I assume you are asking this question in the context of "for a relationship" - which is the context most women always assume, but which is NOT what most men do by default.
I have to find her physically attractive. This isn't a massive hurdle to clear - she doesn't need to be a "10" or anything like that; there are plenty of girls who are a 5/10 who I find physically attractive, but she has to be within the range of body types that I like, and she has to have a natural look - I'm not likely to have a relationship with a girl who has a bunch of tattoos, has blue hair, piercings, or a bunch of plastic surgery.
Once I decide she's physically attractive to me, then it's about her personality. I like girls that are easy-going, are fun to be around, and aren't easily offended by everything - I avoid women who are loud, argumentative, gossipy, negative, or are looking to be offended by everything. I also want a girl who has similar morals and values as I have.
That's the basics for me. There are things that are "bonus points" - things that are nice to have but aren't requirements - and a girl with bonus points is going to be more desirable overall, but bonus points don't make up for a lack of baseline points. Bonus points can be personality things, like having a good sense of humor, or being above-average in smarts, or they could be physical things, like nice long hair or beautiful eyes or nice boobs or something.
Just so it's clear: for most men, we can be physically attracted to a girl, but either know nothing about her personality, or know enough about it that we wouldn't want to be in a relationship with her, but we'd still have sex with her. And for every girl we'd consider for a relationship, we meet 20 girls we'd have sex with but not consider for a relationship. That's why you always need to make it clear which context you are asking this kind of question about.
With atraction, the playboy looks. Working in teams without the girls that are strait out of magazine covers, the intelligence is what gets me to see their brightest side. But then again, dating world qualities are often shallow that they can be compared to bright qualities at work.
Sometimes I can fully express to someone how I feel, but not able to with certain others. But if you pay attention to what my eyes are saying and my expressions. It can fully give me away
Nice body, chest, and waist. If they have glasses that’s a major plus. That or freckles or naturally big eyes. Preferably long hair doesn’t matter the color but tend to lean toward brunette. Unfortunately not many of those out there and they tend not to be interested. Even if they were I wouldn’t feel comfortable getting involved with them
It's not something you create dear. You're either attractive to them or you're not. Any guy sizes up a woman in just a few seconds, whether she's do-able or not is either HELL YES or HELL NO. You can't change this, other than to just look your best. Always.
And dating at work is a really bad idea. Unless you don't mind having to find another job.
Eyes and hair. Always pleasing to see someone look fully done and everything cohesive. Shows potentially their level of smartness and creative approach to things.
@alleon Because no girl could ever like a monster and I'll never put myself in the position to be rejected ever again. So what other reason would a guy like me have to be drawn to a female.
