ADHD, would you date someone with ADHD?

[ephedrine]

Would you date someone with ADHD? I have been in a relationship with a guy with ADHD, and while there have been challenges, it didn't interfere with the relationship. Have you?

[ianm91]

Pretty offensive comments on this topic.

I have ADD, Yeah I was made fun of when I had to go to different rooms to take a test cause I was given "Extra time".

People have no idea what it is to live with ADD or ADHD. It can be a tough life and it debilitates your motivation sometimes and the way you learn things.

People can down-talk ADD and ADHD people. So many Americans do it anyways and General George Patton one of the best War Generals on this planet had Dyslexia and was ADD.

Albert Einstein was ADD as well. So many famous people who have changed and shaped this world have it and people even on this site talk bad of us.

I do not take ADD medications. I use to. I quit because I've moved onto trying to cooperate with it rather than take control of it with a pill.

I would date someone with ADD and ADHD. Because people with ADD/ADHD have a brighter mind for creative things than people without it. It's been proven on tests and statisitcs.

So keep making fun us. All of you are worthless sh*ts anyhow.

[ianm91]

I'd take a ADHD girl over a girl without it, cause the ADHD girl would be more talkative at least from what I've seen and knows how to be hyper in a good time. I'm the laid back ADD. I sit back and daydream. That's all I have, I learn and study just like everyone else, it just takes me more time to understand things. Part of my creative is stories and poems, and people seem to like it considering I've had some published. Just shows that every person with some disability is worth something.

[drummerdude27]

i would like to say that I would rather date a free spirited, fun girl with add than some stuck up snob who thinks something different and part of someones personality is bad or wrong as if they are a lepper or something. ADD just means a person has trouble concentrating, may ocassionally get off topic, or is a little more hyper than most. they can control it to an extent and if they can't, is it a big deal? they aren't immature, just more hyper than most but all of the people here who dissed it think of it as a person who like chugged 50 monsters a pot of coffee and then ate a crap load of candy. it is just having more energy which is a lot more fun that a girl who is boerign and never wants to do anythng.

personally, I find add a lot less of a turn off than ignorance and judging people on things they can't help so I guess the tables have been turned on that one. take it as you will. I don't care

[Anonymous]

Im on the fence here. I love him so much, but in the end I just don't have the patience. I'm a submissive woman and he wants me to make all the decisions and do all his thinking for him because he's so afraid he will mess up. He means well, he's a good guy, but it's really keeping him from growing up and being mature. I'm going to be 30, he wants kids and I don't. Especially when we can't afford to take care of ourselves, and he has to be reminded to pick up after himself. I feel like I'm holding him back as well, and keeping him from finding the right woman for him. We are going to stay friends even after the divorce goes through.

[infp_libra_78]

I wish I knew my ex wife had adhd before we got divorced. Would have explained so much and given tools. Probably still wouldn't be together, but it would have all been settled sooner, better for everyone involved

[AmberChick]

Most mental illnesses have been completely made up in our generation. ADHD is attention deficit hyperactive disorder. In other words, someone who gets easily distracted and is hyper. That sounds like a lot of my friends and they are fun people to hang around. I would date someone with ADHD, because I find that the weirder a person is, the more interesting they are. Why live a boring life?

[realmucoy94]

I am currently and yea he's wild and crazy sometimes it just matt being matt. Even though people say he acts like a 4 year old if you really get to know him he's very mature. Matt is probably the sweetest and caring person I know. Like evenif for what ever reason we break up, we will still be best friends. By the waywe werent best friends until we started dating.

[Anonymous]

Idk, I mean there are different levels of intensity with it.. example, someone who you can't even have a conversation with because she won't shut the f*** up and let you get a word in edge wise.. everything you say she replies mid way through you saying it to ask an impulsive question... that would drive me crazy... other than that idc, physically hyper doesn't bother me... even talkative . just have the decency to shut the f*** up and realize a conversation is a 2 way street.

* she is not the only person I know with it, she was a more severe case. generally adhd isn't a problem, I'm a spazz myself so I'm cool with it unless like above what I mentioned.

this is a really good question that will get many different responses..

[Anonymous]

I have ADHD and it really isn't much of a disability like people say it is. Sure I'm hyper and some people find that annoying, but just as many don't care about that or like me for my sort of playful side.

I used to take medication but stopped. I find that exercise is a big way to help me focus and get the energy out. I run 4 miles a day, and see a huge improvement in mood and attention span during the days I run. I'd actually venture to say that for me, exercise is a viable replacement for meds. Now, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone else without consulting their doctor, but studies have even shown that exercise helps ADHD.

Now back on topic after getting sidetracked (typical ADHD), I don't think it would matter if a guy has ADHD or not. In most cases, it's just another aspect of his personality. It would really come down to personal preference over whether a girl would like a guy with a lot of energy and slightly disorganized.

[Coopherst91]

I'm pretty ignorant as to the symptoms/behavior of ADD and ADHD. From the little I know about the most glaring symptom is a short attention span. But if I'm considering dating this person I already know that comes with the package or know they are a little spacey sometimes. Anyway if I got some of this glaring wrong don't attack me because I definitely would date someone with ADD/ADHD.

