How do I talk to my gym girl crush?

[Anonymous]

I’m having crush on this Beautiful gym girl, that comes at the same time I go to gym. I know she is there to workout. So I’m I. She caught my attention and I’m not good at approaching girls anywhere. I get excited like I’m witnessing an angel when she walks over to gym. I don’t know what to do, also I’m incredibly nervous of saying “Hi”. Forget I want date this woman, I just want to say “you’re good at what you’re is doing and that you’ve caught my attention out of all the girls in the gym” not in the hope to date me, but for “what catches my eye catches my eye”, like my cup of tea. But She always has this not so friendly face around everyone. She doesn’t give a look or smile or anything to anyone, I hardly have seen a man approached her. I don’t want to be a creep. I don’t know if she thinks of me as a creep. I sometimes look at her to admire her eyes. But afraid of being creep as I watch tiktok and social media a lot, and how girls feel when approached by a man. Also I’m told it’s not a nice place to say Hi to a girl at the gym. I don’t know, I don’t want to make her uncomfortable, if she is not the match of my energy, that’s all right. But How do I not be a creep and get confidence to say something nice to her. She is always in this emotionless face mode.

Dear Girls/guys, please help me with your opinions to marry this angel.

[sunflower00]

Girls generally don’t love being approached at the gym, but if you want to speak to her I would recommend waiting until she’s not in the middle of a set of course and just say something short and in passing like someone else said, don’t hang around too long and if she seems like she isn’t interested don’t keep bothering her. But she might just have a rbf and it might end up going really well

[Asker]

I once asked her a machine, while she is checking her phone. She pulled out her forefinger signing one left. And She did her last set and cleaned the machine while I was patiently looking the other side. Then I said “thank you” , and she said no word, no expression, simply walked away.

Thank you, I’ll work on understanding her hints.

[Asker]

@sunflower00 so today she came with a guy. I want doing stairs machine. Then both looked at me. then she came to the stairs machines and started doing stairs machine in next next next to mine. And he went to other side where we both can’t see him. After 20 min I’m done with that machine and about to clean and drink water at the fountain which are right behind these machines. As I’m drinking water she is also done with hers and sat on the lowest stair, tying her lace or checking her phone with her head down body facing towards me.

I didn’t approach or looked at her instead I walked off to the other corner, thinking she would warm me with this guy. Even if the guy is not there I’m not going to approach her there. A part of me also think if she is giving me a a chance to talk to her. I’ve never seen her doing stairs in the last two months. And after few min, she walked out of the gym with this guy.

What is your opinion on this situation

[dustybiker]

Say something short in passing smile and keep going. See how she responds. If she ignores you let her go. If she reacts leave it like that and maybe say something another day. It shows you respect her space.

[Asker]

True, I’ve to try. I need enormous courage. I’m lacking self confidence. I feel better I feel insecure to approach her than to bother her. Sometimes, She works out close to me and I don’t know any of the hints or signs of her. I wonder if I exist in her world.

[Vegasrunner]

Honestly this sounds like a situation you should avoid. Approaching women at a gym is going to be reserved for the Alpha of the Alpha's and that doesn't sound like you. I know what I would do but it doesn't sound like you would be able to go through and execute the same way.

[Asker]

I grateful for the tip and more details would be appreciated on how to be an Alpha in this kinds of situations. Even the lions or killer fishes of the great oceans learn to hunt. Until and unless they’re good hunters, they’re no kings or no dominants, or territorial.

[Vegasrunner]

Asker the problem is that learning takes practice and in your case you're not going to be able to practice on a human. You're to fixated on this one girls so talking w/ other women isn't going to satisfy you. My advice to you would be to move on, you're on the right track going to the gym so I would just focus on improving other areas of yourself until you have enough confidence to realize you're the prize.

[Guy13]

Ask her out. It is not difficult. There’s a Ben Jerry’s, boutique brewery, and etc 500-1500 feet from gym. Ask for ice cream 🍨. It’s funny ‼️ Gym then beer 😎

[Asker]

There is Starbucks right in front of the gym, I’ve thought of it. Not sure how to start. My words are escaping my body not just my mouth when she is close.

[Guy13]

Starbucks is common so any other option is best…. ifvyiu get “tgat look” or reaction then fallback is Starbucks. You don’t want to be the plain standard boring guy and run to Safety tight off. Learn jokes…animals ones. Rehearse in mirror, record voice listen. Basic one but you have to play with it. What did the caged bird say to the cat ⁉️ “Pardon me if I litter” 💩 outside the cage all everywhere…. Make her laugh thoughtfully then she’s all yours…

[Iron_Man]

Strike up an interesting conversation be yourself

[Asker]

I’m trying if I just be myself, I’m a corner person. I do my own thing. How should I show my admiration towards her.

[taraburtch]

I would just start with saying hello. you never know. she might be talkative. just has a rbf because she's trying to work out. I would catch her when she's taking a break

[Anonymous]

You just talk to her. If there is chemistry, something will happen.

[Asker]

You think so.. How sweet. I’ll think on getting some courage.

[ProVox]

Ask her to spot you on the bench press 😆

[Asker]

I always workout with friends and she workouts alone. 😃