Why do Starbucks girls always flirt with me at the drive through?

[zeitgeist057]

There are a couple of possible reasons for this behavior.

1. There is a possibility that the girls are actually flirting with you because they find you attractive, and are trying to express their interest in you by flirting with you. I would give this a roughly 2% probability, which would go up to around a 10% if you are 8/10 physically attractive or better, and as high as 20% if you are 10/10.

2 If you go to the same Starbucks every day or regularly, they may have gotten to feel more comfortable with you and are being friendly. This is more likely and reasonable than the idea that they are attracted to you, which as I illustrated, is unlikely. This also ties into the final and most likely reason...

3. They are working as servers in a service industry. They were specifically hired in part based on their looks and personality, in order to draw in and retain customers and leave customers feeling good and satisfied about their experience. One very simple way to do this is to hire physically attractive people to be kind and flirt with your customers, who will also leave larger tips as a result of their egos being satisfied. It feels good to have an attractive person flirt with you, it makes you feel attractive and valued. When you are feeling this way, you are likely to be more generous with your tips and you are more likely to return for more of these same feelings of increased self worth.

Not that most people are so logical and methodical about it. They are probably just nice girls who got hired because they are nice and they are just being naturally nice, it's not some plot to mess with you.

[DavidFox]

It’s called customer service. Here’s an example:


This past Tuesday I got my normal order at Tijuana flats and asked for no tomatoes. The girl ringing me up said she didn’t like tomatoes also in a way that one might interpret was flirting as she didn’t have to be that personal. I gave her a $20 bill and asked for only $9 back so that they are tipped. She apologized and handed me all singles as her drawer was low on $5s. I told her it’s ok but I’m not taking my shirt off (light joke). Both her and the other cashier laughed; again could be seen as flirting. Then when she asked for my drink I told her what I wanted and said no tomato (it’s a callback). At which point she repeated exactly what she said before about not liking tomatoes herself.


I tell you that story because any thoughts of her flirting were busted when she repeated her dislike of tomatoes. It was obvious she was in work mode, I was a customer, and her mind was elsewhere. She still provided customer service but she’s not there to flirt.

[SomeBlondeChick]

They are been friendly & if there's nobody there/a slow day they're striking up a simple conversation to waste some time.

I mean if you had to serve coffee for 8 hours a day to sometimes ass-hole patrons with an at times ass-hole boss/supervisor wouldn't you want to chitchat with someone who isn't?

[jennifer_bloom]

The Starbucks guys flirt with me since I’m female - it’s part of their job - though they are instructed to be nice to you and not necessarily flirt

[Apple1996]

That's not flirting. They're just being friendly

[WhiteGlaze]

They say normal things in special ways sometimes but its at most supposed to just be a nice friendly experience to get you back for more. Cute voices, flirty voices are more than enough to get virgins or really any customers hooked. Even I rather go to starbucks just because the chances of talking to a cute stranger is more appealing than going anywhere else for overpriced beverages. We can flirt back and forth and just tease. Used to get hella freaked out with it but once I played with it just is a fun back and forth. I took the lid off my frap and sucked up all the whip cream while looking directly at her with an eyebrow up. You'd have to see it I guess but almost choked and was quite hilariously stupid fumbling a bit with the cream. She laughed and seemed to love it so worth it haha

[hahahmm]

She wasn't really flirting BUT when I was 20s I had a service industry worker literally beg me to ask her out after flirting with me on multiple different visits. She was alway trying to start something. I got her contact info and called her. She sounded cold. Later on she spread rumors on her job that I was sexually harassing her. Mind you, I never even chased her like that at all. Another time a woman told me all about her personal life (without me asking). The second I politely asked for her contact stuff she says, "I don't get personal with customers!" After that I never took any of these workers seriously, ever. I don't care if she sits in your lap just laugh at her and throw her off.

Just saying, I wouldn't even go there if they do flirt.

[Bananaman177]

Yeah, it's really crazy when you spend your entire life being treated like a piece of shit by women and then a woman acts all friendly and you're like, "What the fuck was that all about?"

