Why do everytime I try to make a friend they ended asking me out and saying I’m hot / cute any advice?

[Anonymous]

I don’t ask for it though, but it’s really annoying.

[Anonymous]

Guy friends I assume? Well expect this. Being your age will be partly why, and if these guys are single. Any girl "friend" I've ever had, I think I thought of them all in a "potential" girl friend way in the beginning, but that's not to say they weren't real friends either (some are still to this day). If a guy is single and looking, he's going to look at his options, and of course, friends are going to be first because a type of relationship (and communication) has already been established, and if he's attracted to you at all, the thought will at least cross his mind. I can see where you're coming from, by try to view it differently so it's not a "bad" thing or annoying for you. Maybe feel flattered that they're interested (even if you're not), but you can also let them know early on that you aren't looking for any kind of romantic relationship with them. Don't assume anything or hint at it, directly tell them (leaves no doubts). You can do this nicely still (if you feel like "it's mean", it's not), you're simply letting them know right off the bat so feelings don't get hurt. But again, my advice for you and all women, if you're befriending a guy, it's safe to assume that he'll at least consider the possibility of more with you at some point if he's attracted to you and single.

[Anonymous]

It’s because you’re trying make friends with straight men. If you’re attractive almost every single one will be sexually attracted to you.

Even if you do manage to find one who doesn’t say these things to you, it’s usually only because he’s afraid to come out and say it. As in he’s only your friend because he wants to bang.

Women don’t like this and you might try to claim that it’s not true, but it just is.

[Sarahplus2]

You need to make clear boundaries with male friends. Watch being flirty and too nice especially being very attractive. Some guys think since your nice to them you are into them.

[zagor]

I've had that problem where sometimes you're just being friendly and they think you're hitting on them. It happened at one place where I worked with two different women, who believe me would have been just about the last ones I would hit on there. They made a big point of mentioning their husbands. I came very close to saying, "wow, you actually have one? Is his seeing eye dog friendly?".

[SlothySlob]

I guess you either enjoy or are flirty conversations. Other than that, I have no idea how could you naturally get the conversation to, "hey wanna go on a date?"

[Plinko]

You're 18.

They all want to fuck/date you.

It's going to be that way for a long time.

[Marshymallow]

A downside of being hot ig

[BloodCursedDeviant]

You’re super cute…. forever cursed.

[Asker]

Yep, but I feel bad when I make them very sad that I said no. I have huge empathy though

[BloodCursedDeviant]

Don’t be. It’s not like you have to force yourself to like them. It wouldn’t be right.