Flirting or sexting?

[SpeedRacer23]

Where do you feel like is the best place/way to meet people to flirt or sext? I have that urge but just want to be safe.

[_Maya_]

I would say not online. Never been into the whole sexting thing. An ex girlfriend from college was and I tried to entertain the idea but never could really get into it. I guess the best thing is if you met someone in person that you actually knew face to face. Never know if some kid is on the other end of that online flirt/sext. Since you mention safe I thought I would put that thought out there. Biggest problem is going to be finding someone that is into it I suppose. Don't know a lot of girls that are. Not saying there aren't any but don't know any myself.

[SpeedRacer23]

Excellent answer. I guess without face to face or without a picture it’s hard to know if someone is a safe bet or who they say they are. I also don’t know how to flirt super well so it’s also about practice. With that in mind, assuming your pic is of you, you are gorgeous. (Shamelessly flirting… sorry. 😂)

[_Maya_]

Yes that is me. You won't find my picture anywhere else on the internet. If you do please let me know lol. I do a weekly reverse image search because I have had them stolen before. The reason I make them 150x150 now so they are useless other than for pfp. But yeah best to actually know the person face to face so you know what you are getting and from who.

[SpeedRacer23]

lol I wouldn’t reverse image search you anyway. That definitely seems like an invasion of privacy. But if I did, I would let you know. That’s crazy that you’ve had to deal with that though. I wouldn’t know. I don’t consider myself beautiful haha

[_Maya_]

Someone stole a whole bunch from my insta a while back. Pics on vacation, family pics, and all that sorta stuff and then pretended to be me on other platforms. Horrible. I learned a lesson and now lock my social to just close friends and my family. Oh well.

[SpeedRacer23]

Ugh. That sucks. I’m so sorry. I’ll try to stop shamelessly flirting as you speak candidly. I’m not that much of a dick. Haha. But I’m sorry people are terrible. I try to be a less terrible human the more I encounter terrible ones.

[_Maya_]

It's no problem at all. People are idiots sometimes. Can't control what others do. Lol no worries about flirting. Good practice maybe? 😆

[SpeedRacer23]

Haha good practice indeed. I’ll have to keep scouring the world. I’ll try to find a “Maya” type to connect with. 😜

[_Maya_]

Just be aware that some Maya's are into girls and prob not the greatest flirting partners.

[SpeedRacer23]

Yes. I’d be a fool to pretend that when you wrote “ex girlfriend” my brain didn’t automatically tell me you would be pan or bi. I’ll be the first to admit that my brain is hardwired a little oddly haha

[_Maya_]

Bi indeed.

[SpeedRacer23]

Ah. Well… that’s arguably good news to the guy talking to the beautiful girl. Even if only in a strictly platonic way

[_Maya_]

I date the person and not what they got between their legs. Last ex was a guy... currently dating a girl. Just sorta whatever I connect with if that makes sense.

[SpeedRacer23]

It makes a lot of sense. I think I fall into the trap sometimes of viewing myself in hetero-centric terms or in apologizing for who I am. Like I’ve exclusively dated girls but in terms of sexuality/attraction I’m a lot more flexible. It makes me wonder sometimes if that attraction could segue into an actual relationship/dating and it’s just hard to break out of that mold. I wonder how many other people are like me, though. Where sexual attraction doesn’t always equate to the desire to date. I’d say more but this is still a comment thread and not a DM. Haha

[_Maya_]

Sounds like you are bi curious at the very least. Not uncommon to at least wonder. Whole other thing to actually do it. Common misconception that once you have had sex with the same sex that means you are bi. A lot do it and go eh not for me and didn't like it. Just means they were curious, tried it and that was it.

[SpeedRacer23]

Yeah, I think definitely a healthy dose of bicuriosity. There are certain things I enjoy with a cute girl like holding hands or cuddling or kissing that I don’t enjoy with a guy. But from a purely sexual viewpoint at times it’s almost 50:50. I was dating one girl and we talked about a 3way for a long time with another guy. This is probably TMI but you’re a good listener and seem open minded. But I was trying to satisfy both of those sexual urges at once. To penetrate and be penetrated. I feel like that’s the desire from guys I don’t get with girls is the ability to be vulnerable or be penetrated. Plus just the erogenous aspects associated with that. But I can’t say I’d ever want to go on a date with a guy or be in a relationship.

[_Maya_]

Sure sounds bi curious or bisexual. Nothing wrong with it. I am my current girlfriend's first girl relationship or even doing anything with a girl intimately. It was a bit of a gamble because sometimes a person thinks they want it but then finds out not really. I lucked out and we have been in a good relationship now for a little while. Nothing wrong with exploring to see what you do and don't like.

[SpeedRacer23]

Happy for You. :)

[SueShe]

I would recommend you refrain from that kind of activity because, let's face it, it does not bring you and your potential target person any further.

We all know what the ultimate goal of sexting or flirting is, right? The definition of flirting is:

"a sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person".

Now, knowing that fact, you might as well join one of those hundreds of so called "social media", porn sites or dating sites where that kind of activity is ruling that site. One is very well aware that those sites solely exist for the purpose of attempting to find a person to copulate with or to fornicate.

Have you ever considered joining those sites to satisfy your urge?

[AVirgoMan]

Someone you see in daily life, like, and most importantly, trust, will be much more suitable. I think the internet environment is very confusing and unsafe. Men generally want to have sex without taking responsibility. Women generally want to love and have sex with their emotions.

[Lokiion]

I mean if you scared you could practice a little online (wouldn’t recommend) you should just go out and talk to people don’t even gotta be flirting for real just talking and paying attention to body language and tone of how they say stuff

[Anonymous]

Not here. Go to public places, park, shopping malls, bars etc. But don't waste your time here.

[In_Trance]

Not online