When someone keeps their distance from you can that ever mean they are attracted to you?

[Anonymous]

I have had some recent encounters with a woman that have made me wonder whether she was atracted to me but then on Friday something odd happened that makes me re-think.

I was in a queue and she joined the queue right behind me but stood well back from me. I think it was probably two places behind where someone would normally stand, so she was unnaturally distanced from how you would normally stand from someone in that situation. I'm now wondering if I haven't got it all wrong and I don't just make her uncomfortable. By the way, she still said Hi and smiled at me, but it felt a bit awkward.

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There is other things I could mention but do keep thinking to myself that I must be mad and am seeing things that aren't there! Earlier last week I was in the same place as the woman in question and she leaned over to talk to a small child, in doing so she was perfectly aligned to me so that I got a very good view, if you know what I mean. I did try not too take a look, but not too hard, I confess! I know this sort of thing could happen by accident but given that I was already wondering if she..

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was interested in me, what are the chances of that happening, by accident when I just happen to be the only man in position to notice. I asked another woman I know and she laughed and said that she thinks most women know when they do that because they have the option of bending at the knee and not the waist or holding the neck of their top so that it doesn't gape. To do neither is almost always a choice. Any views on this as well would be appreciated.

[TimmyThomas]

Dude, this is a VERY hard question to answer without seeing all the interaction and even then it would be hard. I have had this happen a couple times and it has gone both ways.

My advise would be to talk to her, actually talk to her and if it is awkward, that is fine and she prob likes you. Whereas if she is short, distance and doesn't really engage, it is time to move on.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes...more information means more understanding so keep us updated.

[TimmyThomas]

I still don't understand what it is that makes you think she likes you? What was the precipitating action or actions that made you believe she would be interested?

Has she flirted? Touched you? Talked to you more than in a casual passing conversation? Played with her hair while looking at you? Anything?

Sometimes when a girl stays away from a guy it is because she is creeped out.

[Asker]

Believe me, I have considered that she may be creeped out, but that wouldn't fit the narrative except for the queue incident. I don't know her except to say 'hi' to and there has been no flirting. What has changed is that she has started greeting me very warmly with big smiles and big eyes and I have caught her looking at me a few times. I don't get that a lot so I am intrigued by it. It could be that she just stares at me because I scare her in some way (I'm unaware that others think I'm scary)

[Asker]

...but I didn't start noticing her until I noticed her looking at me. If anyone should be creeped out it is me. I am very shy and I think she is as well so the chances of us graduating to a meaningful one 2 one conversation are pretty remote (we do some voluntary work and are on a committee so have spoken often as part of a larger group, but rarely just the two of us as opportunities rarely occur). Please understand, I'm not sure she is interested in me but her behavior has changed and I...

[Asker]

...don't know why. I also seem to see her a lot more than previously, this could be a co-incidence, but she could be being places when she knows I will be there. I know that happens as in the dim past, when I was much younger, a girl admitted turning up places just to see me for months (I never realised). Equally, it could all be a combination of circumstance, co-incidence and my imagination, but if I knew the answer I wouldn't have to ask the question, would I?!

[TimmyThomas]

She's nice, not trying to date you. Sorry.

[Cheeries95]

Yes I think she likes you. Because most of the time a shy girl will not just go up to him and start talking to him but will keep her distance but still be friendly. while she is hoping that he will come up to he and talk to her. (giving him a chance to make the first move.) She is probally really shy but really likes you so she joined to same Queue.

[texanbaby87]

I'd have to say yes to this question because I am keeping my distance from a guy even though I'm seriously attracted to him and vice versa. She's probably just scared of what will happen.

[upood]

Shy but into you. I know, from experience. Go get that cutie.