If you told your crush that you like her why wouldn’t you make effort? are guys scared and is it hard for them to show emotions?

[imanoverthinker]

[Vikkrram]

Ok let me tell you something there's a girl in my apartment mostly in sometimes she would moove out from here. So she was the one who started looking at me , staring at me always so initially i thought it was mine perception but it started having frequently. And slowly we were looking at each other and this went for almost 3 years. Whenever we met we were always looking if sometimes i ignored her she would purposely do it to show me.

We both become kinda awkward around each other. She kinda becomes nervous around me so as i. But i thought that i might have given her some wrong hints. So i apologized her on her insta saying that i am sorry if i did anything wrong People might take things wrong.
She asked why i was apologizing so i said that i thought i might have disturbed you in the past and she even asked me did i have to tell something else and i said no that's it and now if you have to block me then you can.


But ma'am now whenever we meet we kinda ignore and avoid each other. She behaves like i have threatened her and I don't want to come near her to have any kind of awkwardness.

I don't know what's going on?

[imanoverthinker]

well she may think that you were cringe that you tected here because you didn’t do anything wrong. but there are much more reasons. she might have hard time or she is seeing someone new that you don’t know and she left you in the past. she may also think that she’s too cool for you or that she had enough of flirting fiw three years or maybe she is upset about that you didn’t tell her that you have a crush on her. she may think that you were just joking for three years and that you don’t want anything serious. my assumptions may be wrong beacuse i domt know the full story

[Vikkrram]

Thank u ma'am for even telling this pov from a girl. Yes but at least i am now feeling good that you didn't think that i did wrong by apologizing to her.

Coz my friends are really making my fun. So this upsets me sometimes

[imanoverthinker]

no problem!
and you shouldn’t care what other opinions:)

[DaveJord]

So, you are 15... so the fact that some other 15-year-old boy told you he has a crush on you... I mean do you not understand how hard it is to put yourself out there like that to a woman?

I mean for a 15-year-old boy, that takes a huge effort. He just told you likes you, and has a crush on you, what else do you think he needs to do... what effort are you putting out? Are you telling him that you have a crush on him to? Or are you like okay, thats nice... then just laying back and waiting on him to do more?

[imanoverthinker]

i told him that i like him first and i make more effort beacuse i text him and start a vonversation with him more often. but today was a great day eith him:)

[DaveJord]

Well at 15 boys have no clue how to act... but they are trying to figure it out.

[imanoverthinker]

okey thank you!

[Jadebamboo]

Depends on the man and his motives. I could think of a variety of possibilities, such as:
1. Shy or fear of backlash socially
2. Sex crazed man who doesn't make effort unless its obvious sex is on the taking
3. Workaholic/buzy man who simply doesn't have the time
4. Emotionally drained/mentally hurt man who has untreated mental conditions
5. Missinterpretation. Maybe the dude wants to speak with you, but its you who is giving mixed signals, so he stays put “playing it safe”
6. And so many more

[Jadebamboo]

Bottom line is clarity of what you want is going to be your friend here

[imanoverthinker]

thank you very much!

[Futurelooker]

Usually men have learned not to show their emotions. That´s the way I was raised. Remember that men are expected not to show any weaknesses. And in this way showing emotions are a weakness. Therefore men show their emotions indirectly, e. g. caring for you.

[imanoverthinker]

thank you!

[SnowedIn]

I get what you're saying. An answer that won't be pleasing is that there's an ocean of difference and difficulty between telling someone you like them and then actually taking action on it. Kinda in the same way that having a crush on someone is way easier than telling them you like them.

[imanoverthinker]

yeah i agree and i think that words don’t mean anything if they’re not proven with actions

[SnowedIn]

I like the way you think. I'd caution that, yes, many words need action behind them, liking/crushing without action doesn't make that feeling/emotion meaningless. 🙂

[Adam1978]

It's the crush that has the ball. Why do you expect one side shall do all the work? No point in pursuing a person that doesn't like you back.

[imanoverthinker]

you didn’t understand i think because he likes me back but he doesn’t make any obviois effort

[Adam1978]

Relationship are a dance both people need to move in the same direction. It's not one dragging the other. You must at minimum return the favor and say you like them too. Otherwise you are disregarding his effort, so why would he do more? There is no encouragement for that.

[imanoverthinker]

we both know we liek each other

[Adam1978]

So what is the issue? You want to take it further so do that. Instead of question why he doesn't.

[imanoverthinker]

yeah im trying and today it was better and i hope it stays that way. thank you for help:)

[es20490446e]

Are you scared of showing emotions yourself?

Are you scared that the other person won't reciprocate any emotion?

[imanoverthinker]

im not scared of showing emotions and i have been rejected many times so it doensnt hurt me as much as in the past

[es20490446e]

It's easy when you find someone willing, anyone else doesn't matter.