Guys, How do you know a guy friend likes you?

[Anonymous]

Except you are married? As in the girl is married but wondering if her guy friend has a crush on her?

[Anonymous]

If you have any doubt about it, your greatest obligation is to your spouse and your marriage. You should ask your guy friend about his feelings and, if he confirms that he does indeed have a romantic interest in you, then you should tell him that you are married, you intend to remain faithful to your husband, and the only fair thing to do for everyone involved is for you to break all contact with your friend. . . because the most effective way of dealing with temptation is. . . to avoid it. . . to avoid it absolutely, 100%

And if you don't want to do that, then you need to have a candid conversation with your husband about your level of commitment to the marriage.

[Asker]

I’d like to say that I told my friend I was developing feelings and he said he thought our friendship was getting dangerous “for him too” so I took that as he may have felt similar. I said it was only fair to end it all and he didn’t want to. He wanted to stay in contact…

[Opinion Owner]

You were right because you wanted to honor your vows. I hope you have followed through on that.

[Asker]

That’s all fine and well but not everyone sees vows the same way. Just because I’m married doesn’t mean I HAVE to do anything. I hate that crazy construct society puts on us. We still talk but it hasn’t escalated past talking as friends and a little flirting.

[Opinion Owner]

And your husband knows about this and approves?

[Asker]

Kind of yes. He is annoyed but also knows I need to work through it.

[Opinion Owner]

So what's more important to you?

[Asker]

I don’t know but my friend doesn’t want to fully admit to me anything and it’s never going to happen between us. I will stay married and just try and get over him

[MrCommodore]

This is a tricky one, as he likely will try to hide if he likes a married girl. But subtle signs will still be there

[Asker]

As in? Help me out here 😊

[MrCommodore]

Obviously it depends on the guys personality. But if he likes you he will have a soft spot for you, always be nice to you and sometimes protective of you.

He might try not to be too obvious though, so sometimes he may be distant.

[Asker]

Would he ask her to help him? Trust her with something very important to him?

[MrCommodore]

Yes, he probably would seek help with something, as its a way to spend more time together

[Asker]

Thank you. 😊

[Asker]

Do you think he’d ever admit to it? What if she confronted him?

[MrCommodore]

He might admit it if confronted, but its an awkward situation

[Asker]

And probably awkward if she likes him back and admits it to him. 😬😬

[MrCommodore]

We can't always help who we fall in love with, sometimes two people accidentally fall in love and sometimes can't admit it due to circumstances.

[Asker]

😞 boy do I know

[ThrillSeeker01]

He just likes talking to you, staring at you.

[NathanDavis]

she told me so...