Why would a guy avoid you, if you feel he’s physically attracted to you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Everyone was taking me photos today. Everyone said, I looked beautiful, sexy and so on! I was in the center of everyone’s attention.

My guy friend told me wives would fight with their husbands when going home, because they all looked at me.

Stranger men took me photos on streets and yet, this one guy kind of avoided me. I don’t know, I feel like since I looked sexy today, he was intimidated or something?

Or maybe he has a girlfriend? Because I feel like he’s physically attracted to me. That’s the same one who’s forgot his script.

Everytime we flirt subtly, he then kind of reserves back.

Today I caught him peeking at me but when I went near him, he found an excuse and went. Wth.

It’s not like I threw myself to me, I was just nearby, he was looking from far and then, kind of avoiding the closeness.

In the office, someone called him, and I heard him saying.

“Bring it home.”

Is he avoiding because he has a girlfriend?

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6 mo

If he has a girlfriend why doesn’t he drop the hint during our conversations in office.

When I was taken, I was talking about my ex non stop.

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6 mo

Now he got me sweets, he only gave me not to other women in the office, I don’t understand men.

[love_conquers_lust]

Personalities, know thyself, love thyself. He’s probably been down this path before and knows where it leads, his own script. Whether he has a girlfriend or not is irrelevant. That makes him a better friend for making a wise decision.

I had this happen with another girl from New York. She and I were incompatible but attracted to one another. She found happiness with someone else. She made that decision for us. A wise woman. I’m happy for her that she did. She’ll always have an ally in her corner.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I understand. I had two outfits today, he helped me with one of them. Cause I couldn’t reach the back of it to pin the dress. And he acted like we had a connection.

And then he kind of started being reserved and avoidant.

[love_conquers_lust]

Based on what I’ve seen, any guy would want to help you with your outfits.

My sister told me I was a “good shopper” when she brought me along in tow to the mall. I answered her questions and carried stuff for her. I mostly stared off into space and took in the sights while she shopped.

[Andres77]

I avoided a contractor at work because we were both married. She was SO attractive my brain ceased functioning and I couldn’t talk. At my age, I’d just stare and have a goofy grin and not be able to talk. So after that debacle, if I saw her first I’d hide until she left.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t know really. I was thinking maybe he avoids me because he fears his own attraction to mr, since he might be taken.

But then why does he feel free to keep looking at me and becoming protective of me once I start reserving back?

But when I look sexy, he avoids me as if I am fire and it feels unnatural because, when I look sexy, isn’t he supposed to want me to be closer?

I did look pretty and I was in the center of all men’s attention. He is a man too and I feel pike we have shared a few intimate moments, like the one the other day, where we looked at each other’s eyes and he kind of forgot the screen after.

I feel like his body language shows attraction and then he makes conscious effort to avoid it.

He’s very sexy though, I can imagine he’s probably not single.

[Sevenpointfive]

it sounds like he's playing a very old game guys play to get attractive women. don't acknowledge them because they're pretty. the more they do it the more you ask yourself why am i not getting his attention?

before you know it that's all you obsess about. it's just a mind game. i assume he's attractive otherwise you wouldn't care.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He is very attractive

[Sevenpointfive]

i hate games. but if you want to play his game, then don't give him attention. he'll freak out and have to restrategize.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He got me sweets now. And only gave me not to other women in the office. I don’t understand haha

[Sevenpointfive]

does he like you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t know?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He’s much older though, at least 10 years older.

[Sevenpointfive]

maybe my question should have been, do you like him?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Kind of

[Sevenpointfive]

kind of isn't a very strong emotion. but you're thinking about him daily even hourly, so it won't be long

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t think about him hourly. I wasn’t thinking about him today at all.

[Sevenpointfive]

ohawwe, that's cute!

[AviatorTom]

A guy can find a girl physically attractive but not want to have a relationship with her. She may not be his type, he may already be in a relationship, or he might think that she is out of his league.

[Jennz6]

That’s true

[spartan55]

Intimidated? Uh no don't think so. Is it possible that he just had other things on his mind?

[justabuddy]

Could be, if he has a girlfriend he will try to avoid attractive girls that could cause a problem. He could also be intimidated by all the attention you got.

[justabuddy]

by the way... where were you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Party

[Still-alive]

He's probably just shy is my guess.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What makes you think? He’s so attractive tho, why’d he be shy

[Still-alive]

i mean i would think the same thing with very attractive women that are shy lol.

its not really a 'choice' they just aren't the talkative type. but if you like him maybe make some light conversation with him and go from there?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am shy too myself

[Still-alive]

Damn. at a a bit of an impasse then.

maybe do the ol drop something near him trick? you drop something near him and make it look accidental then him picks it up for you and then from there you start talking lol. just an idea

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s the same guy who gave me a toy month ago.

[Still-alive]

hmmm i only vaguely recollect who you mean there.

but it sounds like this guy is unlikely to make a move. and i don't think you're the type to make the 1st move either. sooo yeah

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, I am not the one to make the first move, too shy for that, I am just a flirt and a tease. But why doesn’t he?

[Still-alive]

Some guys just aren’t like that. We cone in all shapes and sizes, various personality types. We are not a monolith you know. One guy could be very forth coming and direct. Another guy is shy and not social much. It’d be great if you could try approaching yourself that way you can solve the issue of going for guys you want rather than the guys you don’t want approaching you.

But thats not you i get it. So i guess try to move on from this guy or just be around him more often and maybe he will start talking to you. Gotta make him feel comfortable. Warm him up.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I mean, why give me toys and sweets and show body language that shows sexual attraction and then suddenly back off?

[Still-alive]

Oh he did that?

Hmmm maybe he’s unsure of your attraction for him?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He’s also 10 years older than me.

And he also forgot his script when looking at my eyes the other day.

[Still-alive]

Well i take that as a small sign of his attraction for you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes, I feel like he’s at least a little attracted to me. At least.

[Still-alive]

Yup so ill stick to my original answer that he's shy and unsure of your attraction for him back.

I feel like nothings going to happen here until someone makes a move. One of you starts chatting with the other

[AtheArcher]

I doubt he does. He must not have the guts to tell you. It sounds like you like him so you can make the first move. I does not have to be the guy 100% of the time

[In_Trance]

He's not as attracted to you as you think he is

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, that might be the case too.

[Jennz6]

Guys don’t avoid me

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Cool.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You didn’t read a question tho, because I never asked whether they do or not. :P

[Jennz6]

Oh, I am not really sure?

[Billlewis]

I don't think they could avoid you if they tried... lol

[Boysface_18]

Phimosis I have