Do Indian guys have any chance to date an American girl?

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Well , what do you American girls think of Indian guys ? I'm asking because I've heard a lot of nasty things . I'm from India and I might be coming to the US for further studies , what's the dating scene like for Indian guys ?

GuyAdviceFromGuy · Accepted Answer

I'M INDIAN and I'll tell you, it doesn't matter to them.

Girls are fine with any race dude. It might not seem that it's not because when it comes to actually "picking" what race, say a white girl, is picking, she will most likely say she wants to date a white guy, that will be her number one option. But just because of that, doesn't mean she won't go out with an Indian guy if she finds one who hooks up with her. I've dated a lot of white women and I am Indian just like you so that should tell you something. And it's all about approach, if you don't approach girls they are not going to think, "oh look at that Indian guy that won't approach me, maybe I should go up to him and impress him with my knowledge of dishes made with curry." You know what I am saying? Girls work a little differently than guys, generally speaking, if they see a guy who they think is cute, most girls won't do any approaching at all, and if he never initiates, she is bound to forget him. So you have to go up to them and not let anything like race get in your way. I think the BIGGEST reason why white girls are automatically CLOSE minded about dating an Indian guy, is they fear the following

-He is just dating me because he thinks white girls are more "loose" or "easier" to get.

-If I hook up with him, he can string me along before getting an arranged marriage.

-He won't tell his parents about me anyways because they won't accept me

-Being "middle eastern" he will treat women in an inferior manner if we get married

Of course these are all biases, because I've seen Indian guys and a White girls have successful marriages and their kids turn out to be very good looking. As a matter of fact, you'll see quite a few Indian girls with white guys, and those marriages turn out perfect.

So basically, I've dated white girls and let em know that their biases of us aren't necessarily true. And if they are, it's usually to specific Indians who, because the above is true for them, won't even pursue a white girl in the first place. And no matter what they say, most white girls wouldn't mind dating an Indian guy anyways. But yea, it might take more work because they'll be hesitant, but if you can go past all that and make her feel like you really care for her and would do anything, it will work, I've seen interracial marriages between Indian and Whites all the time.

Voltaire · Accepted Answer

Girls like attractive guys. As long as you're relatively good looking, you'll be fine. Though, to be fair, there are some fairly negative stereotypes about Indians that aren't going to help your cause.

BrighteyedAsh · Accepted Answer

Attraction does go a long way. I don't think it's so much the aesthetics as it is for the Bollywood thing many seem to go for. Then, there do seem to be two stereotype 'types' in America...one that uses money to get chicks, and the other that...just kind of is awkward and shy...I've met some straight dirtbag 'indians' and even dated one. Then most of the others that have hit on me, do so trying with financial offers and the like. They ARE very polite...and I've genuinely tried to look at many...and see past it when I was single, more in a...try to 'quit being judgmental'.

Thing is, as if men and women don't already look at one another like foreign creatures...a cultural gap like that can make for some huge difficulties that really don't tend to work out. Before I dated one, I used to really find them attractive and one of my small school crushes was indian. The guy I dated fell for me, at a young age even (16), but he was concerned at exactly the point someone else made, that his mother wouldn't approve. After we stopped dating, he found out his mother loved me and would have very much approved. I never did tell him then that his mother, not knowing we were secretly dating, used to try and hint around that I should date him. (I didn't want to make assumptions at her hints...) He's tried several times since to re-court me, but, he completely screwed it when he started being a scumbag and treating me sh*ttily because he thought we 'had no future'. Never date anyone you think you have no future with...because...the next person you date could very well be the one you spend forever with...and you kinda want that person to be someone you won't be screwing around on or treating like you think it's casual.

So if by 'American dating scene' you mean...do we have any women here you might actually want to wind up with...guess it depends what you want out of a girl. Do you see yourself taking an American girl home to mom if you mess around and fall in love?

Ranta · Accepted Answer

Well, I'm from Canada, but I don't mind Indian guys at all! There isn't really a specific race that I'm attracted to/not attracted to. As long as a guy's nice, reasonably intelligent, and somewhat attractive (not supermodel gorgeous or anything, but just has some sort of physical feature/characteristic that I'm interested in), I definitely wouldn't care what his race was. Besides, I love travelling and learning about other cultures, so I'd love to hear more about life in India!

I hope this helps, and best of luck if you do decide to go to the US! :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

uh indian guys from india are kinda lame to me and a little "awkward" I do like that they are driven and motivated to be successful but I wouldn't date one. I think most indian guys that try to date American girls are really just using us because 9 times out of 10 you won't bring us home to your family when it comes down to it and you see us as easier than indian girls and you'll most likely end up with an indian girl to bring home to mom.

prettylittlelady123 · Answer

Stereotypes are nothing to go by, I think you will be fine :) I'm sure they don't bite!

LetMeGagYou · Answer

DUDE, BEING INDIAN IS NOT A PROBLEM UNLESS YOU MAKE IT

huntusa · Answer

Dude first come over here and then see it for yourself.

erekmax · Answer

Just don't sweat it too much. Don't pretend to be someone or something you're not. You'd be surprised how open minded people can be.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, it's the accent that's the downfall. Lose the accent and you'll be fine.

smexiliciousss · Answer

Most likely Indian girls will like you

Anonymous · Answer

Not gonna lie, not good.

Anonymous · Answer

Like why are you people all coming to America for?

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