me and this guy have been in the same friend group for years and 3 years ago from now we slept together. it was fun and passionate considering he's fairly nonchalant most the time with me. present day we started flirting again, i feel he's attracted to me, and he has said that before in the past. (but i also know i'm not 100% his type) anyway i notice that i flirt and make a little more effort when it comes to texting or making plans. he reciprocates a little dnt get me wrong and he has asked me to come over his, once. if i cancel on him because something genuinely came up, he goes somewhat colder towards me. (he used to be hot and cold with me in the past and have no doubt he's still that way) so.. my question for you, is it normal for a guy who's attracted to a girl sexually to not put much effort in? If yes or no, please explain why below. thanks x
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also, we haven't slept together present day yet but i have dangled that carrot that it's likely. i just want to feel desired and i don't feel... that. i know he's attracted but he doesn't make an effort to build up to that. not sure if he's bad at texting or what but.. meh
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If a guy really wants to sleep with a girl, he would be putting in a lot more effort than what he's doing. He could be holding back because he's pursuing another girl and/or he feels like if he sleeps with you, he'll get tied down in a relationship and maybe catch feelings.
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It sounds to me as though he sees you as the most convenient way to have easy, quick, no strings attached sex.
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There are women who I enjoy talking to but do not enjoy texting with. I wonder whether you might not fall into that category for him.
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