Guys, Is it true men get shy talking to women they like?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[abc3643]

To a large extent, yes, and this is easily understandable.

Males subconsciously view the world in competitive terms - not necessarily with each other, but more like a male has goals that he wishes to attain.

When the goal is valuable, he will pause to think more cautiously about the situation and his next moves. These questions go through his mind:

1. Is attaining the goal worth the investment of time, energy, and money? (After all, there may be other goals more "worth it".)

2. Do I really want this? Am I sure I want this? Better make sure.

3. What is the likelihood of success?

4. OK, I am going to go for it. What are the best moves that I should do to maximize the likelihood of success?

So, when you put these together with a female that the male likes, he will first assess if she is available and if he has a chance. But, he will also collect information about her - try to understand her and her likes, dislikes, views, and other various things for two reasons:

1. Answering earlier Question 2 - that he wants to be sure that he wants her. After all, he doesn't want the drama of a shitty relationship.

2. Answering earlier Question 4 - he needs to plan his next moves and the more he knows about her, the better he can plan and better plan he can make.

Do you understand?

In a way, you have to view males as like hunters or predators and females as prey. Once a predator or hunter sees the targeted prey it wants, it fixates on it and watches then, when the time is right, it acts. Or doesn't act at all if it doesn't think its going to succeed or that the target isn't actually desirable.

So, when a male sees a female he likes, this is sort of what is happening.

[William7489]

In fact most men do understand that women are attracted to confidence, and understand that the Shy types are not particularly in demand. So most guys do make an attempt to at least project some veneer of confidence when talking to women.
it just depends on the person. If you’re fairly confident in yourself, it won’t be a problem, if you have some insecurities, you may have trouble talking to somebody that you’re interested in. But like I said most guys understand that they need to at least appear confident.

[JDAC092299]

For me it’s like an annoying passing wave, I start off awkward then after a few minutes of interaction I start to realise how stupid it is that I’m treating someone different just because I think they’re beautiful then my awkwardness passes and it never comes back with that specific person come to think of it nor does it with any other person afterwards if I’m with someone I find attractive I mean relationship wise. I think my mind gets satisfied or something because when I’m with someone I treat everyone else the same regardless of how they look it’s like my brain doesn’t process looks anymore.

[Rangers]

Yes, it absolutely is, especially if he's socially awkward and a huge introvert like I am.

The only way to get past that nervousness is to actually go out and talk to the pretty girls.

Still hard for me because I don't know how to open a conversation but if she participates, it all flows very naturally. If she doesn't participate in the conversation and give me her attention, then I'll move on.

I have a girlfriend now though, all of that dancing with pretty girls at nightclubs paid off even though my knee still hurts sometimes from all of the bull riding I did to show off🤕

[HiveBee]

It's interesting to me that this is a common question.

Like women really think that all men are just living that pimp Playa lifestyle. Running around approaching women and flirting and taking them home and shit.

That's YOUR fantasy, not ours.

[CasuallySamsonite]

No. Nope. Not at all. We, I'm mean... What I mean to say is. Is that, nope, we men, manly men um... Are suave, Not intimidated in the least, not at all *gulp* by talking to. If that's okay, um talking to beautiful, attractive woman.


Jk, honestly lots of guys get nervous trying to ask someone out, pretty normal especially for the sort of guy who may not get out much. Gets easier with time and practice, just like lots of things... Less pressure too.

[Lionman95]

Yes especially at the beginning because many guys don´t know how to start off things because they don´t want to mess it up. If we have feelings for a woman it´s hard to talk to her.

[Allyfax]

Absolutely... We be saying shit we never would making a fool out of ourselves, but none the less she'll know.. she'll know we like her , thats why a second impression is just as important than a first one 😜

[exitseven]

I was really afraid to talk to girl and if I really liked somebody it was painful. I never could work up the nerve to actually ask somebody out.

[Shy_Steve]

You might think us Guys do it occasionally, But we do absolutely every time we are talking to Women we like.

Even Confident Guys get Shy with Women they like.

[FilmGuy93]

Yes, that's very true. It's not always a confidence issue, either.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes... I'm for one of them I have bad shyness