The more someone ignores you the more you are attracted to them, true or false?

[Anonymous]

Lets see what most peoples opinion on this is. I find if a girl ignores, gives little indication of interest, my interest actually increases. It work the other way as well. I see when I ignore a girl (intentionally or unintentionally) they usually want me more.

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+1 y

Sorry maybe not clear, I mean you know each other. Have flirted, he/she has shown interest in you before, and you obviously have some interest in them.

[Anonymous]

As a girl, I can tell you that if a guy I liked ignored me, then I wouldn't stop sleep because of it..even if he seemed interested and flirty.

HOWEVER, at the moment, I have this person who initially showed some 'interest' in me, when I started noticing I came to find that I had an 'interest' in him, but mine was started because of how he paid attention. Now sometimes I will delibertly avoid him and look to the floor should he be trying to make eye contact, and I will find the next day he will do the same, but I find myself not liking the fact he is ignoring me, and he obviously doesn't like it when I do it, because he gets me back for it.

But something will always bring us back staring at each other...it may sound daft, and silly, but I believe me and this guy do have a silent chemistry...And although when he doesn't pay attention, I don't keep up all night thinking about it, at the same time when we find that we have gone back to staring etc, I find myself liking it...I can't help it...

So in this case as I have described, yes I do find that why I am not bothered about him ignoring me, his attempts to get my attention back makes me like when he gets it and carries on. (There is a bit more to this story, but the facts I have given you answer your question)

[Dfungurl]

Not for me, If I'm interested in a guy, I would like the guy to show interest. Or else, I will feel offended and move on. However, the guy I'm now seeing stuck around after I had rejected him muliple times and pushed him away. I wasn't playing a game or anything, I just didn't feel like I could trust him because of a certain misunderstanding. I really did want him out of my life, but he refused to give up. there were times when I thought for sure I wasn't going to hear from him, and he surprised me by proving me wrong. He said I am the most complicated girl he has ever met, but he wasn't going to give me up. I guess your question applies to him. ;))

[traintolondon]

hm, no. Sure, I read the game, and I know that if someone used that method on me, I would fall for it. But that only works on one night stands, if someone treated me like that during a longer period of time, I would think he was a ass. sure, some sick part of me would still seek approval from him, since I wouldn't know why he was ignoring me, but I wouldn't like him :p

[Asker]

Wow a girl that has read the game. Kudos!

[traintolondon]

ofc, you have to know what your up against! ;) (and neil strauss is an awesome writer ;))

[Asker]

True that I actually would have never read the book if it wasn't written the way it was. It is like a novel mixed in with secrets on how to get laid.

[Asker]

Quick question. you think any of it works? The whole, sorry can I get your opinion on something. Do you believe in ESP? The Peacocking etc

[traintolondon]

yeah like I said, it would at least work on me. But I think it has to do with insecurities,it probably wouldn't work on a girl that are overly confident. most of it plays on girls needs for approval. and its sad but true, that girls are attracted to guys that comes off as an "alpha-male". The method wouldn't be so popular if it didn't work :p I think you just have to make your own thing out of it, a lot of girls notice if you are just playing a part :p

[Asker]

Interesting. I will admit I have tried a lot of it, me and my house mate tried picking up for a while and we got a lot of number, I think what it most helped me with is getting comfortable talking to women, cause I used to be really awkward and shy before.

[Quadrophonic84]

Yeah, girls seem to love it when you ignore them. I don't though. When a girl seems to be ignoring me I just forget about her. It means either she's playing a game or she's not really interested and regardless of which one it is, I don't want to deal with it.

[evil_dentist]

While I agree with your sentiments that game playing is annoying, I don't agree that all girls love it when you ignore them. Treat people how you'd want to be treated- don't listen to PUA's that tell you that women like the unavailable man. I personally hate that. For the mature woman, honesty and sincerity every time. There are many ways to pique a girl's interest, but withdrawing from her is not one of them.

[Quadrophonic84]

I've dated dozens of women and the vast majority respond to emotional distance. I'm glad you're different. Gives me hope I'll find a worthwhile woman some day.

[Anonymous]

ignore me once & I will make damn sure you don't get the chance to do it again. I find it a little difficult to find someone attractive who made me look like an ass

[Anonymous]

That might work on girls who get some kind of thrill out of a guy who makes them feel like they're on an emotional roller coaster.. I take being ignored as a clear sign of disinterest. I'll just move on and simply find someone else to entertain me. Games are childish.. I would like to be with someone who makes me feel good, not question myself.

[EB-bee]

The ignoring thing only works if the girl already have a little interest in you, she'll be thinking about you more often wondering if she did something wrong.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

False, and women who say false aren't listening to science! Science says it does make them more interested if a guy doesn't show interest. lol

[CatherineTheSoSo]

Ignoring me will just confirm that you're not interested. Why waste time with someone who isn't interested nor even attempts at making a connection?

[-StillWater-]

F*** no!

Only losers and masochists are attracted to someone who'd ignore them!

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[Anonymous]

i am a girl and I like attention , ignoring me doesn't make me want the guy anymore

[Asker]

O rly? Lets say I get your number and start flirting with you regularly and end up inviting you to a date. Then I leaves you hanging for a couple days. I am currently in this situation, and I will admit I am thinking about her way more than is healthy.

[Opinion Owner]

its not the case for girls I guess, if I were you I would just forget about you , like all girls here agreed we like attention