Do men in relationships rather flirt with women who look like their girlfriend or with the complete opposite?

[Anonymous]

If they flirt with the opposite, why? Does it mean they don’t love their girlfriend?

Girlfriend type

Opposite type

[zeitgeist057]

Opposite, and it doesn't mean they don't love their girlfriend. It just means they love VARIETY.

If I've already got one type as my girlfriend, then I'm more likely to look for something a little different. Like if you already had a bowl of soup, wouldn't you rather mix it up with a salad or other appetizer, than have another bowl of the same or similar soup?

Though I will say my girlfriend is pretty gorgeous, so I wouldn't mind if she were twins or we found another woman who looked similar to her to play with <3

[Asker]

No, if I have a type and I love my boyfriend I am naturally drawn to people who resemble that type or person since I’m very selective

[zeitgeist057]

I guess I find something to love about a lot of different people, the same way I do with music or food. Some people are not like that, though. They only like one kind of music, or one kind of person.

I think life is more interesting being open and discovering how people can be very different, yet still have wonderful, lovable things about them.

[Asker]

Yeah then you should also find something lovable in women who look like your wife. I don’t it really strange that men would flirt only with women who look nothing like their wife and ignore the ones who look similar

[Asker]

*find instead of don’t

[zeitgeist057]

sure, I said already I find something lovable in many women. Those who look like my partner, and those who don't. Not exclusively one or the other. It's also not just about looks, it's personalities as well.

[1073sucks]

And how would you feel if your girlfriend or wife was flirting with men who are totally different than you?

[zeitgeist057]

@1073sucks that's fine, I'm pretty original so she would be hard pressed to find someone to flirt with that is the same as me; almost all men are different. I think it would be fun for her, I like when she's feeling confident and sexy, desired by someone (man, woman, nonbinary). It's something we both enjoy, so how would I feel? Happy for her and maybe a bit proud as well <3 :)

[Asker]

Yeah but how would you feel if you were for instance blonde and she would only flirt with dark haired men and ignore everyone that resembles you? You would feel as if she thinks everyone was better than you

[Asker]

@zeitgeist057

[zeitgeist057]

no, I don't think like that, that seems like the way an insecure person would think. I'm more likely to think, "dang, I really am very special! I'm blonde, but she doesn't seem to like blondes usually. There is something special about me that sets me apart from all the blonde men; I'm the only one she is captivated by!"

Are you in this particular situation?
If so, I would trust your gut and other signs more than just this one. Also, i'm sorry if this is what is happening and it's hurting you.

Also, you should know my situation might be different than yours; my girlfriend and I are in an open (inclusive) relationship, but most people are in exclusive relationships. Where flirting with others is seen very differently sometimes.

[1073sucks]

I guess you two are meant for each other I wouldn’t ever stay with a man like that. Eek.
you found your half

[1073sucks]

Oh open relationship the worst. This is red flag and not husband material nor wife material in my view but like I said you two found each other same type of person. I would never be with anyone like that and no it’s not about insecurities like you told the other woman but just a matter of values, respect and morals. When you love someone you don’t actually do that.

[zeitgeist057]

@1073sucks learn to speak for yourself; your perspective is not the only one on a planet with 8 billion others <3 possessiveness, jealousy, manipulation, selfishness, entitlement, insecurity, and envy are not love in my world <3

Try "When *I* love someone, *I* don't actually do that." :) :*

[1073sucks]

Take your own advice just because I would never be with a man that desires or prefers other women does not imply that it is due to possessive, jealousy, manipulation, selfishness, entitlement, insecurities, envy etc whatever other mull you mentioned or comes to your mind , that’s all is just YOuR perception of it because you couldn’t find a woman that fulfilled you to the fullest and you NEED the escape with an open relationship to wander off and satisfy those needs that we’re not met.

As I said for ME it’s about values, morals and respect, if you love someone and are satisfied, trust you don’t actually need satisfaction elsewhere.

If you feel offended by that, it’s just that, and not because of whatever trash enters your brain because that’s the life you NEED to satisfy yourself.

As I said you found someone just like you. You don’t meet each others needs and HAVE to resort to that type of lifestyle. That’s all.

[zeitgeist057]

@1073sucks it seems you are unable to learn, and I will not continue this conversation with someone who cannot be respectful. I'll leave you to those who communicate on your level.

[zeitgeist057]

@ Asker, I'm fine to continue our conversation if you like. :) I just think 1073sucks has no idea what I'm even talking about since she seems to think I'm offended, when all Im asking for is for her to speak for herself and allow me to speak for myself rather than putting words in my mouth. But, it seems to be either beyond her level of understanding, or she doesn't care to be respectful.

[1073sucks]

He stated someone that values morals respect and integrity/dignity in a relationship implies that that person is jealous, selfish all this other bull crap he invented because he clearly feels offended and by saying speak for yourself to others isn’t speaking for himself in itself stating the very thing I typed above which he stated.

Simply this person is not satisfied to the fullest with his relationship so he MUST have an open relationship to find the needs that are not med by his wife in other women. Simply that.

What a ridiculous person telling you ‘don’t do this while doing that very thing’😦🤯🤦‍♀️

[serious]

How does that matter. If men who are in relationships flirt with other women then it is highly inappropriate, cheap and it is even an indication to cheat as well.

[Luckycharms12]

Opposite of course why would they go for something they already have

[Asker]

because they have a type and love their wife? i don't get why someone would avoid flirting with me BECAUSE i look like his wife but flirt with every woman that looks nothing like her

[Luckycharms12]

Don't they avoid it. Just less interested Like something completely different

[Anonymous]

You tell me. Who knows how men think.

[bros26]

We men's have big heart we love all girls not like women selfish love only love one guy at a time... lol.

[strateguy632]

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