Would it bother you to know that most men prefer women who are pervy, and that the overwhelming negative flirting women get online is?

[TheSpaceGnome]

... actually a reflection of what men want in a woman.

What if I told you that not wanting such attention, and not wanting to give such attention back, actually makes most men lose interest in you? And that it's actually a test.

Does this bother you? That what most women seem to find offensive, is seen as attractive by the opposite sex?

What if I told you that any guy who spams or insults you when you don't reply (or when you say not interested), actually isn't interested in you at all, and simply gets off on trolling anyone (those guys are rare though).

To be clear, I've never hit on a woman in my entire life, online or off, and I don't trust anyone (or the net) enough to send pics, but I have been hit on by women, I've gotten lewd messages and pics I didn't ask for, and I found it to be an endearing act/personality trait (even if I wasn't interested in her in the slightest), and most guys I've met feel the same about it.

Which I suppose is why they message with unsolicited flirting.

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I'm too picky to do that to women I don't know well, and the ones I do know well that I find interesting enough, always beat me to it, because I take that sort of thing at a snail's pace.

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But I just thought the topic was interesting, because on the women's side, they are seeing it as an attack of sorts, and are wanting men in general to stop this sort of behavior, while on the men's side, they are waiting for the right woman, the one who will respond positively to their advances, and if they only want a pervy woman, then, offending aside, that actually makes sense to do.

[Juxtapose]

I think guys should know by now that women have different attitudes on sex and that the few women that think like men are almost always going to be taken.

Assume women you meet online have very prudish attitudes.

Would I like a world where women were just as perverted as men and constantly sent me nude pictures? Absolutely! But it's never going to happen, women were designed by evolution to be picky.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Agreed, I just find it interesting because from conversations I see people have, it appears most women seem to not understand the reality of it, and are having unrealistic expectationsas a result.

I had typed more, but it wouldn;t let me post it all, and it only allows 2 updates per week, here was the rest.

I may decide to post this as an update when it allows me to:

"Now as I mentioned before, I don't do that, but I'm also alone in my mid thirties, so I can't sit here saying my way is successful at finding a match, especially considering I do in fact prefer pervy women, and those (among nearly every other trait I like in women), are rare, with most of them not doing it in private and prefering onlyfans money to monogamy (perhaps this is why most women tend to separate love and lust conceptually, while most men tend to have love and lust be co-dependant). So I'm sort of wanting a needle in a heystack while also being unwilling to go through the pile."

[Juxtapose]

I find myself in a similar situation but I think women do understand very keenly, they just don't care. It's a vice to them, a flaw of men they would rather ignore and let us languish in until we tame our beastial natures.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Well I'm confused how it came to be, if most men only want pervy women, then wouldn't most men only breed with pervy women, and then wouldn't that result in prudes becoming a minority?

Don't get me wrong, its fine what anyone prefers, but while I respect others enough to not flirt unsolicted, I wouldn't date a woman who didn't act like sexually pushy perv to me.

Personally, I think the entire thing is a sham, that most people are pervy, and most women simply use the guise of a prudish pedistal to respond to men they don't find attractive, while most men simply don't bother being fake, because we have no issue just saying "not interested" to a woman.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also, if the reason is being picky, I suppose that makes sense too, I just find it very hard to believe that most men aren't picky.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm very picky, and with how most women complain about not getting attention, you would think no sane man would want a woman who isn't into their hobbies.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The bigger problem to me though, is that sort of fake behavior is making it literally impossible for any picky person, male or femake, to meet a match.

[TheSpaceGnome]

female*

[Juxtapose]

Well women have to carry a single child for nine months while men can spread their seed everywhere. It pays for women in an evolutionary sense to be cautious with who they mate with.