be nice if guys would flat out tell us if they weren't interested. That way we won't have to play the waiting game for a text that may never come. I'm glad I'm not the only girl who feels this way! :-)

[Asker]

my smiley got ruined. damnit.

:-) much better, haha

[thisGUYknows]

a guys rule:

never text her everyday. it shows that you're trying too hard and that's a big turn off for girls. if SHE texts everyday then its OK to some point. this is because girls are the ones to decide what level they're willing to take it to. not the guys. if its like every couple of hours tho then that a big turn off for us unless we're just tryin to get laid. if we like the girl we can't be afraid to let a day or two pass between texts. if its longer than a week or ten days then that's a little risky. buts it understandable if either person is really busy with work and school or something like that.

[Asker]

I personally only text a guy AFTER he's texted me. I never initiate a text unless something random comes up that reminds me of him or that I think is cute/funny. I'm not sure if guys like that or not though...thoughts on my approach? (I have no clue if what I'm doing is working!)

Also, If I'm super into a guy, I LOVE it if he texts me everyday! It easies my worries X10000. It's only when I'm not into a guy at all that an everyday text begins to p*ss me off.

[Asker]

they seriously blocked that word out? damn, haha

[thisGUYknows]

if you truly like getting a text everyday, hint at it. let him know you like hearing his random thoughts.

[Asker]

I have :-( I've flat out told the guy exactly how I feel. He replies with "I'm trying to text less" or "I'm really absent minded. Some days I forget to eat!" He makes up all these excuses! I know it's BS because when we first started talking, he'd text all the time!

After addressing him about his current non-texting, his behaviors haven't changed (I'm keeping my fingers crossed that they will), so I'm starting to assume he's not into me anymore.

[TheBootyChest]

Yes I would. I don't play games or follow "rules". If I like a girl I will text her everyday, and right away after I see her message on my phone.

[clampfan101]

As often as I’m sure she’s comfortable with. When I text people in general I try to find the pace they enjoy texting at.

[Danny_dan92]

If I’m into her? Yeah