What gets your attention first in the opposite sex? Behavior or appearance?

[tischro]

I'm just curious about it. What gets your attention when you see the opposite sex first?

[Dinklex3]

Depends on the person.

Sometimes of course I notice appearance.

But a lot of times I’m to myself and don’t really pay attention to others. Sometimes people grab my attention. When I notice them and actually look at them more I then notice how attractive they are.

[GoodEnoughThen]

Physica appearance os almost always first, firsy thing you see and can get a gut reaction to.
If you find them physically appealing, this will encourage you to follow-up with a conversation, a conversation that potentially could make them even more attractive, or way less so.
If you don't find them physically attractive, a conversation could still win you over.

[EricSummer]

Appearance is the first thing I notice.

For example, Vika Levina from your profile photo caught my attention years ago though I did not know how she behaved.

Women in real life can also have that power.

[iiinsOMNIA]

I'm probably not the right person to answer this question, but I'd say appearance. It catches my attention first. Behavior comes immediately after, though. I'll forget about the appearance if the behavior is... just not it lol.

[AviatorTom]

Appearance is almost always the first thing a person notices about another person.

[menina]

It's usually appearance. My friends say that I fall easily for good looking men, but I can't help it. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

But of course, if he's attractive but has a s****y personality/behavior then I have no interest in him.

[Chthou95]

There's nothing wrong with that. You're human. Humans are hardwired to seek out good genes

[menina]

@Chthou95 That's true. But they also think that I care more about looks than personality but that's not true.

[strateguy632]

to menina why "fall for" you are simply attracted to good appearance which is natural.. not "help it"? no need to resist unless as you added their talking or behavior is annoying etc.

[menina]

@strateguy632 Well, yes I guess it's natural. But they think I care too much about looks. I just know what I like. 🤷🏾‍♀️
"not "help it"?" - It's because I'm always attracted to them and sometimes that makes me feel bad.

[Adam1978]

Appearance because behavior takes time to analyze. The later is however required for being girlfriend material.

[motownplayer2000]

Appearance will always attract first because that’s what you see first. Behavior is shortly afterwards, but sometimes that can manifest slowly as the false persona gets stripped away until you see the bare nakedness of someone’s actual self.

[strateguy632]

her face first. when a group of girls i only see the ones facing me not notice the ones back toward me despite films showing guys like to stare at pants asses.

[RangerBlue22]

Most people would be lying if they didn’t say looks. Especially men.

However not everybody is that shallow. We might feel initially attracted but something in their behavior Can turn is off.

[asphaltrhymes]

Appearance, personality, voice, or smell (or smell of perfume, good or bad). Hard to tell.
Some days maybe cleavage just catches my eyes or tight pants 😜🫣😜🫣

[asphaltrhymes]

But I wouldn't say tight pants as healthy or wise. 🤣🦉

[RavVid]

Waist hip ratio if they are distant. Closer, then it will be face, hair, boobs and legs.

But more it is the way a girl moves that sparks my interest.

[OfMiceandMen]

Usually appearance first and then their behavior after you start-up a conversation.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Behavior. If you are friendly and approachable, then you could be a 5/10 or less and I would approach.

[Peter_Penetrator]

But, if it looks like you slept next to a dumpster the night before, then good luck to you.

[Lliam]

Appearance is obviously the first thing that gets my attention. Behavior and personality come once I start getting to know her.

[Reorx]

Appearance initially, not going to lie, men are visual creatures but the more I matured I realized thats not the best outlook for a good relationship so appearance still matters but the behavior impacts whether I stay attracted or not.

[Anemone978]

Appearance but I watch peoples behavior and plain people can become attractive...

[FilmGuy93]

Appearance, but nothing will kill my attraction to someone faster than seeing them behave poorly.

[Haha456]

Isk

Dk.
I don't know. I look baby cute but i always get ignored by guys

[chicosuave]

wanna go play mario kart?

[DizzyDesii]

If i met them in person, appearance. If i met them online, behavior

[kellytheman]

It's usually her appearance of how she is dress and how well she is physically. I do like seeing how she carry herself also and if she has a nice or rude personality.

