My husband is letting me flirt with his best friend, is that a good thing about a bad thing.. I'm still trying to understand why he's allowing this?

[Anonymous]

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I don't know, my hubby is just.. allowing it to happen now but only when it's in front of him. And it's his BEST FRIEND. They're older than me; hubby is 31(Taurus) and best friend is 27 or 28(Pisces) and I'm 24(Gemini).. dunno their age but only subtle flirting is okay with hubby.. is that the right thing to do?

[Avicenna]

That's a bad thing unless all three of you want that

[Asker]

His best friend wasn't sure of it, but he was flirting with me back when he was over at our house last week. And hubby was just watching us, which I find odd to me.

[TruthBeTold77]

Why you flirting with his friend tho? I don't know maybe he likes/doesn't mind sharing. Sharing is caring after all. Maybe he wants want to watch you with other men. Some guys are into that stuff.

[sheikalana]

Is he really allowing that behavior or is there any chance he hasn’t noticed it? Either way this is not a good thing this is not what marriage is about.

[Asker]

Oh he's noticed it and he's allowing it.

[sheikalana]

That's just really weird to me.

[Summeroflove]

Why the FUCK are you flirting with his best friend. Maybe your husband trusts you and doesn’t suspect you’ll do something horrible to him.

[serious]

Well maybe he wants you to find someone else. He wants you to be happy and he thinks that will happen when you find someone who will love you.

I think ending the marriage might be on his mind.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t tell me, your husband’s got some weird kink I hope not

[Asker]

I dunno, I'm just wondering what he's getting at..

[Iron_Man]

Big red flag I don’t trust it no man does this, unless they’re into some weird kink. I hope you don’t like the friend.

[Asker]

O. o welp.. the last statement is kinda true.

[Iron_Man]

Both of you have big red flags

[Asker]

I'm crazy, all women are. Plus, he's just wanting make me happy ig, which is really bad I know.. fr.

[Luckycharms12]

First why are you flirting with his best friend

[Asker]

Cause he's pretty and he's the one who engaged it first?

[Luckycharms12]

If he jumped off cliff would you fellow

[Asker]

No. I would not.

[Luckycharms12]

Well then you are married shut that shit down otherwise going to be problematic down the line

[Asker]

My husband is an asshole, but his best friend is sweet.. yes, he has problems as well, I don't know. And it already has gone downhill once, we've all talked about it, and everyone seems fine with it.

[Luckycharms12]

Your life. Not going end well

[Asker]

No shit sherlock, I've dealt with this before. It didn't end well, obviously... I'm polygamous. My husband is not.

[Luckycharms12]

Call yourself whatever get married for a reason no wonder your husband is a so dick with your attitude talking to me alone. I'd have kicked out my house ages ago if I was him and you could be polygamous all you wanted.

[Asker]

Lmao okay.

[In_Trance]

Why don't you ask him why

[Asker]

I've asked him why but he just shrugs his shoulders.. it happened a week ago while his friend was over at our place and he didn't seemed bothered by it.

[KorvoWintrish]

Your husband is either naive or a cuckold.

[Asker]

True, red flag but eh who cares.

[riverrat3]

How far would you go with it,

[Asker]

@riverrat3 just subtle stuff, not too.. risky or anything like that.

[riverrat3]

Even if hubby said it was ok to go farther

[Asker]

I mean, if it was that, then I will still choose the subtle way.. I don't want to "get in trouble" with hubby.. he gets very jealous, very easily.

[riverrat3]

Ok, i thought maybe hubby had ideas or plans

[Asker]

But I still don't understand why he would do this.. his best friend was at our house a week ago and me and him were flirting a bit in front of him and he didn't say anything about it. Is it him wanting me to be happy or something? I'm slow with emotions and I don't know what to do most of the time..

[riverrat3]

Ask him how he feels about it