Flirting or nah?

[Anonymous]

Ok. I admittedly find my coworker attractive despite the fact that I’m in a happy relationship. I was talking to him yesterday. I asked if he had any Valentine’s Day plans. He said “we’ll see” and that he wasn’t sure” before saying “I don’t have a girlfriend if that’s what you’re asking.” That last part threw me off because I didn’t ask that. Do you think he was flirting with me? I can’t tell if I’m projecting that or if he really was and I may need to set better boundaries.

Yes

No

Not sure

[Anonymous]

Not sure, but asking if someone has Valentine's days plans is from my view almost asking directly if someone is single or set haha, at least you should get that answered in most cases.

[Jdjfjcjj]

You need to set boundaries?

his response to you asking him if he has Valentines plans isn't surprising. If you find him attractive, you giving off signs whether you realize or not and asking about whether he has a Valentine's, why the fuck does that matter in the first place? You asked him for a reason. Him replying no, likely resulted in you wondering why this guy you find attractive doesn't have a woman in his life. You would have found it better if he said he did have plans, confirming that many women find him attractive just like you.

Saying you need to set boundaries now though is goofy AF. You should be keeping distance if you in relationship and find this guy attractive. You inviting trouble and think it gives you validation if he gives you attention. Truth be told though, guys will stick their dick in just about Anything, so don't get too confident.

[Jdjfjcjj]

And people who are happy in a relationship, don't describe their relationship as happy, or their marriage as happier married. It's a quick giveaway that you losing interest

[20yearsolder]

I think he was just telling you that he probably didn't have any Valentine's plans because he didn't have a girlfriend

[Raperonzolo_Viv]

Looool

[Raperonzolo_Viv]

no flirting; normal convo as friends

[Jdjfjcjj]

They aren't friends, they coworkers and she finds him attractive and doesn't distance herself. It's not normal conversation and you know it. There was a reason behind her question but she wants to appear like he's the one being inappropriate.

[Wise4myage]

No, he was just being direct.