This happens to me all the time. I don't know what the fuck they're thinking but if you're gonna treat guys like shit for the first 30 years of their life, then you should keep that same energy.

Don't just decide, "oh, today I'll be nice to men." Fuck you! I don't need your fucking niceness. You can go back to being a bitch for all I care.

[ultimega]

Thats called customer service. They want you to tip them well and come back.

My boyfriend used to work there and said that all the tips they get the more is shared amongst all the staff.
I mean it could be geninue and probably are flirting a little, but a good portion of the time they are just doing their job.

[JHNS98]

They're not necessarily flirting, just being nice. I don't know enough psychology to tell whether or not you interpret it as flirting because you find them attractiive...

This question makes me think of that cute barista at a local coffee shop. I wonder if she still works there... (DM me if you want background on that)

[Anonymous]

As someone who works in a similar industry, I'm really sorry to break it to you but 9 times out of 10 they are probably just being nice rather than flirting. Our shifts can be really long sometimes so chatting can make it go quicker and it is also often seen as polite and good customer service to ask about your day. Don't get flirting and decent manners mixed up.

[triff]

Hate to burst your bubble but they are taught to be flirty Cuts down on complaints Who wants to report some one they like phone makes you so welcome You jave to go back

[BCA6010]

That's not flirting.

It's pretty common in shops like that where if you have to wait in the drive-thru line, they'll try to start up a conversation in order to distract you from the delay. They want favorable reviews and tips.

You'll notice this almost never happens if you physically go inside a store and order within, because instead youve got padded chairs and a cell phone to pass the time.

[Apope16]

Dont listen to the people saying they are just friendly. If you were an ugly old fart they wouldn't do they. They are flirting because they are confident and comfortable around you. They may have a crush. They like being horny and flirty but it doesn't mean they want the fantasy as reality.

[Gafgorkion]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ltHvN4X2Lps

[knottywriter]

Cognitive distortion to assume it's flirting. Maybe someone is, but more likely to be customer service and wanting the tip jar filled.

[Quidthonian]

They want you to come back the next time. I don't think it's anything personal or sexual. It could be just marketing: sex sells. They are giving you a good experience, so that you don't go to their rivals.

[DiegoO]

It's their job to be nice with every client.

How you can really know a girl likes you? Every girl is different, but if the question "are you single?" appear, that's a sign. Another sign is the amount of time she is willing to pass with you, and her corporal language; if she plays with her hair, or touch her hair, wile you are with her, if she smiles, gives a direct and indirect eye contact.

Develop social skills and done deal.

[Puppystarfish23]

It's called customer service. People who work in customer service are told during training to make small talk with customers all the time. 😂

[SumSimulits]

Once time in my favorite restaurant (Wierzynek) I poured off wine on my white, cotton trousers and linen shirt. Then a waitress told ,, you can always undress it,,. What she meant? I was whole face red.

[KinaJoy13]

So I work at a japanese resturant and for a graphic design company and I say those same things doesn't mean I'm hitting on guys lol

[pigoat]

Drive through*********


Girls never flirt with me they just take my order

Does that mean something about you?

[Daniela1982]

Your imagination. They are trained to be nice to all to get more business. You are one of the guys 8they attract. *sigh*

[Inexpensivefurniture]

That's not flirting that's basic small talk. They are required to talk to you and smile and be nice

[taeh_ie2]

Sorry, But that’s not flirting that’s are job to develop a connection with are customer and not in a romantic way but more in a Friendly way.

[Hannahbananaaaaa]

They are in customer service; they are being nice. Of course there’s always that possibility of them being interested, but that’s not to be assumed

[Texaskid1]

Did she grab your crotch? If not then she is not flirting - no matter how many lattes you order from the same girl.

[babysteph]

“How is your day” is definitely NOT flirting lmao 😂😭

[Anonymous]

Mine is kind of the opposite. I work at a drive through for a liquor store and all of the women and guys that get a single beer, after i hand it to them, always ask me if i have a "little sack".
It's starting to give me a complex

[Unit1]

That's their job. Part of why they're getting paid (not much but still) is to be very friendly to their customers. It's part of working in sales.

