Should I ask out a cute guy I see in public? And what should I say?

[Evie_Rose91608]

I go to this cafe a lot with my friends. There is this cute guy who works there. I'm thinking about making a move. I don't know his name though or much about him really.

I'm also in a complicated relationship with another guy and I don't know if we're together. What should I do?

[RosieLovesRoses]

How about we hope that he's not that much older than you because if he is like a grown ass adult then sorry hon, write your fanfics and fantasize from afar. If he seems about your age, go for it! Head up to him and do a pickup line like I don't know "my coffee is hot, but your hotter" or something. Sorry i'm bad but you can be creative and make one up. If he laughs and returns the conversation you can talk to him for a while and ask him about himself. If you like him, ask for his number and boom! There you go shawtie. If he rejects remember you have so many chances later in life. Right now just have fun and do what your mind sets you to. :)

Also the relationship with the other guy-ask yourself if your gaining anything from that relationship and if you want to be together. If you are feeling down about it, break up my friend. You gotta move on to the next step and stop staying staying on the same level and going nowhere. Once you break up take your grit for the hot cafe boy. Hope that helps!

[SueShe]

Don't fill your head with guys. Being in a relation with a boy at age 14 is already complicated enough without you wanting to make it even more complicated.

Concentrate on your studies. Believe me, those should have your top priority because you don't want to have to abort your schooling or studies because of some guy. You can always get into trouble at age 26 or later, once you have your degree in your pocket. Be wise and don't get yourself in trouble with boys. They only have one thing in mind and this thing is certainly not to your advantage.

If you want to know the boy's name, just ask for it. There is no reason why he would not give it to you. You say you know almost nothing about this boy? What tells you he is not a creep, a criminal or an addict? Never rush things and think well ahead of time before making any rushed decisions you may regret later in life. Good luck.

[SnowedIn]

Make it simple. Just ask him sometime if he can get coffee with you when he's off. His response will start to lead you to an answer on the relationship with the other guy. If he says yes and you guys have a connection, then you can think about ending it (if there is an "it") with the other guy.

But, don't not say something to the cute guy who works at the café. You'll regret it if you don't... just bear in mind that one answer may be that he's not interested or is too old for you -- and that's okay. Just don't not ask. :)

[Chazmatazz269]

If you don’t know if you’re with a guy, then you’re not. Unspoken expectations are nothing short of willful ignorance and resentment factories. Commitment must be clarified, no exceptions.
That said, not knowing the other fella’s name is a plus. It’s the easiest in known to humankind, a simple introduction. “Hi, I’m Megatron. What’s your name?” If he’s not a complete doof, a conversation is born. Yay!

[Guy13]

Can I buy you a cup of coffee or 🍺 or 🥃

[Evie_Rose91608]

my little sister is also with us. We're only 14 and money-limited. Lol.

[SueShe]

A beer to a 14 year old child?

[Paulalove98]

She's 14 wtf is wrong with you

[pers0n]

@SueShe as if anyone will sell it to him/her/me however it identifies.
There is nothing wrong in this child saying it will buy a beer, even though it never will.

[pers0n]

Seriously, she could say it as a joke just to start the conversation.

[Bel2718]

@SueShe You're right. She should have something much stronger, like a vodka or whiskey.

[Guy13]

@Bel2718 I missed her age. My apologies. I block underage people and she is now on my Blocked list.. Please disregard my comment.

[watercolor_lions]

I'd make a clean cut away from the other guy, and then start requesting the barista to start making my drinks.

If he asks why, just tell him he makes them sooo good flirtatiously 😉 Then maybe you can introduce yourself, start a conversation, maybe ask him out?

Or at least get a chance to talk to him!

[pacifyherrr]

I’m the same age as you and I’ve done that. I’d probably ask for their Snapchat and we’d just snap. Later on you could maybe ask to meet up. You gotta be aware that if you’re the only one who shows interest it might not last long and you might be blocked.