[Slugworth99]

My son has Aspergers. I have often wonder how it will affect his social life. We are trying to bring him up to be a southern gentleman, but it has been very challenging for him. I will be interested to see what some of your other answers on here are. My son has 4 or 5 girls he is good friends with and one of them he is particuarly sweet on. They don't judge him for the Asperger moments that he has which I thank God fo.

[drummerdude27]

how old is he?

[Slugworth99]

He's 14.

[ianm91]

I use to go to a Boarding school up in CT, it was for kids with Dyslexia, ADD/ADHD. There was a kid named James there with Aspergers. He was one of thee smartest kids I've ever known. He taught himself Japanese in 2 years and was a great shooter in the basketball team we played for.

He wasn't very social but so many of us loved him cause he was a nice character, he would have his moments, but I think people with Aspergers are generally one of the best characters on planet.

[Slugworth99]

The non-social aspect is very typical of Aspergers. My son has come a long way in his efforts. Last year, he only had one friend. We recently had his birthday party. He had 7 friends show up with 2 who couldn't make it. He still has his moments, but he has come a long way in just a year.

[BananaGirl47]

I dated a guy with ADHD, it wasn't too hard. he broke up with me and has a new girlfriend, but I still really like him and I wanna get back together with him. I guess I don't mind wether he has ADHD or not.

[Anonymous]

I was diagnosed with ADD, same thing but without the hyperactivity, it's more common in girls. Later, we found out what was causing it, while the symptoms were the same it was not ADD. Anyway, I have found that it has never affected my dating life, other aspects it has but not dating or social life.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my ex had it. He took meds so it wasn't that bad. Just takes some patients because in the middle of a conversation suddenly his attenttenon will be on something else. Kind of like a Little puppy lol but I didn't mind it was just part of what made him him. The hard part was that he has been called stupid and stuff all his life and that killed me because I knew it really hurt him

[ianm91]

ha.. I totally understand. I have ADD and was called stupid all the time. People don't know what it is to really live with something like ADD/ADHD problem or something similar to it like Dyslexia. It's really hard, I was always called retarded when I went to the "Special Educ" room to study with tutors.

It really hurt, cause even my own friend was pointing a finger and calling me retarded in front of the girl I really liked haha. but that was 7th grade. Still living strong with ADD though :)

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you :) oh I know. My mom has ADD and she says the same things happened to her. It's so silly to think just because a kid doesn't fit into one cookie cutter mold of learning that they are dumb. If anything it's the teachers who are

[ryanrhino]

I married someone with ADD. This was NOT the cause of our divorce, however.

SQUIRREL! ("Up" reference) :D

Being ADHD is just another part of your character. It does not define who you are, but it is part of you.

[Darkfairie17]

I am dating a guy right now who has ADD, and it doesn't cause any problems for us at all :) I actually find he is a great guy :D

[Freetobe007]

I commend you for not letting his ADHD stop you from being with him! That's noble of you. I've never dated someone with ADHD or anything like it, but I would give it a try.

[ZenQueen]

...noble?

[Freetobe007]

yeah because some people are ignorant assholes who will be judgmental and not even give them a chance so I love that this girl isn't doing that

[drummerdude27]

who cars what others think? why let them set the standard on what you think instead of being with someone cool?

[Freetobe007]

omg stop being so over sensitive

[ZenQueen]

How can someone honestly answer this question? Not considering their personality, just their "disability". God I hate what labels do to us.

[angyismytitle]

Yeah, ADHD has nothing to do with weather or not I like the guy or want to have a relationship with him.

[kaitlovesyou]

Me and my husband have ADHD and I agree with iam91 that I'd rather be with some who has it vs someone who doesn't. I'd prefer someone with it because they know where I'm coming from and understand what it's like. We both are on meds

[12elizabeth]

I haven't dated anyone with ADHD but it would seem possible to date someone with it as long as he\she takes his\her medications.

[InMyHeart]

:o

[jujubeetzzz]

id date daniel tosh, from tosh.0, so yea...id date someone with adhd. I don't know but he seems to have it :P

[drummerdude27]

little ignorant without knowing for sure? google before you blurt it out por favor

[jujubeetzzz]

f*** off you douchebag. haha

[rocksongwriter]

I would date someone with ADHD only if they were as pretty as you.

I have not dated anyone with ADHD.

[imnotsorry]

Yes, there's this one guy in my art whO has ADHD and he's really hot and funny.

[imnotsorry]

And the weird thing...(I forgot to mention this earlier) he's pretty calm...calmer than me, than a lot of people I know.

[AmberChick]

probably because of the drugs he's taking :o

[Anonymous]

I suspect that I might have adhd because of my short attention span. However, it probably would not work out well if I dated someone else with it because neither one of us could stay on target.

[Soccergirl1431]

My brother has ADHD. He had a girlfriend for almost two years before breaking up. ADHD shouldn't effect your relationship. But if it does, it's probably because he isn't taking his medication.

[Anonymous]

I had no idea that so many people look down on people with ADHD.

[CBearsgirl]

I totally agree with you.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure that most of the people answering even understand what it is.