[psychoticanimallover]

I don’t know, that sounds strange and inappropriate. On a similar note, the postman is always flirting with me - keeps knocking on my door and telling me his package is too big to fit through my slot.

[SaraSmithishere]

They're just being friendly. A lot of guys "flirt" with me too.

[ChefPapiChulo]

I used to go to this one restaurant where the girl would remember my name. And even touch my hand as she’d give me my order. And talk to me about things like what school I go to.

[blonde_loves_yoga]

I usually flirt with the men at Starbucks to get free coffee

[sheikalana]

Is that flirting to you? I think they're just being polite.

[zagor]

Their just being cordial as part of their job. "Here's your coffee" would probably come off as a bit cold.

[OfDeath]

It's their job. They are supposed to project a friendly public image not only for that particular franchise but for the company.

[countrygirl4523]

They ask how is ur day because people who work through the drive through always needs to interact with the customers
When they need to come Soo if they fill out a survey then they don't need to have bad surveys


I work the drive through at another fast food. . Soo ik how it is

[Newhead]

The want to give you the coffee and that laffy taffy. I doubt they're flirting dude. They are just doing their job and just like a man, you take it to mean you may get your knob slobbed.

[Derekk]

Wow!!! That's so forward! Dude they must be just jumping you... I don't think I've ever had a female ask how I am... can you teach me to swim in pussy too?

[Dinklex3]

Doesn't sound like flirting to me.
It's literally their job to be FREINDLY to people.

[Somoneelse]

I don't know with what tone she said it. But I guess its just what they have to do as employee.

[red324]

They aren't flirting. They're just all young and hot so the slightest smile can be taken as a flirt.

[JKingOff]

That's not flirting. That's just them being friendly and giving good customer service.

[FatherJack]

Standard issue employee script , they will NEVER actually flirt with a male customer.

[lumos]

It's called customer service and it's what they get paid for

[rjroy3]

They're just engaging you tho some may be attracted to you. I've matched with My Starbucks baristas on Bumble lol. But in general They're really just being friendly and engaging you

[josephinelcajon]

You are a very confused person that it very selfish and focused on yourself. They are NOT flirting. They are simply being kind but your twisted mind has twisted the truth to meet your fantasy!

[Anonymous]

Id wager small talk breaks up the monotony of selling overpriced coffie to the dumb as bread masses.

[elly91]

I don't think that that kind of flirting if we're to call it that is something personal... they're used to dealing with so many people coming in for a coffee... I just think it's something that's part of their job...

[Anonymous]

It's their freaking job to do so, ya desperate bastard!

[1truekhaleesi]

That's called being friendly because their job requires them to be nice.

[Anonymous]

That's not flirting you fucking idiot. That's just making conversation with you.

[Anonymous]

It's their job and they have been instructed to behave that way. Every person who worked at a bar can confirm that.

[Paul09]

Because you are overpaying for coffee flavored sugar. So it's part of the service lol

[tata1993]

Being sweet and doing your job don’t equal flirting 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Static_In_The_Attic]

What you call flirting the Starbucks Girls call good customer service & hustling you for tips.

[John_Doesnt]

They're not flirting, they're being professional and friendly. None of those women are into you.
Also, you can torture me all you want and I still won't change my opinion.

[InferiorElegy]

I'm going to be honest, they aren't flirting with you and the sooner you realize that the better. Trust me they are just doing their jobs which is to be polite and friendly.

[Anonymous]

that's not flirting dude.
that's called basic decency to ask someone and greet a customer. It's part of their job to ask every customer that.

you are not special. sorry

[Citizenkirk]

If this is a problem for you, then I could use a lot more of your problems instead of mine.

[ShortCircuit]

That's not flirting. That's standard customer service small talk.

[Jltakk]

Thats not flirting lol I get asked that all the time and I'm not exactly dating material.

[drummerdude25]

You are looking at capitalism at work, my friend... 😂