[Evie_Rose91608]

could i try his number? I'm not allowed snap. lol.

[JSmuve]

Isn't it girls who normally advise guys not to ask them out when they're at work because its awkward for them and they're just being nice because it's their job? But if it's the opposite roles then it's somehow perfectly okay? Maybe I'm the only one who notices these double standards.

[CubsterShura]

If he's an employee I'm afraid the work policy may not allow that, on top of that if he is 18 and above you're better off forgetting about him.

[Evie_Rose91608]

we think he's 14-16.

[CubsterShura]

You may wanna look at the policy still

[Anonymous]

Be honest and say you find him attractive. This will put you in a vulnerable position but at some point in your life you're gonna have to go through it anyway just like the rest of us. You are not committing any crimes and the worst that could happen is a rejection.

[WhiteBoyChill]

“There is this cute guy who works there.”

Well first off, how old is he?

Second off if he’s older than 16, you’re getting shot down.

And thirdly just ask that other guy “are we together”

[Evie_Rose91608]

we think 14-16 but we're not sure. He's about as tall as the guys in our friend group.

[kellytheman]

Yeah I think more girls should try to ask guys out more. Sometimes us guys make us feel good being they hunted than the hunter. It's a nice change for us guys worry about be rejected and chasing girls. Most girls probably won't be rejected by guys.

[pizzalovershouse]

How would you like seeing a movie with me my friend dropped out of going or I need a second person for dinner that's paid for but my friend can't make it

[jshm2]

Do nothing. You've got enough drama on your plate as it is, kiddo.

[Lis-the-librarian]

What?

Its not complicated. Break up.
And yes, talk to the guy, tell him your name and ask for his contacts.

[Charliefretz329]

Tell him you think he’s really cool and you want to hang out together! And smile! If your first alone time is good give him a big smiley hug to let him know you liked it

[HippieVeganJewslim]

First ask permission for the other guy. Then, make sure the cute guy is single before asking him out.

[Twalli]

The gut should have a nametag and you can feed to. dort out your situationship with the other guy first.

[Jamie05rhs]

What is the nature of your "complicated" relationship? Can you tell us more about that?

[Evie_Rose91608]

we like each other and we flirt but I don't know if we're official.

[ZS007]

so you like another guy and you are thinking of making a move to cafe guy? ahaha go home kiddo

[Jamie05rhs]

@evie_rose1608 Ask the first guy out on a date.

[Jamie05rhs]

@evie_rose91608

[Evie_Rose91608]

ok, so the one in my friend group (James) not "cafe guy"?

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah. Ask him first. Because you already have a connection with him. You already know him. Then if that doesn't work out, then you can consider other guys.

[Anonymous]

No, just stand there and play with your hair. It's the man's job to approach you. You don't need to do anything.

[GrantArmstrong]

Figure out where you are at with the other guy first. You owe it to yourself mainly.

[ZenJen444]

Why would you do that? Obviously you didn't catch his eye because he didn't approach you. Stop being a sad pathetic needy pick me

[Subglacial]

Maybe he didn't approach her because he wants to keep his job.

[ZenJen444]

🤣 that has nothing to do with anything

[Subglacial]

The guy the asker is interested in works at the cafe she visits. You don't think it would be inappropriate for him to be hitting on customers?

[Stevefiveo]

Ask him out. Just say hey I think your cute and I want to go out with you. Here's my number.

[Anonymous]

Resolve the issue (s) with the guy your currently dating first.

[CoolCatMar1]

If he works he must be wayy older than 14

[Nahid1707]

You’re confident for fourteen

[Evie_Rose91608]

thank you

[Nahid1707]

You’re welcome

[boobliker]

yes! do he may be shy just ask to walk and coffee

[panamared1]

How old is he

[Evie_Rose91608]

14-16 we think def in teens

[panamared1]

Becareful, have fun

[Anonymous]

I don't know.