[Nikki1989]

Nothing at all. I have to talk to him to feel any attraction.

[GoodEnoughThen]

But you'd be more inclined to even bother to talk to him if you found him physically attractive in first place?

[kakaling]

Appearance 1st, behavior you will need more time to fully understand a person.

In any point of the time in between if I ever fall in love, nothing matters.

[JustBeingReal727]

Appearance but that's the least of my concern cause I know once I get to know the person that tends to go out the window which is more common than people think.

[Chthou95]

What's funny is that everyone is saying looks first but if someone says that without looks, personality won't attract most people by itself then people claim that personality is what attracted them to someone. Clown shit

[Tonitos]

I don't care if the woman is ugly, I care if the woman can bear children and that's the only important thing, she must be fertile.

[Sasha0426]

What she was cruel and abusive towards the kids?

[Sasha0426]

*what if

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 I can't interfere when she starts to discipline my kid, she knows better, a woman can never hurt her child, but when it comes to raising good child, she disciplines him well

[Sasha0426]

So, if she kills your kid, you would be ok with that?

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 No wtf are saying?

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 a mother will never kill her child

[Sasha0426]

You’re joking, right? Please tell me you’re trolling right now.

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 I am not joking, any mother can't have the gut to kill her child. if you have just this thought, it's just a phoney thought maybe because you developed anxiety but believe just looking at your baby and breastfeed him will make so relaxed and will make your life perfect

[Sasha0426]

Ok, what about the stories that mothers actually killed their own kids? You don’t believe that doesn’t actually happen.

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 those stories some of them were true but you need to understand the contributing factors behind the killing. it's the husband's fault because he had not had any time for his wife to check up on her mental health, always bussy with work and that happened, always give time to your wife, and before even jumping into intercourse ask her whether she wants to conceive or no. if We insist on a woman doing something reluctantly, this will affect their mental well-being in the future.

[Sasha0426]

For the love of God, don’t fucking reproduce. You’re too stupid for your own good to breed. Your poor kids will be beaten to death by your wife.

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 did you beat your child? or were you treated that way?

[Sasha0426]

No and no.

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 but why bring this topic?

[Sasha0426]

Because you need think about this kind of stuff.

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 do you think am going to choose a woman without a physical and mental examination?

[Sasha0426]

Well, you only listed her fertility so…. yeah.

[Tonitos]

@Sasha0426 I understand you. But a medical test and ex-ray will be needed before intercourse so She will give birth to a healthy child.

[msc545]

Oh sure - all those tests will reveal a potential abuser. NOT.

[zagor]

Generally appearance. Unless they're pooping on a table or something.

[art84]

Appearance especially if they dress a certain way that makes you notice them.

[Masumgunahkar]

The delicacy and politeness of the way of speaking...

[Anonymous]

First appearance, i mean neat clean. Then how he behaves and interact with others.

[Kingofkings1992]

Appearance is the initial attraction, behavior is what keeps us attracted.

[msc545]

Appearance first, but my attention shifts very fast to what she says and does.

[EaterPeter]

All of it. Any thing. The way she walks, the way she talks.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

Her being opposite sex

[Chris2254]

Appearance then Behaviour. Appearance give me the first impression of that person.

[DermalPunch]

Appearance absolutely. I mean, come on.

[Summeroflove]

Probably both

[4ngelic]

depends but generally its more looks

[sage2021]

If he's wearing a wedding ring

[chicosuave]

appearance. i think for girls its behavior's

[Anonymous]

It’s always appearance.

[Christoff92]

Well more behavior. Appearance is a bonus.

[brandon1122]

Mostly behaviour. Wbu?

[Jazzy54]

Looks.

[SpaceGalaxy]

Her Ass, then her face

[justabuddy]

Both for attention. I stay for character though.

[Aces8]

Appearance is first

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Appearance.

[Amishaxx]

Appearance

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

Appearance.

[Fireguy17]

eys, smile

[LiamJHayden]

Behavior.

[Pterodon]

Appearance

[Sera10]

Hands

[Slim57]

Behavior definitely